new fathers.... to cut or no?

I had one of each.
I'd never have it done again.
It's his body. He should make the choice.
Just like daddy is an ego trip, a vanity thing, not real.

 

I chose to leave my son intacted. I have lived life on both sides of the fence, so I know the difference between being cut and uncut. For me it was better being uncut. I have taught about hygene and about gently streching the foreskin. He is doing just fine. If it is something we needs or wants later in life I will fully support his decision.

 

choose to leave him just as he was born....i feel that it is completely unneeded and that we were not going to put a new born baby through such pain for no reason.....on a side not the Ped doctor came in and did his check up and asked if we were going to have it done and we said no...she looked at him while putting his diaper back on and said "today is your lucky day little boy" that told me that she didnt believe in it either!

 

i can see no reason, other than if there was some definite medical necessity or if you have serious religious beliefs, that you would perform ANY cosmetic surgery of any type on any child. just crazy.

 

I was cut as a child... But feel no need for my son to be cut. I will let him decide what he wants. There really is no reason to be cut these days...that being said I do prefer the look of cut.

 

Let him chose i say

 

Being uncut and in a long-term relationship I've discussed the issue with my g/f and despite how I feel about the issue (I've had a few instances where being uncut has been awkward with partners in the past and then the general societal feeling of wanting to be "normal.") and we've decided that we wouldn't get our son circumcised. The way that things are changing these days makes the pressure to do so, as was probably prevalent in the past, much less.

 

Kinda curious, but if you are uncut and feel that being cut would have advantages, to the point that you seem to have been advocating it for your son (saying "despite" how you feel about the issue), did you ever consider circumcision for yourself as an adult? If you did, what stopped you?

 

I did actually consider circumcision for a long time. My reasons for wanting to get it done were mostly for the aesthetic reasons and to look more "normal." Then when I had my first sexual experience and the negative reaction I received from the woman with whom I was sharing the experience I was more convinced then ever that I wanted to get it done. Then I met my current g/f and she's convinced me that its not something that (a) I need to do, (b) have the money to do, (c) have the time to spend not being able to be sexually intimate with her and (d) that in the end in reality I'm "normal" because I am intact. Its been a long process and I still think about it sometimes but I won't.

 

Yeah, was just wondering. On this particular subject, many people talk about being denied their preference, but it's typically people who are cut and wish they weren't.

 

My son's will be cut

 

Mine won't.

Why mess around with their body unless there's a medical problem and it's necessary?

 

My son is circumcised, as am I. I honestly never even considered or thought about not having him circumcised. I really think it is a personal decision that each parent has to make. I am not going to blast anyone for not circumcising their child.

 

Uncut and my Son was not cut when he was born.

 

I escaped this matter by having daughters.:smile:.
My daughter and son in law were given a great chance at being fair at all sides when she had triplets, 2 boys and a girl. When there are 2 boys the parents can have 1 each.:smile:.

 

Hoss, I've raised both sons and a daughter.
She ruled the house with an iron fist.
Having a daughter is no escape from anything.
I wouldn't have her any other way.

 

How much. Does it cost to get it done btw?

 

If I ever have children they won't be cut. I'm uncut and very thankful of it. My forskin gives me allot of pleasure. Plus the extremely small amount of medical benefit is unlikely to have any effect on them before they are old enough to choose.. So why not let them decide?

 

I'd say "cut" though it is very doubtful I'll be fathering any kids anytime soon.

 

Not sure but considering that it'll probably require AT LEAST local anesthetic probably in the $2000 or so range. Although, if I were to get it done they'd certainly have to put me under because being awake while that would be happening would probably be too much.

 

Ditto

 

Indeed uncut, why would someone want to do take away erogenous tissue?

 

I've thought about this a fair amount in the past, have discussed it with my girlfriend and am still undecided (though I'm leaning heavily toward uncut). My parents didn't have any reason to circumcise me so I wasn't at birth, however a few weeks later because of some urinary complications it was deemed necessary so here I am and I love my dick. But it seems incredibly self important to project my aesthetic preferences on someone else, so without any reason to do it or any reason not to my vote goes toward uncircumcised barring any extraordinary circumstances.

 

If he wants, it can be done when he's an adult if he decides to do it. It can't be undone though, so it's pretty barbaric to make that decision for him. It's one of a million mistakes my parents made.

 

My wife and I are expecting our first child, a son, in February. I've told her that if I ever had a son that he would be uncut. She hates the idea. However, she's first generation Italian and I've explained that Italians don't cut their sons. I proved it when we visited her cousin in Italy, who has four boys. One day he was bathing his youngest and his second-youngest was running around the house naked. I pointed it out later and said see, they don't cut their boys here.

Now that we're actually having a boy, I've put my foot down and said that he won't be cut. She wants him cut. I asked her to give me a plausible reason why. Her only response was, how it looks.

I'm cut. I believe that I was cut a bit too much and lost a lot of my sensitivity. I said that I would never do that to another person and that if my son ever decides he wants to be circumsized, that it would be his decision and I would support it.

Now I just need to read up on the hygiene part of it... not being uncut, I have no idea.

 

We have 2 sons and both were cut. The circumcision debate really hasn't hit here with much force in the Southern United States. I was there to supervise and comfort both of my boys during their circumcisions. Honestly, the blood draws from their heels to check for jaudice were WAY more tramatic for them. Neither of them expressed any significant discomfort and the procedure didn't take longer than 2 to 3 minutes max. While I do agree that it is largely an esthetic issue and not a necessary procedure by any means, it was important to my husband. It was less of a "I want them to look like me" issue and more of a wanting them to fit into the social norm of looking like the majority of other boys where we live and not giving them any reason to feel they looked different or would be harrassed because of it. Children can be very cruel to other children and in this day and age there are far more important things for a child to worry about than why do they look different in the boys locker room.

 

Kids will always find something to tease about, whether it's freckles or ears sticking out or glasses. What matters more is making sure knows how to react - probably not at all. They only keep it up if they can get a rise out of him. With the rates falling, he may only be in a marginal minority if he's in a minority at all. So he's going to look different, whichever way he is. But which would you rather have to answer - "They're different because their parents had part cut off their [euphemism]s, and we didn't"? Or "You're different because we had part cut off your [euphemism] and their parents didn't"? - and the followup "Why?"

 

The bottom line in my opinion is that it should solely be based on need. If there is a medical reason, and seldom do you know at birth, a parent should do what is right for their child and make the decision. Otherwise they should leave it alone and observe the development. Otherwise it is purely cosmetic surgery based on the parents preferences, not the child's.

 

Explain to her that most of the world don't practise cutting. I still can't understand why would she want him cut if she is Italian... They don't do it just like other EU states.