Straight guy roped in to boy drama

[alexsopim]

However, man, I read about people in this thread and others saying you're selfish, self-involved, or even an asshole. I don’t think you’re any of that. Those who say stuff like that probably don’t get what it’s like to be obsessed with someone who also teases you. So, I suggest you don’t pay attention to them because their only goal is to judge you and lecture you.

To me, you’re just someone who’s struggling and can’t handle the situation. When feelings are involved, it’s never easy. I really hope you take my advice and listen to anyone who’s told you to cut that guy out of your life for good. If you care about yourself, you know it’s the right choice. Whatever you decide, I wish you the best.

 

[MastiffNutz]

Question: Why are we keep saying he’s Straight? He likes dick (big ones), which means he’s attracted to a male body part and obviously someone born male. That is not straight.

You sound young (and you probably have a shlong that's why he can't keep his hands off it)

He must like to get fucked, so if you fuck him good enough, and afterwards show affection while being straight up with him, your best friend might become you boyfriend. Or you might find out he’s really not ready to be with someone who looks like you (a dude). Only if you're still interested in taking the next step with him to see if there's something there to hold on to. He might be scared to take that big step, even though going from being with a trans to a male isn't a really big step for me. But that's just my opinion.

 

[MastiffNutz]

Also, your obsession is unhealthy. You shouldn't be fixated on anyone or anything. Meditation and therapy can help.

Obsession is a major turn off for me. I don't want anyone to be excessively fixated on me (I have experienced). I would rather they just be in love with me. Trust me, it's a difference.

 

[alexsopim]

Question: Why are we keep saying he’s Straight? He likes dick (big ones), which means he’s attracted to a male body part and obviously someone born male. That is not straight.

I suggest you learn more about the difference between sexual orientation and fetish. Being attracted to women with penises is a fetish. That's a reality. There are plenty of men who, despite this fetish, would never do anything with another man. And like I said, these men are definitely less straight than some guys, but not enough to be considered bi.
I'll say it again: it’s the attraction to the 'whole' set of traits that matters in sexual orientation. As hard as it might be to grasp, just the penis alone isn't enough. So, should we consider all those straight guys who like being fucked with a strap-on by their girlfriend as bisexual?

 

[alexsopim]

Also, your obsession is unhealthy. You shouldn't be fixated on anyone or anything. Meditation and therapy can help.

Obsession is a major turn off for me. I don't want anyone to be excessively fixated on me (I have experienced). I would rather they just be in love with me. Trust me, it's a difference.

About the fact that his obsession isn’t healthy, I totally agree with you. But we also have to try to see things from his perspective. His friend kept teasing him, probably knowing he’s bisexual, so it’s pretty clear that for someone who has feelings, it’s torture.

 

[MastiffNutz]

I suggest you learn more about the difference between sexual orientation and fetish. Being attracted to women with penises is a fetish. That's a reality.

My Reply: So if I have a fetish of being fucked hardcore in the ass by a muscular man, but I love being with a woman, you wouldn't call that bisexual? But since this man changed his identity into a trans it makes it less bi and more straight?

alexsopim: should we consider all those straight guys who like being fucked with a strap-on by their girlfriend as bisexual?

My Reply: A strap-on is a sex toy, and I believe toys can define your sexual orientation. A Straight guy being fucked by their girlfriend (assuming the girlfriend is a female) with this sex toy is a fetish. It doesn't make them bisexual because he's not doing anything with male.

 

[MastiffNutz]

I suggest you learn more about the difference between sexual orientation and fetish.

Being into transgender women who haven't had bottom surgery isn't a fetish; it's just part of someone's sexual orientation. Fetishes usually involve a specific activity or object that's needed for sexual arousal, but being attracted to trans individuals is more about a deeper emotional and romantic connection that includes their gender identity. Just my opinion.

 

[MastiffNutz]

About the fact that his obsession isn’t healthy, I totally agree with you. But we also have to try to see things from his perspective. His friend kept teasing him, probably knowing he’s bisexual, so it’s pretty clear that for someone who has feelings, it’s torture.

I get it, but how's his friend supposed to know how deep his feelings are if he never actually told him? It seems like the writer is assuming that his best friend knows how he feels, but he never actually told him. When his best friend was touching his dick, he should have stopped him and told him how deep his feelings are for him. He should have said, "You have to stop if you don’t really like me in this way. Please don't tease me, because I really want to be more than friends." Or shove his dick in his mouth and say “You better stop playing with me, bitch!” - I’m just joking on the last sentence

 

[alexsopim]

Being into transgender women who haven't had bottom surgery isn't a fetish; it's just part of someone's sexual orientation. Fetishes usually involve a specific activity or object that's needed for sexual arousal, but being attracted to trans individuals is more about a deeper emotional and romantic connection that includes their gender identity. Just my opinion.

Actually fetishes can include sexual attraction to both objects and body parts. For example, some people might be into specific materials like leather or latex, or have a thing for certain physical features, like feet.
In this case penis.

 

[alexsopim]

I get it, but how's his friend supposed to know how deep his feelings are if he never actually told him? It seems like the writer is assuming that his best friend knows how he feels, but he never actually told him. When his best friend was touching his dick, he should have stopped him and told him how deep his feelings are for him. He should have said, "You have to stop if you don’t really like me in this way. Please don't tease me, because I really want to be more than friends." Or shove his dick in his mouth and say “You better stop playing with me, bitch!” - I’m just joking on the last sentence

I actually suggested he either be upfront with his friend and confess his feelings, then distance himself, or just cut him off completely without saying anything. He should remember that his well-being comes first.

 

[FrankieGuile]

Also, your obsession is unhealthy. You shouldn't be fixated on anyone or anything. Meditation and therapy can help.

Obsession is a major turn off for me. I don't want anyone to be excessively fixated on me (I have experienced). I would rather they just be in love with me. Trust me, it's a difference.

Sound advice.

 

[MastiffNutz]

Actually fetishes can include sexual attraction to both objects and body parts. For example, some people might be into specific materials like leather or latex, or have a thing for certain physical features, like feet.
In this case penis.

When a baby is born, whether they have a penis or a vagina determines their sex, not their feet.

 

[alexsopim]

My Reply: So if I have a fetish of being fucked hardcore in the ass by a muscular man, but I love being with a woman, you wouldn't call that bisexual? But since this man changed his identity into a trans it makes it less bi and more straight?

alexsopim: should we consider all those straight guys who like being fucked with a strap-on by their girlfriend as bisexual?

My Reply: A strap-on is a sex toy, and I believe toys can define your sexual orientation. A Straight guy being fucked by their girlfriend (assuming the girlfriend is a female) with this sex toy is a fetish. It doesn't make them bisexual because he's not doing anything with male.

I get it, but how's his friend supposed to know how deep his feelings are if he never actually told him? It seems like the writer is assuming that his best friend knows how he feels, but he never actually told him. When his best friend was touching his dick, he should have stopped him and told him how deep his feelings are for him. He should have said, "You have to stop if you don’t really like me in this way. Please don't tease me, because I really want to be more than friends." Or shove his dick in his mouth and say “You better stop playing with me, bitch!” - I’m just joking on the last sentence

Look, it’s true—I didn’t make this up. Fetishes include being sexually attracted to certain body parts. Usually, these kinds of guys see the penis as a sex toy. Try talking to one of them; you’ll definitely find some in this forum, and they’ll tell you what they think.

 

[FrankieGuile]

Question: Why are we keep saying he’s Straight? He likes dick (big ones), which means he’s attracted to a male body part and obviously someone born male. That is not straight.

You sound young (and you probably have a shlong that's why he can't keep his hands off it)

He must like to get fucked, so if you fuck him good enough, and afterwards show affection while being straight up with him, your best friend might become you boyfriend. Or you might find out he’s really not ready to be with someone who looks like you (a dude). Only if you're still interested in taking the next step with him to see if there's something there to hold on to. He might be scared to take that big step, even though going from being with a trans to a male isn't a really big step for me. But that's just my opinion.

It is my guess he persists in saying he is "straight" because some (not all) gay men fetishize conquering a "straight" man and hope to enjoy the bragging rights as a reputational enhancement; i.e., somehow they were "hot" enough to turn a straight man to homosexuality. Of course, it is fiction, but a compelling, irresistibly titillating fiction.

 

[alexsopim]

When a baby is born, whether they have a penis or a vagina determines their sex, not their feet.

If you say that, then you just don't get it.

 

[MastiffNutz]

Straight guys don't have pussy fetishes; they are just straight. Just like Super Straight isn’t a thing lmao. Straight is Straight!

 

[alexsopim]

It is my guess he persists in saying he is "straight" because some (not all) gay men fetishize conquering a "straight" man and hope to enjoy the bragging rights as a reputational enhancement; i.e., somehow they were "hot" enough to turn a straight man to homosexuality. Of course, it is fiction, but a compelling, irresistibly titillating fiction.

Well, of course, you never miss a chance to throw out your bullshits.

 

[MastiffNutz]

Look, it’s true—I didn’t make this up. Fetishes include being sexually attracted to specific body parts. Usually, these kinds of guys see the penis as a sex toy. Try talking to one of them; you’ll find some in this forum, and they’ll tell you what they think.

In that case, they should be with a woman who will use a strap-on. His friend is actually with someone with a real penis, though, but I totally understand. I just think mislabeling yourself is mentally unhealthy. Of course, this is open to debate.

 

[alexsopim]

Straight guys don't have pussy fetishes; they are just straight. Just like Super Straight isn’t a thing lmao. Straight is Straight!

Sexuality is much more complex than you think. As I mentioned, the fact that a man is attracted to a trans woman certainly makes him less straight than any ordinary straight man, but it’s not enough to label him as bisexual, because he would never let a man touch him.Everything I say comes from listening these individuals, even though I am bisexual too. If we want to find a label for these people, we can, but honestly, nothing comes to mind. What I can say is that, in my opinion, they definitely shouldn’t be considered bisexual.

 

[MastiffNutz]

If your decision to be with me is based solely on your fetish, then you shouldn’t be with me.