Penis dysmorphia/Small Penis Anxiety

[Daddybulls]

I really feel everything you've posted here.
I went from reasonably size secure erect to size insecurity erect but have always hated my smallest cold shriveled flaccid size. I'd only be comfortable in a men's changing room if my cock had livened up a bit but there would always be the odd guy that made me feel inadequacy.
I admired the small guys that didn't care.
Maybe they were decent growers?

The "girl inches" thing. Especially these young women are too vocal with their size opinions and they're mostly lying about their boyfriend's size and other experiences. They just sound ignorant and trashy.

I don't know if any of my posts about embracing SPH and my Wife who indulged in fun with well hung guys with mostly myself watching were helpful or unhelpful.
The fact is that our advertising for well endowed men was a form of research.
We had to wade through so many replies with guys sending cock pics that were not showing size by photographing along side a ruler as requested. These guys were claiming nearly 8 inches and were clearly not. Some guys made excuses that they wanted to chat before sending any photos. They were just seeking a cheap thrill.

Eventually we'd get the guys who were happy to show exactly what they had and then some had to be rejected for other reasons.
If you had sent a picture of your cock with a ruler showing a good erect 7.
If my Woman had liked you. She might well have given you a go.

My Woman was perfectly entitled to not want guys that had under 6 inches as this was purely for her indulgence and pleasure. She wasn't being cruel to anyone. She just had her recreational preferences.
She'd enjoyed the occasional very average cock (ie about 5.5 inches in a few actual relationships.
Research shows a majority of women going for around 6 as a preference for long term relationships and about 6.3 as a one night stand. The women were given blue phallic objects and told to hold them and choose for both LTR and ONS criteria. Of course there would've been a few with different preferences but there it is. 6 is perfect for the majority of women.
The article with the blue phallic objects research can be found online.

6 inches is not small. 7 inches is reasonably big and a decent girth is more favoured.

We have got to prevent ourselves from being hurt and denigrated by ignorant remarks by clueless people that have gone and swallowed the big cock propaganda.

Hi man. I like to chat with smaller guys

 

[Ace1175]

I will talk to all guys big and small

 

[Hardybob]

Hello, I just thought I'd share a personal experience with some of y'all that maybe you can relate with or just comment on and be a helping hand, whichever one... I didn't realize it until recently but I have been suffering from SPA and Penis Dysmorphia for as long as I can remember and honestly it did not really start becoming an issue until recently where I've had a couple instances happen that really shook my identity. Before I continue id like to say I am 7" BP measured properly top side and 5in girth, however wider-thicker down along the base.... However I am a lil obese ATM so my NBP is actually 6" ATM. I've had about 5 sexual encounters with women... My first GF said it was a 'beautiful cock' and that it was 'huge' with strong emphasis 'you have nothing to worry about' ... Second girl said it was 'average' (but then again she was trashy white girl who had seen a lot of black dicks and when asked her if black men are bigger she said yes very emphatically, however she was kind enough to say that I should never let a girl convince me I'm small because I'm not...and that kinda hurt a lil bit because I asked her if it was big and she said 'no'. Third girl said you have nothing to worry about multiple times... Not to sound gay but I let a gay guy suck my dick to get an honest opinion from a gay guy and he complimented my cock like it was the last Cock on earth, calling it lovely, fat, perfect, ideal, etc u name whatever compliment you can think of for a Cock i was given it. And one more experience with a woman whose bf was much smaller and she was saying how it's big and she's gonna be sore tomorrow...yadadada... Anyhow all these experiences have been amazing for my confidence if that's what you want to say but for some reason even though so many people are telling me otherwise i still feel 'small' and no matter what i do, i cant convince my subconscious mind otherwise...it is locked into thinking i am not big and unfortunately i don't even think my mind considers me average...which brings me to my next point!!!!

Growing up I was teased a few times by friends in my flaccid state which looks tiny sometimes when it's really shriveled up I am a grower but don't get it twisted...I am 5in-5in+ x 4in+4in+ girth on avg NBP (but when shrunken like 4in NBP x 3.75-4in girth...BP flaccid i am easily 5 shrunken - 6-6+x4.5 on a nice relaxed flaccid. One guy saw it when I was drunk I would imagine it looked small and told everyone I was small (stuck with me). Another time at work my manager saw me in boxers and said it was small and told his son to come up to me and called me pencil dick. Those are actually the only instances I can recall...also my sister In law kept indirectly and directly talking and suggesting I have a small or tiny penis just being a bitch but I think that's just that I think she was being a bitch because her brother and her were going through some shit so I think she just wanted to take her anger out on me...

Ive been addicted to porn for almost 15 years now...and let me just say I am not gay but for some reason I always just wanted to watch the biggest of the biggest cocks in porn fuck women..
your Shane diesels, shorty Mac's, Ramon monster Cock, etc...etc... Now don't get it twisted I always favored johnny sins, Chris strokes,etc.. and I said God I wish I had a Cock like strokes or sins because wanting to have a Cock like Shane diesel just was not going to happen let alone thinking I would be anywhere near sins or strokes but as it turns out i have the same as exact dimensions or close enough to sins and strokes!? Come to find out after 10 years of watching porn and thinking they were twice my size ... Phewwww what a relief and serious eye opener right ?? I mean I looked up to these guys now I'm in the same ballpark?? Go figure... So anyway watching the biggest subconsciously you compare and feel inferior without a shadow of a doubt....

I purchased a dildo my exact dimensions and keep it beside me for self image reprogramming however it's hard to get over my flaccid state and the idea others might have about it because when it's really shriveled up it literally looks tiny.. I would hate for a woman to see me in visible pants only to see a small flaccid and think I'm small because God forbid they should know that penises grow exponentially and what looks small to tiny can grow up to 7 inches...anyway I don't like to wear anything other than jeans when leaving the house so people don't get the wrong idea... If I do decide to wear something that shows my dick print id prefer to wear a ring or something to keep blood flow pumping so it doesn't look to small (I don't actually do this but it's an idea)...
anyway when not wearing jeans or something I always notice women and men in general staring at my crotch area.. I have a very confident walk, aura and swagger about me and some can confuse that for arrogance or a big ego... Anyhow I noticed that when people especially women notice my not so large bulge it's almost like they lose interest or attraction for me no matter how cool I may appear... Don't get me wrong I've noticed a couple actually like what they saw and give me good signals but for the most part it's almost like cause I'm so confident they expect Mandingo in my pants and they get upset when that's not the case (at least till I get hard lol jk... But seriously being a grower fucken sucks sometimes and you can't explain to every woman that it's not small because well that would be awkward to walk up to a chick and say that. I am always worried people are judging my dick and I'm being rejected because they think I'm small because of their perception of my flaccid and thinking I must be 'small' ... I noticed a couple times I walk confidently pass multiple women and they have to inevitably stare at my dick like always and they go like 'yaaaaaa okkk' or smile it off like w.e... and if i decide to try to talk to these women i get like the worst treatment cause in their head they think im small and there's nothing i can do about it and it sucks...

Just to recap... I am 7" BP x 5 (wider-thicker at base) and ATM 6" NBP maybe a lil less due to being borderline obese. I literally have like 1.5-1.75 of fat if I push a ruler hard into pubic bone. And at the time of those stories I was probably more like 6" + NBP definitely was never legit 7" with no fat pad at all I was always at least somewhat above average to lil overweight my whole life but I'm making it a goal to lose every .1 inch of fat pad I can. This is my story and how I suffer from dysmorphia can anybody else relate or want to throw in their 2 cents? Also I would like to note that because of this fucked up perception I hav in my head I'm very anti social and avoid social situations like the plague and especially women...if someone brings up the word 'small' 'tiny' or 'average'. For instance.. or anything relating to penis size for that matter even if it is not relevant to penises at all I still get like panicky it's weird and people notice it and they automatically must assume I have a small penis which further aggravates everything... Let me know what you think and if there's anything I forgot to post I'll definitely post it tomorrow..

Very honest dude! hope you real you’re fine!

 

[CavernousWorm]

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Have serious Small penis Anxiety
Everytime i measure or look at it with ruler, i become stressed.

 

[nolbaby]

Im the same size and seem to be suffering from the same dilemma. I feel small and inadequate .The main difference is I don't think its just in my head. I have some serious doubts about thise size studies and what they say is average, above average, big etc. I seriously entertain the idea that 7" BP might just be scraping the bottom of the barrel of a average or even less. For instance when I was younger everyone of my friends were bigger. Two significantly bigger out of 5 friends. What are the chances unless what is thought to be average is way off.

Unfortunately I haven't had the pleasure of ever being complemented by a woman. Actually quite the opposite. Your experiences do make me feel a little better though. One of my experiences include having a girl suddenly become reluctant to have sex " coincidentally" right after seeing my penis. She was willing as hell right before this. While I have gotten numerous compliments here I can't be sure that its just my pics misrepresenting my size. However a few here have also said I am small and others said perfectly average. Who am supposed to believe?

The studies ARE misleading. They always say "the average penis is 5.2 inches" or whatever. That may be true, but they don't mention that men of Asian decent make up almost half of the world's population, and have smaller penises on average. Take them out of the study and make it only about blacks, whites, and latinos, and the average size probably jumps up to above 6 inches easily. Further more, the studies include all men. In reality though, this is misleading because about 1/2 of men only have sex with a couple or few women their entire lives. Men with bigger penises are much more sexually active. So, it is very possible that to a woman who fucks mostly black, white, and latino men, the average penis size she encounters is closer to 7 inches than 5.2

 

[Draconis71]

The studies ARE misleading. They always say "the average penis is 5.2 inches" or whatever. That may be true, but they don't mention that men of Asian decent make up almost half of the world's population, and have smaller penises on average. Take them out of the study and make it only about blacks, whites, and latinos, and the average size probably jumps up to above 6 inches easily. Further more, the studies include all men. In reality though, this is misleading because about 1/2 of men only have sex with a couple or few women their entire lives. Men with bigger penises are much more sexually active. So, it is very possible that to a woman who fucks mostly black, white, and latino men, the average penis size she encounters is closer to 7 inches than 5.2

Watching porn, I'd guess the avg pornstar is probably about 6-6.5 not 7... and generally bigger than the avg civvy.. calcSD - Penis Size Percentile Calculator seems to have more detailed info.

 

[cherryboom66]

Society as a whole, and especially porn, has ruined so many men for life. The entire foundation for this sites creation was the big willy for crying out loud.

Always remember, real life isn’t porn. Life is more than your willy. Obsess over capitalism instead.

Finally, actually think about whether someone could actually have sex with a big willy every single day, multiple times. I know I couldn’t. But then this leads to the paradox of huge willied men not being able to maintain relationships yet being looked up to and revered, just for their willies. In the end, no one wins anyway and this is just a meaningless rant about nothing from me.

 

[Mr.Louis]

Society as a whole, and especially porn, has ruined so many men for life. The entire foundation for this sites creation was the big willy for crying out loud.

Always remember, real life isn’t porn. Life is more than your willy. Obsess over capitalism instead.

Finally, actually think about whether someone could actually have sex with a big willy every single day, multiple times. I know I couldn’t. But then this leads to the paradox of huge willied men not being able to maintain relationships yet being looked up to and revered, just for their willies. In the end, no one wins anyway and this is just a meaningless rant about nothing from me.

I actually think about that occasionally and it makes sense everyone has their own preference

 

[Ace1175]

Society as a whole, and especially porn, has ruined so many men for life. The entire foundation for this sites creation was the big willy for crying out loud.

Always remember, real life isn’t porn. Life is more than your willy. Obsess over capitalism instead.

Finally, actually think about whether someone could actually have sex with a big willy every single day, multiple times. I know I couldn’t. But then this leads to the paradox of huge willied men not being able to maintain relationships yet being looked up to and revered, just for their willies. In the end, no one wins anyway and this is just a meaningless rant about nothing from me.

I agree

 

[Mr.Louis]

The studies ARE misleading. They always say "the average penis is 5.2 inches" or whatever. That may be true, but they don't mention that men of Asian decent make up almost half of the world's population, and have smaller penises on average. Take them out of the study and make it only about blacks, whites, and latinos, and the average size probably jumps up to above 6 inches easily. Further more, the studies include all men. In reality though, this is misleading because about 1/2 of men only have sex with a couple or few women their entire lives. Men with bigger penises are much more sexually active. So, it is very possible that to a woman who fucks mostly black, white, and latino men, the average penis size she encounters is closer to 7 inches than 5.2

7" BP accounts for ~50 million men on the planet (that's taking all non asian studies into account as well, as well as including self-reported studies which is considered cheating.) 8" BP accounts for ~500,000 men on the planet roughly and there are close to 3 billion adult men so thats less than 1! The chances everyone you know or come across is slim to none, and these sizes are scattered throughout the world. 7" is rare even in porn.

I have spoken to millions of people about the average size of all races and the average is always in the same ballpark with 7" always being a minority for all races. I have plenty of knowledge and experience from others stories to know that the average really is 4-6.

 

[nolbaby]

Society as a whole, and especially porn, has ruined so many men for life. The entire foundation for this sites creation was the big willy for crying out loud.

Always remember, real life isn’t porn. Life is more than your willy. Obsess over capitalism instead.

Finally, actually think about whether someone could actually have sex with a big willy every single day, multiple times. I know I couldn’t. But then this leads to the paradox of huge willied men not being able to maintain relationships yet being looked up to and revered, just for their willies. In the end, no one wins anyway and this is just a meaningless rant about nothing from me.

I'm already a capitalism fanatic. It has very little to do with my sexual conscience.

 

[cherryboom66]

I'm already a capitalism fanatic. It has very little to do with my sexual conscience.

Ha! I meant obsess instead over how awful capitalism is.

 

[nolbaby]

7" BP accounts for ~50 million men on the planet (that's taking all non asian studies into account as well, as well as including self-reported studies which is considered cheating.) 8" BP accounts for ~500,000 men on the planet roughly and there are close to 3 billion adult men so thats less than 1! The chances everyone you know or come across is slim to none, and these sizes are scattered throughout the world. 7" is rare even in porn.

I have spoken to millions of people about the average size of all races and the average is always in the same ballpark with 7" always being a minority for all races. I have plenty of knowledge and experience from others stories to know that the average really is 4-6.

I don't know how to prove to you that 7-8 inch dicks are not very rare. Id say about 1 out of 7 men is 7 inches that i see. and there is just no way that there are only 500,000 8 inch dicks on the planet. id say about 1 out of 20 guys i see has 8 inches. now, perhaps that is because larger men are more likely to show people their penis, i don't know. but i promise that 500,000 on the planet is an absurdly low estimate. i'm sure there are at least 5 million men in the usa alone

 

[cherryboom66]

I don't know how to prove to you that 7-8 inch dicks are not very rare. Id say about 1 out of 7 men is 7 inches that i see. and there is just no way that there are only 500,000 8 inch dicks on the planet. id say about 1 out of 20 guys i see has 8 inches. now, perhaps that is because larger men are more likely to show people their penis, i don't know. but i promise that 500,000 on the planet is an absurdly low estimate. i'm sure there are at least 5 million men in the usa alone

Is your point of reference just shaved men in porn and only fans?

 

[nolbaby]

Ha! I meant obsess instead over how awful capitalism is.

I can tell that you don't live in a communist country because nobody who does ever says that lol

 

[cherryboom66]

I can tell that you don't live in a communist country because nobody who does ever says that lol

That’s a whole other story

 

[nolbaby]

Ha! I meant obsess instead over how awful capitalism is.

Go spend a couple weeks in North Korea or Venezuela, then come back and we'll have a nice debate about whether or not capitalism is awful.

 

[nolbaby]

everybody seems to be saying that porn ruined so many men. it isn't just porn that does it. don't act like women don't talk about size and make actual decisions about men based solely on penis size. they do it A LOT, and the real life experiences are more impacting on men's minds than porn is.

 

[cherryboom66]

Go spend a couple weeks in North Korea or Venezuela, then come back and we'll have a nice debate about whether or not capitalism is awful.

Capitalism IS awful, “communist” countries isn’t communism. Living on a commune and actually being equal, is communism.

 

[cherryboom66]

everybody seems to be saying that porn ruined so many men. it isn't just porn that does it. don't act like women don't talk about size and make actual decisions about men based solely on penis size. they do it A LOT, and the real life experiences are more impacting on men's minds than porn is.

Interesting real life note on this topic. I was speaking to a guy on Bumble last week, he said he was 9 inches so I had to politely say no. He says he hears this all the time when it comes to dating, so spends his time allowing himself to be used for sex.

In the actual real world, people aren’t actively searching for big willies for a relationship, it’s just an experience.