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Straight guy roped in to boy drama
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Alright, so we need to come up with a new label
. I’d say no to pansexual because pansexuals are attracted to men too. Heteroflexible doesn’t fit either, since a heteroflexible guy is basically a kind of bisexual who might occasionally be attracted to a man but is still mostly into women. If you have any ideas, let me know..if it was that easy but a little more context is that we are both black(African) and homosexuality activities does not bod well in our communities so the chances of us talking about that unspoken sexual tension (I THINK) we had (which I don’t really think it was one sided) is slim to none, like I said he’s also confusing, he went as far as squatting infront of my crotch, kissing me o. The cheek and other stuff but the moment I grab is ass he’s uncomfortable. I don’t know where he’s at and frankly I don’t care anymore, the only conclusion that I’m allowing myself to have is that he just made a mockery of of me and this was just big joke to him, cause forget me liking romantically for a sec, if he straight and he knows I’m bi, what would be the point of teasing me in that sense, I clearly could get the wrong idea, the only things seems cruel to me.I get it, but how's his friend supposed to know how deep his feelings are if he never actually told him? It seems like the writer is assuming that his best friend knows how he feels, but he never actually told him. When his best friend was touching his dick, he should have stopped him and told him how deep his feelings are for him. He should have said, "You have to stop if you don’t really like me in this way. Please don't tease me, because I really want to be more than friends." Or shove his dick in his mouth and say “You better stop playing with me, bitch!” - I’m just joking on the last sentence
Maybe he wants to but it’s still scared but again he 100% knows I swing for the other team as well due to my mistake of sending him twitter porn. The whole thing just left a bad taste in my mouth that’s why I’m letting him be with his girlfriend. I’ve also still been avoiding him like the plague and I’m stonewalling him (not ‘) still set to leave I the end of the year, it’s just to get over his little stunt, maybe I’m seeing it from the wrong angle but I refuse to speculate anything else to feed my delusion.
Would it be impossible for you to just let him go and never see him again?
Let him go, yes I’m currently trying to do that at the moment but never see him again, I can’t do that for several reasons;
1. We have been friends since hs, it’s a 12 year friendship
2. The principle of the matter, I wouldn’t like to be ghosted like this so I ca t do this to another even if I felt like he did me dirty
3. We have the same circle.
I definitely have shut him out but I don’t that I can never see him again, we’ve done so much for each other and I know he cares to a certain extent So I’m not quite at the stage where I never want to see him again but I def want some distance.
Tfk is that???
Did you really have to post it here? It has nothing to do with this thread.
Would you still opt to leave and never come back given these circumstances?
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Make sure to keep your distance and don't let him get physical with you. It's important to set clear boundaries, and if he crosses them, you need to let him know.
If you have the power to do it, then just do it. Your obsession won’t go away as long as you keep seeing him, and that’s why I’m saying that just trying to avoid him isn’t enough. Sure, all the things you mentioned don’t help, but like I said, your mental well-being comes first. If it takes a bit of healthy selfishness to move on, then so be it. I call it "healthy selfishness," but really it’s just self-love.
Honestly I think the obsession part might of dissipate, I no longer do the same things I would do in my prime obsession but I still feel some feelings towards.
I def wouldn’t be able to shut him out if I was still obsessed but I do get what your saying, it’s just hard sometimes cause I do feel a tad guilty especially when I see the look in his eyes sometimes but at the same time you reap what you sow and to me he still kinda deserved it.
The motive is what is also holding me back too, i keep think what if he did want to experiment and i just read it wrong, i would also relate to him a little more, this is why I have to go because if I don’t I’m going to be hung up on him for a long while.
You need to think about yourself, not your present self, but your future self—the one who won’t feel anything for his friend anymore. That’s why I’m asking you to make this effort; it will be hard at first, but the "healing" process will be quicker. I’ve shared my perspective. I believe that, at this point, he is no longer your friend, since your feelings go beyond simple friendship. Even if the obsession has passed, you still feel attraction for him. Only when you stop having these feelings will you perhaps be able to reassess your friendship. That said, the decision is entirely yours.
I'm a stickler for grammar and spelling so there is no charge for the correction. I'm also a stickler for clear thinking and straight talk. To that end, I made myself clear, but can you make yourself clear? Can you elaborate on the "ignorance" to which you refer and why it is "embarrassing." Your conclusion is not obvious because you have no rationale behind it. If you think it is self-evident, it is not. Your contention that I will "one day" open a book and learn something is simply presumptuous. I have read a great many books on a great many subjects and have learned a great many things from them. They may not be things to your liking but that does not logically mean I do not read and learn. That much should be obvious even to you. Finally, I sleep soundly every night -- so thank you for your concern, petulant though it may be.
What makes me laugh is that you dare to talk to me about presumption when it’s obvious that the only thing you clearly enjoy doing in this forum is creating discord, provoking people by twisting and misinterpreting their words, and trying to impose your ideas in an arrogant and obsessive way, without any respect for others' opinions. There are two possibilities: either this is a hobby for you, which would be quite sad, or you have issues to resolve. I would lean more towards the second option, given the obsessive and repetitive way you bring up certain narratives, even when they have nothing to do with the topic at hand.
You’re not a stickler for grammar or whatever; you’re simply someone who, when you have nothing to cling to, is willing to nitpick just to counterargue.
And you continue to rant rather than address my questions. I can only conclude you have no rational response but are just angry.
What questions are you referring to??? Do you wanna know why I called you ignorant?
Fine, I'll try to be clearer.
Clearly, yours IS ingnorance because you refuse to acknowledge the complexity of sexuality, despite years of studies and scientific evidence and this isn't just my opinion. But at this point, I would call it bigotry, as it's clear you're not open to receiving feedback from others.
Anyway, since you like to read things I never said, I’ve never talked about fluid sexuality
I said this "you never miss a chance to throw out your bullshit", because you said this "It is my guess he persists in saying he is "straight" because some (not all) gay men fetishize conquering a "straight".
It’s no secret that you keep this belief going in any context, even when it has nothing to do with the topic. In that case, we were talking about men attracted to trans women, and you couldn't help but claim that my goal was to fetishize straight men. We could start a thread discussing nature, and you would still find a way (and i say it again) to thow out your sensless bullshit . I genuinely wonder if you do this on purpose or if it's just an obsession of yours.
Read my previous post for my questions once you calm down. And, if you cannot calm down, then you can continue to shake your fist at the clouds. As for me, my well-considered statements and opinions remain unchanged, no matter that you take exception to them, and my questions remain unanswered.
This is from your previous post:
"can you make yourself clear? Can you elaborate on the "ignorance" to which you refer and why it is "embarrassing."
I think I have fully answered your question, and if that’s not the case, it simply means you’re not being clear or you didn’t read my answer, which is something I definitely expect from you.
But in the end, what are we really talking about? And if that's the case, as for you, your well-considered statements and opinions remain unchanged, so why do you ask me questions? It would make sense if you had an open mindset but obviously this isn’t the case.
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