Penis dysmorphia/Small Penis Anxiety

[Mr.Louis]

I don't know how to prove to you that 7-8 inch dicks are not very rare. Id say about 1 out of 7 men is 7 inches that i see. and there is just no way that there are only 500,000 8 inch dicks on the planet. id say about 1 out of 20 guys i see has 8 inches. now, perhaps that is because larger men are more likely to show people their penis, i don't know. but i promise that 500,000 on the planet is an absurdly low estimate. i'm sure there are at least 5 million men in the usa alone

I understand your viewpoint and pessimism. The biggest cocks in porn are between 6.5 - 7.5 NBP, this includes 'big' and 'monster cock' porn and names. Not too many if any porn stars are beyond 7.5-8.5 NBP id say a good 15 - 20 MAYBE this includes DANNY D, Lexington Steele, Jack Napier, etc. all the biggest names you can think of. One last mention...John Holmes was 8 NBP and hes always regarded and mentioned as the biggest of all time so that should tell you how rare 8 inches actually is.

So if 7-8 nbp is rare even in porn i highly doubt its going to be more common in real life. I had a gay friend tell me outof 2000 cocks hes seen 100 were abv avg to big the rest were small to average, another person told me my cock was bigger than most guys hard when i was flaccid... and im 7" bp with a ~2" fatpad. so ~7NBP specifically is pretty rare even in porn as 90% of pornstars fall below that number believe it or not and if its that rare in porn its gotta be even rare in real life let me know what you think

 

[Greco-Roman]

Having watched a lot of amateur and professional porn from various genres, and as someone who’s interested in penis size, I don’t think 5.25” average is far off from the truth. Honestly, and this is just my opinion, it might be closer to 5”. Considering self reported measurements will likely be exaggerated.

I see so many dicks that look under a true, legit 6 inches. In porn, in reality, and Even on LPSG. Certainly without jamming a ruler into your fat pad and manipulating the angle. 6 inches is the most commonly claimed penis size because it’s considered normal or average. even though it’s probably bigger than average in reality. I think the Kinsey studies put this “average”out there.

 

[Greco-Roman]

Great post, I think penis dysmorphia is a real thing, and has been enhanced by social media and access to the internet. The unrealistic expectations in Porn in particular. Interestingly it isn’t exclusive to small men either, as men with average dicks seem to have this worry also. A legitimate form of body dysmorphia for sure.

That being said, reading the original post, 5” inches flaccid? That’s big by any standards. I have a hard time believing anyone within this size range (soft) would be penis shamed by others. Male or female. Even four inches flaccid is probably above average or slightly above average. Mandingo is probably around 4 inches flaccid. And he grows in and around 9” inches.

I get that people can get into toxic relationships and ex’s can be cruel and personal. But 5” flaccid and 7” erect? I’m not so sure. This is big to anyone. Even BPEL, Even a size queen might say your not the biggest she/he has had, but they aren’t going to call you small…

I get the feeling your either exaggerating your actual size, or you’ve just been very unlucky with potential partners, who are size obsessed. Or they have only been with bigger or above average dicks in there life. Which can happen, but is also on the rarer side i’d guess.

 

[Mr.Louis]

Having watched a lot of amateur and professional porn from various genres, and as someone who’s interested in penis size, I don’t think 5.25” average is far off from the truth. Honestly, and this is just my opinion, it might be closer to 5”. Considering self reported measurements will likely be exaggerated.

I see so many dicks that look under a true, legit 6 inches. In porn, in reality, and Even on LPSG. Certainly without jamming a ruler into your fat pad and manipulating the angle. 6 inches is the most commonly claimed penis size because it’s considered normal or average. even though it’s probably bigger than average in reality. I think the Kinsey studies put this “average”out there.

Yes the Kinsey study plus the lifestyles condoms survey I believe was self reported. A couple others come to mind but I think they were all self reported

 

[Mr.Louis]

Great post, I think penis dysmorphia is a real thing, and has been enhanced by social media and access to the internet. The unrealistic expectations in Porn in particular. Interestingly it isn’t exclusive to small men either, as men with average dicks seem to have this worry also. A legitimate form of body dysmorphia for sure.

That being said, reading the original post, 5” inches flaccid? That’s big by any standards. I have a hard time believing anyone within this size range (soft) would be penis shamed by others. Male or female. Even four inches flaccid is probably above average or slightly above average. Mandingo is probably around 4 inches flaccid. And he grows in and around 9” inches.

I get that people can get into toxic relationships and ex’s can be cruel and personal. But 5” flaccid and 7” erect? I’m not so sure. This is big to anyone. Even BPEL, Even a size queen might say your not the biggest she/he has had, but they aren’t going to call you small…

I didn't know Mandingo was 4" soft and this is obviously his hanging measurement so that would definitely make mine in the same ballpark

I get the feeling your either exaggerating your actual size, or you’ve just been very unlucky with potential partners, who are size obsessed. Or they have only been with bigger or above average dicks in there life. Which can happen, but is also on the rarer side i’d guess.

Thanks for your input Greco, I agree with most of your posts on the measured pornstars?? Thread and glad you took some time to comment on this thread.

When I posted this thread I didn't know when measuring flaccid your penis has to be perpendicular to ur body those dimensions I posted for my flaccid were 'hanging measurements' which I learned can add extra length, properly measured now my flaccid BP ranges from I wanna say bare minimum ~4.5 (Shrunken) ~6 (semi flaccid)

It is very possible the women I've hooked up with have had partners bigger which would make sense why'd one of them called me average while the others said the opposite and my fatpad is ~2" so it makes my dick look much smaller if I push my fatpad back my cocks looks way bigger so maybe if I just focus on losing my fatpad I'll start seeing it from a different perspective and feel better, so 7" BP might seem nice but not if your obese.

 

[Mr.Louis]

everybody seems to be saying that porn ruined so many men. it isn't just porn that does it. don't act like women don't talk about size and make actual decisions about men based solely on penis size. they do it A LOT, and the real life experiences are more impacting on men's minds than porn is.

You might have a point with this one. I do believe porn is damaging and should be avoided but women can be just as damaging with gossip and rumor all it takes is 1 girl to say you have a small dick and everyone else will think so as well damaging your psyche ??

 

[nolbaby]

Is your point of reference just shaved men in porn and only fans?

no it it is in person with my own eyeballs and i don't know why being shaved would have anything to do with it

 

[nolbaby]

Interesting real life note on this topic. I was speaking to a guy on Bumble last week, he said he was 9 inches so I had to politely say no. He says he hears this all the time when it comes to dating, so spends his time allowing himself to be used for sex.

In the actual real world, people aren’t actively searching for big willies for a relationship, it’s just an experience

Okay, sure. Most people aren't out specifically to meet a guy with a 9 inch penis. However, I never... not 1 time in my life... heard anyone telling their friends about how they weren't going to be able to keep dating a guy because his dick was 9 inches. People who had recently found out that the guy they were dating had 4 inches, though....

 

[nolbaby]

Yes the Kinsey study plus the lifestyles condoms survey I believe was self reported. A couple others come to mind but I think they were all self reported

it is amazing though, isn't it? when you say some of this stuff out loud, it seems like it should be so insignificant and avoidable. discussions of the difference between a 5 and 5.5 inch penis.... its half a fucking inch! where else is the human body scrutinized so severely over half an inch? even in the NBA, where height is the primary basis for drafting new players and which positions they play, they still round up to the next inch when they list height measurements.

 

[nolbaby]

then again, i've never heard a girl/woman talk about how great the sex was with some guy because of how tall he was

 

[nolbaby]

Your post is amazing and spot on!

Porn is so dangerous to watch unless you understand: IT ISN’T REAL. Not all men have 12 inch dicks, 8 pack abs, and not all women have XLDD’s, have a body like that, etc. Younger men, and women, who haven’t experienced a lot sexually, can really get very insecure and sensitive in regards to how they look, their body image, social interactions, etc. Totally dangerous.

I have a couple of friends who work in the porn industry. One is a sound guy (the stories he has are unreal…omg, some disgusting) and one is a still photographer and camera man. Do the guys have big dicks? yes and no. Most porn guys are blessed with a larger and thicker penis than average man. That’s why they are selected to do porn when they audition. That being said, they are also, by choice, able to accentuate the hardness with Trimix on set. It is a shot given directly into the penis. OUCH! Some overdo the dose by <.o1dl, which causes them to have a hardon for more than nine hours, and it’s very painful, apparently, to piss, poop, cum, etc. They claim it feels like it’s “literally gonna explode!”, and not in a good way. Add the correct augmenting camera lenses, lighting, makeup etc., ya got yourself a 8 inch dick that looks like a fire hydrant on the screens going into a tiny vagina with a beautiful woman in glam makeup screaming in pleasure and begging for your cum. Very dangerous for young men to think they aren’t good enough, or will never measure up. The advertisements for “make your dick 5 inches longer overnight!” makes me mental too. ummm, it don’t work folks.

Where do they sell that Trimix stuff?

 

[Greco-Roman]

Comparing a 7ft guy to a 7 inch penis doesn’t really work does it? A penis is much smaller. A half an inch to an inch makes quite a bit difference percentage wise, whether that’s length or girth. Certainly in comparison to height.

Rounding up is probably the reason why I think you are overestimating penis size in general really. One guy rounds his up from 5 to 6” inches, the next from 5.5 to 6.5 and the exaggerations go from there.

 

[nolbaby]

Yes I do think the averages are bigger than reported.

I don't think they are deliberately misreporting but I do wonder if some of them are actually NBP even though they are saying they are BP. In some of these studies the methodology isnt always clearly defined.

Another thing that has always stuck with me. I have read numerous anecdotes here of guys with supposedly average or above ( according to the studies) penises, NBP 5.5" to 6" saying that of all the guys they have been with they are always the smallest. A lot of them also self identity as small. NBP they are barely smaller than me.

My wife a virgin once said "your not that small" basically inferring im small but not that small basically. One girl suddenly became dis-interested in sex once she seen it. Certainly not indicators of being supposedly above average.

A lot of people repeat things they hear without considering that it may be untrue. Look at how many people are totally obsessed with climate change.

 

[nolbaby]

Comparing a 7ft guy to a 7 inch penis doesn’t really work does it? A penis is much smaller. A half an inch to an inch makes quite a bit difference percentage wise, whether that’s length or girth. Certainly in comparison to height.

Rounding up is probably the reason why I think you are overestimating penis size in general really. One guy rounds his up from 5 to 6” inches, the next from 5.5 to 6.5 and the exaggerations go from there.

yeah i get the % aspect. im just saying 1/2 an inch seems like such a minor thing that never bothers any other part of our lives this much. like, when you go to buy pants, you buy the waist with like a 34 or 36 or whatever. actually I guess some of my dress shirts have necks that are 17 1/2..... fuck it. never mind

 

[cherryboom66]

no it it is in person with my own eyeballs and i don't know why being shaved would have anything to do with it

Lots of men shave to make it look bigger.

 

[Greco-Roman]

yeah i get the % aspect. im just saying 1/2 an inch seems like such a minor thing that never bothers any other part of our lives this much. like, when you go to buy pants, you buy the waist with like a 34 or 36 or whatever. actually I guess some of my dress shirts have necks that are 17 1/2..... fuck it. never mind

Oh I get it’s picky but this is penis size we are talking about. Not comfort with regards to neck and waist sizes. Most men are obsessed by penis size, some women also, depending on there preferences.

If you care about accuracy and finding out the realities of penis size, then even a 1/4 of an inch means something.

Or we can just wing it and overestimate. Even things like saying Asian studies bring down the world average. The Asian continent is huge, and the people within it are not one “race” or necessarily closely related for that matter either. Or that something as broad as “Latino” is somehow considered a race.

The more accurate and standardised penis size studies get the more we”ll understand, but if I had to guess I’d say the average is closer to to 5.25” than 6” or over.

 

[Mr.Louis]

Oh I get it’s picky but this is penis size we are talking about. Not comfort with regards to neck and waist sizes. Most men are obsessed by penis size, some women also, depending on there preferences.

If you care about accuracy and finding out the realities of penis size, then even a 1/4 of an inch means something.

Or we can just wing it and overestimate. Even things like saying Asian studies bring down the world average. The Asian continent is huge, and the people within it are not one “race” or necessarily closely related for that matter either. Or that something as broad as “Latino” is somehow considered a race.

The more accurate and standardised penis size studies get the more we”ll understand, but if I had to guess I’d say the average is closer to to 5.25” than 6” or over.

What are your measurements if you don't mind me asking

 

[Mr.Louis]

Oh I get it’s picky but this is penis size we are talking about. Not comfort with regards to neck and waist sizes. Most men are obsessed by penis size, some women also, depending on there preferences.

If you care about accuracy and finding out the realities of penis size, then even a 1/4 of an inch means something.

Or we can just wing it and overestimate. Even things like saying Asian studies bring down the world average. The Asian continent is huge, and the people within it are not one “race” or necessarily closely related for that matter either. Or that something as broad as “Latino” is somehow considered a race.

The more accurate and standardised penis size studies get the more we”ll understand, but if I had to guess I’d say the average is closer to to 5.25” than 6” or over.

I agree with you that the avg can't be 6" + I've seen too many men in the locker rooms who were literally 1-3" soft so prolly 4-6" max, every once in a while you come acroos someone bigger but thats 'normal' butnthe majority ive seen have been avg or smaller. comments from girls about men they've slept with, gay guys say same thing that most of the dicks they see are average. Amateur porn videos online, etc... I think we just remember the bigger cocks we see (porn included) so therefore distorts our view and perception. I really like this information I'm receiving from this site and I love hearing people's opinions about what's average and what's big because I like hearing things from a different pov because my perception, reality, view of penis size has become extremely warped and i know it is which is why I came on this site and made this thread...I mean if most 'main stream and popular pornstars' and 'big cock' pornstars are between 6-8 and if im being honest most non popular or non mainstream porn has alot of average length and girth cocks it's just we only remember the biggest cocks from porn...so how on earth could the average be 6"+ if that's the beginning of big dick in porn? If pornstars (well known) are between 6-8 that means in the general public 3-5 NBP would be the average, 5-6 NBP Avg-abv 6-8 (big to huge) NBP are outliers there fore considered pornstars!! Am I making any sense here

 

[GFRS3Casting]

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[nolbaby]

Oh I get it’s picky but this is penis size we are talking about. Not comfort with regards to neck and waist sizes. Most men are obsessed by penis size, some women also, depending on there preferences.

If you care about accuracy and finding out the realities of penis size, then even a 1/4 of an inch means something.

Or we can just wing it and overestimate. Even things like saying Asian studies bring down the world average. The Asian continent is huge, and the people within it are not one “race” or necessarily closely related for that matter either. Or that something as broad as “Latino” is somehow considered a race.

The more accurate and standardised penis size studies get the more we”ll understand, but if I had to guess I’d say the average is closer to to 5.25” than 6” or over.

yes. world wide, that is probably true. people generally mate with their own race though, at least majority of the time. so the average penis size to someone living in Columbia is going to be much larger than the average penis size to someone living in Japan, because the former will have had almost all Columbian sexual partners, where the average penis size has been found to be over 7 inches, and the later will consider 5 inches to be an average penis, as they would have had mostly Oriental sexual partners, whose penises are found by most research to be under 5.5 inches in most cases.
my main point is that average can differ greatly depending on who your partners are. I would also think that someone who specifically only dates men who are 7 feet or taller has likely experienced an average penis size of well over 8 inches. And you know damn well what I meant by Latino. It is generally used to refer to people from Spanish-speaking countries from Mexico down through South America. I don't know if you live in the USA, but every time you apply for a job or fill out a tax or benefits form of any kind, it asks you to identify your race by selecting 1 option from Latino, Not White Latino, Native American, Black or African-American, or Asian. Everybody is able to fill out those forms without stopping everything to point out the technical flaws in the wording.
I think people consider themselves Asian on stuff like that if they are anywhere between Japan and Lebanon. I'm guilty of pointing out those wording flaws too though. I can never resist pointing out that white people from South Africa are technically African-Americans and it pokes a huge hole in their classification system.