Just Found Out Al Parker Was Actually Bisexual; don't know how to feel

[Silver Quaith]

Your friend is a complete fluid / pansexual... things that I really couldn't believe or understand... but over time I learned that lucky for them, they really ENJOY being with whatever they can fuck... and I say lucky cause they've got double the chances of scoring.

Being sexually fluid can be a blessing, if your romantic attraction is mostly fixed on one of the genders. If your romantic feelings are also fluid, it can be a nightmare, at least, imo.
I am very sexually fluid. I can have sex with both genders and those in between, but mostly date gay men, because they can make me the happiest.
A friend's main fuckbuddy is truly bisexual and he hasn't had a steady relationship for over a decade, fucking both men and women, and dating both alternately or even simultaneously.
Sorry, but that seems emotionally exhausting to me. I do understand it's their true nature, but I don't think I'd be happy if I were biromantic.

 

[Jeffer2580]

Being sexually fluid can be a blessing, if your romantic attraction is mostly fixed on one of the genders. If your romantic feelings are also fluid, it can be a nightmare, at least, imo.
I am very sexually fluid. I can have sex with both genders and those in between, but mostly date gay men, because they can make me the happiest.
A friend's main fuckbuddy is truly bisexual and he hasn't had a steady relationship for over a decade, fucking both men and women, and dating both alternately or even simultaneously.
Sorry, but that seems emotionally exhausting to me. I do understand it's their true nature, but I don't think I'd be happy if I were biromantic.

As someone who's biromantic, it's a breeze,your friend doesn't strike me as someone who has a problem unless he's dating them simulataneously without them knowing,now that's cheating,if not, maybe he just haven't found the right person yet. Heteroromantics bisexuals are the majority of bisexuals with biromantics bisexuals coming in second while homoromantics bisexuals are the rarest of bisexuals

 

[Silver Quaith]

As someone who's biromantic, it's a breeze,your friend doesn't strike me as someone who has a problem unless he's dating them simulataneously without them knowing,now that's cheating,if not, maybe he just haven't found the right person yet. Heteroromantics bisexuals are the majority of bisexuals with biromantics bisexuals coming in second while homoromantics bisexuals are the rarest of bisexuals

Hahaha
Yeah, it's kinda like a breeze, but I am very relationship-focused (unless someone has broken up with me• my inner slut emerges from the dungeons at this point), so that'd be terrible for me. I guess, if I were biromantic, I wouldn't be as such, but biromanticity scares the shiiit out o' me.
He doesn't let his partners know he's seeing other people, primarily because he knows the flings will last for just a little while. Unless he's dating bi women. Then, he's more honest.
I don't think that we, Kinsey 4's, are the least populous of all bis. I think biromantics are. My belief is that half of self-identifying Kinsey-3's are Kinsey-4's.
But Kinsey-2's are definitely the most populous.

 

[alpha_centauri]

I have a straight friend who will fuck anyone when he's even slightly drunk. He doesn't even care if people knew he fucked a guy. But he's still pursuing women for relationships. I don't know if it's bisexuality or not.

Your friend is bisexual. If he was really hetero/straight he wouldn't be having sex with men. Alcohol just removes peoples' inhibitions.

 

[alpha_centauri]

Atleast it's better than claiming to be gay and fucking women (which is trending nowadays in gay porn industry).
Al didn't fake his sexuality like Arpad miklos who claimed to be gay and had sex with woman on-camera to dismay of a large amount of his audience. Many gay porn stars are doing the same thing.

Arpad did that scene with the lady for attention because he thought it would boost his porn/escorting career and he also mutilated his cock for the same reason.

Eastern European porn star Franscois Sagat did a bisexual MMF 3 way in a berber/Arab themed porn when he was starting out.

 

[alpha_centauri]

So I discovered a very rare 1985 interview of Al Parker online, originally featured in the first issue of Torso. It's a lengthy interview, and within Al Parker sort of revealed his bisexuality. Here's roughly what I found.

1. When he was working at Playboy, he met many beautiful girls and was sexually interested in them, though he was in the meantime becoming more and more attracted to men. The only reason he apparently became not "turned on" by women was because they weren't centerfold candidate for Playboy.

2. He said he'd enjoying doing a straight porn, and wouldn't find it difficult because he enjoyed being with women and saw women sexually once in a while by having a threesome involving him, his male partner, and the woman; and that he find it enjoying to fuck a female. (He also auditioned for Playboy which certainly would involve having sex with a female model.)

Even though in the interview he said he came out as gay to his roommate and said he enjoyed being with a male. I'm not even getting into the fact that he had girlfriends before becoming a gay pornstar (because frankly, I think many gay men back then did have girlfriends).

I'm not biphobic or anything, and I certainly don't think less of him or think him less attractive because of this revelation. However, because I fantasized or idolized him as the rarest gold-star gay god who only had sex with men... well let's just say i won't see him that way anymore.
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Why is this so important to you? The obsession and underlying biphobia and homophobic BS some queens on this site have when they learn that *GASP* OMG my favorite porn guy or EX BF had sex with women and is not a gold star gay! He must be bisexual!

Al Parker was a super vapid porn star, stayed stoned all the time he was awake, was known to lie especially in interviews with porn magazines, was selling himself as an escort and fake image, and in the biography I read about him he said he thought he was bisexual as his first sexual experience was being raped by a man as a teen or young adult, had sex and date women as his family pressured him to and then discovered that he is gay. This is not uncommon. I have a gay friend who in the late 1970s and early 1980s when he was living with family and closeted and in denial did not want to be gay then-he dated and had sex with a super low number of women as he did not want to be gay, coming out as a black gay man was at the time in a major USA city seen by other black people as the worst thing a black man could do, and he said that he had to think about men the entire time to get hard, stay hard, and finish and sex with women just showed him how he is gay.

 

[HeroSignalCosplay]

Arpad did that scene with the lady for attention because he thought it would boost his porn/escorting career and he also mutilated his cock for the same reason.

Eastern European porn star Franscois Sagat did a bisexual MMF 3 way in a berber/Arab themed porn when he was starting out.

mutilated? what did he do to his dick?

 

[alpha_centauri]

Yeah but this is AL PARKER we’re talking about, who had been with men ever since he joined the biz and who well was basically a god when it came to having sex with men. I just couldn’t wrap my mind around it when I first discovered that. He was likely more into men than women but still.

Lol wut? You know people lead private lives and that porn is edited/scripted right? I found Drew/Al to be boring in porn he would have sex in the same positions in almost every single scene, and the obsession he had with plain plastic SKY DAWSON-there is a porn where he has sex with men all wearing masks of Sky Dawson's face was super weird. Why have them pretend to be someone that they obviously are not? Oh and in the sky dawson mask porn Al never has sex with the porn guy he obsessed over despite directing it...

Drew Okum/Al Parker was like Chad Douglas versatile or versatile/bottom when they had sex away from porn and escorting where they were billed as "tops". How do you think they got pozzed and died super early from AIDS? Yes tops can and do get pozzed but the vast majority of men who get pozzed are versatile or bottom.

 

[alpha_centauri]

mutilated? what did he do to his dick?

He got cut (circumcused) to boost his porn career or for attention when his cock was perfectly fine with no need for it to be done at all.

 

[jellyfishh]

However, because I fantasized or idolized him as the rarest gold-star gay god who only had sex with men...

Until I joined this site I didn't know 'gold-star gay' was even a thing. Now every time I see it it makes me cringe. It's so weird that never having sex with a woman is seen as an accomplishment and as a result you receive a 'gold star'. Is it a chronically online term? Like surely people in the real world aren't going round asking if you're a gold star gay.

 

[alpha_centauri]

Atleast it's better than claiming to be gay and fucking women (which is trending nowadays in gay porn industry).
Al didn't fake his sexuality like Arpad miklos who claimed to be gay and had sex with woman on-camera to dismay of a large amount of his audience. Many gay porn stars are doing the same thing.

I have read that Arpad was a bisexual Eastern European porn guy, who marketed himself as gay for his "brand" when he came to North America. But then here he says he is gay so does it matter?

Arpad Miklos Responds to His 'Straight-For-Pay' Haters - TheSword.com

I watch free amateur porn of men and women on Twitter. I like amateur porn people film not for a pay fans site but do so for free. I got bored with gay and hetero porn when the same 'stars' would just all go from one studio or website to the next. I like Czech bisexual porn as some can be hot 3 ways of all types, and super hot decadant orgies!

I think it is weird that those porn blokes and some guys on Twitter are obviously bisexual having sexual attraction to both men and women-includes trans"men" who are women and female biologically and genetically-yet insist that they are gay/homosexual...I take it to mean they are the exact opposite of bisexual men in gay/all male porn who like to pretend they are "straight" for their image, brand, escorting, denial, etc.

 

[alpha_centauri]

Until I joined this site I didn't know 'gold-star gay' was even a thing. Now every time I see it it makes me cringe. It's so weird that never having sex with a woman is seen as an accomplishment and as a result you receive a 'gold star'. Is it a chronically online term? Like surely people in the real world aren't going round asking if you're a gold star gay.

Exactly. In real life mostly nobody cares.

I have gay friends who have never had any sexual experience with women and they don't like the "ewwww you had sex with a woman before you were out?!" mentality that some gay men have.

 

[jellyfishh]

Exactly. In real life mostly nobody cares.

Good I hope so, not yet entered the dating scene... I guess i'm classed as a 'gold star gay' but it bothers me that i'm given some kind of title and placed upon some type of pedestal. It's like "well done here's your medal for never being with a woman" Comes across misogynistic, biphobic and honestly even homophobic. The idea that some gays have less value because they were exploring their sexuality.

 

[fireotter123]

I remember seeing Al Parker at the Woods, a gay resort in Guerneville,Ca. back in the mid 80's.

 

[HeroSignalCosplay]

Your friend is bisexual. If he was really hetero/straight he wouldn't be having sex with men. Alcohol just removes peoples' inhibitions.

Hoss Kado the porn star is the same way, sexually he identifies as Omnisexual men women he'll do anything to or with them in the bedroom but he says romantically he's strictly straight he can see himself having a future or any romantic relationship with women only. I dont get it, doesnt make sense to me but hey it doesnt have to, that his life and his truth lol

 

[HeroSignalCosplay]

He got cut (circumcused) to boost his porn career or for attention when his cock was perfectly fine with no need for it to be done at all.

wow being circumcised as an adult....just the thought makes me cringe but to do it for that reason cause Ive seen alot of his porn from when he started to when he was older his dick was always big and sexy including the loads he shot out of them

 

[Silver Quaith]

He got cut (circumcused) to boost his porn career or for attention when his cock was perfectly fine with no need for it to be done at all.

False.
He had surgery to reverse his infantile circumcision.

Lol wut? You know people lead private lives and that porn is edited/scripted right? I found Drew/Al to be boring in porn he would have sex in the same positions in almost every single scene, and the obsession he had with plain plastic SKY DAWSON-there is a porn where he has sex with men all wearing masks of Sky Dawson's face was super weird. Why have them pretend to be someone that they obviously are not? Oh and in the sky dawson mask porn Al never has sex with the porn guy he obsessed over despite directing it...

Drew Okum/Al Parker was like Chad Douglas versatile or versatile/bottom when they had sex away from porn and escorting where they were billed as "tops". How do you think they got pozzed and died super early from AIDS? Yes tops can and do get pozzed but the vast majority of men who get pozzed are versatile or bottom.

Oh, babe.
Al Parker died of chronic drug and alcohol abuse. Like most gay men who were labeled as AIDS deaths.
The supposed discrepancy between bottoms and tops does not make any sense. If Al Parker got it from bottoming, there was a top infected.

 

[alpha_centauri]

Good I hope so, not yet entered the dating scene... I guess i'm classed as a 'gold star gay' but it bothers me that i'm given some kind of title and placed upon some type of pedestal. It's like "well done here's your medal for never being with a woman" Comes across misogynistic, biphobic and honestly even homophobic. The idea that some gays have less value because they were exploring their sexuality.

It isn't seen as "exploring sexuality" by "gold stars" but it is more like some of the "gold stars" think that they are "better than" or "more gay" or "not ignorant" as gay men and women who before they knew they are gay,or were closeted and not out had sex with the opposite sex. The old soap opera queer as folk the USA edition had an episode about this and I did meet some gay men and even lesbian women in bars and online who would basically brag about being "gold star" as some really weird source of pride or an ego boost. I have a gay friend who is 70 and he has never had sex with any women and said "Most gay men who are my age and from my generation who I met or knew were extremely discreet, many married or forced themselves to have sex with women as this was expected of us..."

 

[alpha_centauri]

False.
He had surgery to reverse his infantile circumcision.

Oh, babe.
Al Parker died of chronic drug and alcohol abuse. Like most gay men who were labeled as AIDS deaths.
The supposed discrepancy between bottoms and tops does not make any sense. If Al Parker got it from bottoming, there was a top infected.

I was writing about how Arpad got cut.

Al Parker/Drew Okum died from HIV/AIDS. Were you even alive then? Most gay and bisexual men in porn and of that generation as well as other generations immediately after boomers like generation Jones born in the early 1960s to mid-late 1960s died from AIDS. HIV was around in the 1970s but thought to be a rare "cancer" or caused by amyl/poppers and cocaine. It wasn't until 1984 that the whole risk factor of HIV/AIDS infection was determined and even then it still kept changing. There was not even a test for HIV until 1985.

HIV takes 8-10 years in a person kill them if they are not medicated, stop meds completely by their choice, or the meds stop working, so the date of a death from AIDS can work back to the year of infection.

The use of alcohol and other hard and soft drugs did not help Drew/Al's immune system, and there are other factors as well such as if he skipped taking AZT, the meds stopped working as this did and still does happen, and kept having unsafe sex with other poz guys infecting each other with other strains of HIV, Hepatitis, etc. Keep in mind that almost all of the men Parker was in porn with were either already HIV+ or living with AIDS, or became infected by other men they did porn with, saw as escorts, or hooked up with as most gay men were not using condoms and even well into the late 1980s and early/mid 1990s there was a lot of denial that still happens today with the false idea that "If a guy is muscular, healthy, has a job and wants to date and is sexy and nice there is no way he could have HIV or anything else."

Actual medical professionals completely disagree with your HIV/AIDS denialism. I never wrote that a top cannot get pozzed by a bottom it does happen and can happen however bottoms for anal sex have the most risk.

Odds of Getting HIV From Anal Sex

Harfouch says the odds of transmitting HIV this way are between . 5 and 1.38 percent. The receptive (“bottom”) partner is 13 times more likely to get HIV than the insertive (“top”) partner, according to the Centers for Disease Control and Prevention (CDC).

 

[alpha_centauri]

I remember seeing Al Parker at the Woods, a gay resort in Guerneville,Ca. back in the mid 80's.

My bisexual friend met him sometime there in the early 1980s. No they didn't have sex. My friend was dating a guy or woman at the time, was very picky who he had sex with, was cautious/discreet/shy or intimidated around muscular fit men and "male models"/escorts. They knew mutual friends and just smoked pot and drank at a bar, talked, and swam together.