I get it. Straight = no homo. It's striking how seeing the self as not the other, defining the self in opposition, is so important the straight male psyche.
Women don't do it. Nor do gay men. If you asked 100 gay men to say what gay means not one would come up with "does not engage in sexual activity or fall in love with members of the opposite sex". They'd say, 'I'm into men', 'I have sex with other men', 'I fall in love with men' or possibly 'I'm only attracted to men'. If they did define gay as "does not engage in sexual activity or fall in love with members of the opposite sex", it would be bizarre. You'd wonder a) why they were using pseudo-dictionary language and b) whether they had something against women to define their gayness primarily in terms of not wanting to have sex with them. Yes, you can say this is just their sexual preference, but when you express preference as its opposite, not what you are but what you are not, that raises a flag.
If you are exclusively straight or gay, then of course it follows that you don't have sex with the same/opposite sex, but that is the corollary rather than the meaning of the word. Straight still just means sexually attracted to the opposite sex.
It's interesting that you raise the analogy of vegetarian because again that is a concept defined in terms of what you don't do, what you are not. "A person who does not eat meat" (Merriam Webster).
Why is it so important for straight males to see themselves as not the other, defining the self in opposition? I don't know. Maybe some kind of heteronormative peer display, in reaction to homosexual threat, perhaps, hence it's such a feature of the Ask a Straight Man forum.
No straight doesn't equate to no homo thats your disingenuous way of trying to paint straight males into a corner. Straight is as much straight as homosexual is homosexual. Any attempt to change the meaning one means you have to..logically change the meaning of the other. As well as bisexuality, asexuality and any other. Straight men aren't and haven't been the ones trying desperately to change the definition of what straight is and means. No, once more that has consistently been gay, bisexual and curious men. Now when i say that i mean specifically on this site.
One week or so is all it takes for a gay, bisexual and/or curious man to ask straight men a question that flies in the face of what straight actually means. And i don't need to make up imaginary totals for that. The proof is and will be this very section. No straight is the meaning of the word. Unless of course you also want to change the meaning of corollary, meaning preference, opposite, sex important, psyche, follows, don't, analogy and etc. If you were also commenting on those words and their meanings or corollary you're comments would have some validity to them. Instead you are just picking one single solitary word and deciding you no longer think the meaning of it fits. Do so without an ounce of evidence or a logical statement to back it up.
Not to mention your insistence on speaking not only for all gay men but women too. The interesting part though is you keep implying that straight men are defending themselves therefor something must be wrong. Without ever addressing who straight men are defending themselves and who they are from. Namely guys like you. In your assessment not only aren't you doing any harm but you also should not take responsibility for your actions.
Which i might add could connect back with the topic. Is this just yet another case of people not wanting to take personal responsibility for their actions? People wanting to be able to have their cake and eat it to without question? I think so as that would mean that having sex with other men would put them in either a gay, bisexual or curious category. Something you and they want no parts of. And would like to do just about anything and everything to stay away from. Even going so far as to ignore logic, empathy and in general how much damage could or would be done.
That damage being the questioning of all sexualities to the extent that it hurts those who only want the respect a human being deserves. As in if straight can equate to.......no homo then homosexuality can equate to discrimination against heterosexual people. And the invalidation of the lbgt community at large. Not to mention open the flood gates for those who would like their actual perversions to be respected and injected into mainstream ideology.
It's not that straight people want to see themselves as not the other. That's just yet another disingenuous attempt at imparting suggestion. No. Just like homosexual people just are homosexual. Heterosexual people just are heterosexual. No matter how many sneaky ass words you toss at it and people who know the difference it will never really stick. And generally speaking it will only backfire on you over and over and over again.
Unless of course you really do want to allow it. At that point you just made gay and bisexual lives that much more difficult because actual homophobic people will pick up on it and use it against you and them. An at that point there wouldn't be a damned thing you could say about it.