Taking big cock advice

[lance-ryder]

Dude, go to therapy and stop fucking this kid. You deserve sex that feels good for you, this is literally the bare minimum and your play partner is not showing up whatsoever to make that happen. Not trying to be harsh, but this top sounds like the definition of bad sex:
-communication doesn't happen
-doesn't actually know you're in pain (or creates a safe space for you to tell him you are)
-isn't into stretching you out beforehand (wtf?)
-lube was questionable?!
-one person is wanting it to end before it does

The dom top in me screams at his inadequacy and childish bullshit, that kind of behavior is not fucking ok. Honestly can't imagine how fucked up of a person I'd be to continue fucking someone that's in pain and not comfortable communicating it, and then being immature and dismissal of how they're trying to improve the situation. Please tell this 19 year old how much he is fucking up in the process please for the sake of other bottoms.

The issue here seems entirely psychological (not physical), ain't no way my hole would open up for anyone like that

 

[FreddyWop]

Sure, for science

Omg can I see it too for science

 

[FreddyWop]

I'm a really huge guy, although most women I had sex with said that a cock that's too hard might be more difficult to handle than one that's massive, but more malleable. Most women decline when they see me, plus the fact that I'm also a gym-rat, which makes my frame intimidating (I guess they might think I could easily force a situation, you see). However, as I recall from when I was very young, and as my cock grew, it went to some phases, when it was harder when it was smaller. Now, it's firm, yet bendable, which is even safer for both me and the gal. Although only my last lady did allowed anal sex, also the only one that was able to take it all full in and the only one I could go on with a bit more strength and speed. But she was sadomasochistic, which sort of created a match between us both – at least for three years. And now, I'm spoiled! The next one I find, I'll have to make the foreplay worth the event and be careful and slow all again.

So in a way, I understand this 19-yo fellow, but he'll have to exercise patience, specially nowadays, when getting exposed is just so easy, and if he hurts someone badly, he might end up facing criminal charges for such idiotic impulses.

And a more direct advice, do not let submission lead the role of your physical/mental health so pointedly and take over priorities. Remember that there are some wounds that will never heal. Be aware of that. I have crossed paths with some people, who after they found out about my package, flipped 180 into some sort of frenzy that needed to see it, touch it and suck it, it was quite painful to witness, and thoroughly annoying, as if I owned something to them. Completely wacko strangers.

Oh wow may I pls see ur cock good sir for research

 

[LDNlocked]

Well……!
Did not expect to read a thread like this!!

Wow, amazing
Also, relatable

Firstly, no you are not being selfish, bratty or anything like that
From one subby bottom to another, I know we get fed those lines from Dom Tops but, let’s get real here
If it’s hurting this bad, if you’re wanting it to be over, you need to stop

I used to be a total sl*t, anal all over the place just to please countless different Men cause it felt so horny to make them happy
Gays, str8s, business man (in his office), married guys, family men etc
That ended after i got a ‘health scare’, shall we say

Haven’t been near a bloke for years & feel so much happier for it
(Not advocating for celibacy just saying)

Please, take care of yourself first & foremost
Sex is supposed to be enjoyed by both (or more than 2 lol)
Yes, we love to please our men & that’s hot AF BUT, you can’t be in pain willing it to end
That’s called “torture”, dear

Hopefully you’re feeling better by now? Seeing as I’m late to the party, as usual lol

 

[braalian4]

Hey community, I feel almost ungrateful posting this but I genuinely need advice from someone who's maybe been in my position.

Firstly I am not a virgin, I'm 32 and have been around the block for half that time. I especially pride myself on my ability to suck cock and deep throat and I really live to please my top.

However....

Last night I met up with a guy who I really like, we've been talking for some time. He's 19 for later context.
He mentioned a few times that he has a big dick and to be honest I assumed he was exaggerating, as most guys do.

Fast forward to later in the evening and we're at my place. I pull his pants down and begin to blow him. Before I know it, it feels like my throat is being ripped open and I barely make it 3/4 way down my throat. After multiple attempts I had to abandon the idea of going balls deep. Any further attempts could honestly lead to hospitalisation .

Then he gets super eager to fuck me and I think to myself, ok sure, no problem, I've played with bigger toys. Boy was I wrong.

It felt like I was taking cock for the very first time, and not in a good way. No matter how much I tried it hurt like a bitch, but I was determined to get him in. So against my own better judgement we just kept going till I had him inside me. To be honest I honestly can't so whether it felt good or bad. My body was rejecting him.

Then I kept praying that it will just be a few minutes then he'll finish and it will be over.

I was wrong.

That 19yr old mf just did not stop. He just kept going and going. Taking brief breaks, without pulling out, and then resumed the pounding. I honestly thought I might die.

Eventually after about an hour he finally came and I was so glad it was over.

We cuddled for a bit, but not even 20 minutes later he was rock hard again. I was under the impression that at least my hole has been warmed up to his size so it won't be an issue the second time.

Again....I was wrong.

It was like taking him for the first time all over again.

This went on about 3 more times till 4am. And by that point I was almost crying.

Now I'm sitting here, feeling like I've been tripled fisted in prison and he's so eager to make plans to see me again.

I don't know if I can go through that experience again. I'm all for a good time but apparently there is such a thing as too big.

The worst part is that all I ever wanted was to experience a big cock one day, thinking it will never happen, and now I realised how naive I was.

What should I do?

Honestly, it sounds like he was purposefully trying to make it hurt, like that’s what gets him off

The fact that he was hung contributed to it, of course, but I bet it was *how* he fucked more so than his size

I’ve been with tops like this. When they keep stopping to take make sure they don’t cum only to resume the jackhammer pounding for like an hour, that’s the hen you know you either gotta tap out or just wince and moan and take one for the team

I’ve definitely had sex where I had to tell the top to either finish and cum or we were done. No shame in that. You have the right to stop

 

[J49]

Hey community, I feel almost ungrateful posting this but I genuinely need advice from someone who's maybe been in my position.

Firstly I am not a virgin, I'm 32 and have been around the block for half that time. I especially pride myself on my ability to suck cock and deep throat and I really live to please my top.

However....

Last night I met up with a guy who I really like, we've been talking for some time. He's 19 for later context.
He mentioned a few times that he has a big dick and to be honest I assumed he was exaggerating, as most guys do.

Fast forward to later in the evening and we're at my place. I pull his pants down and begin to blow him. Before I know it, it feels like my throat is being ripped open and I barely make it 3/4 way down my throat. After multiple attempts I had to abandon the idea of going balls deep. Any further attempts could honestly lead to hospitalisation .

Then he gets super eager to fuck me and I think to myself, ok sure, no problem, I've played with bigger toys. Boy was I wrong.

It felt like I was taking cock for the very first time, and not in a good way. No matter how much I tried it hurt like a bitch, but I was determined to get him in. So against my own better judgement we just kept going till I had him inside me. To be honest I honestly can't so whether it felt good or bad. My body was rejecting him.

Then I kept praying that it will just be a few minutes then he'll finish and it will be over.

I was wrong.

That 19yr old mf just did not stop. He just kept going and going. Taking brief breaks, without pulling out, and then resumed the pounding. I honestly thought I might die.

Eventually after about an hour he finally came and I was so glad it was over.

We cuddled for a bit, but not even 20 minutes later he was rock hard again. I was under the impression that at least my hole has been warmed up to his size so it won't be an issue the second time.

Again....I was wrong.

It was like taking him for the first time all over again.

This went on about 3 more times till 4am. And by that point I was almost crying.

Now I'm sitting here, feeling like I've been tripled fisted in prison and he's so eager to make plans to see me again.

I don't know if I can go through that experience again. I'm all for a good time but apparently there is such a thing as too big.

The worst part is that all I ever wanted was to experience a big cock one day, thinking it will never happen, and now I realised how naive I was.

What should I do?

You only got one hole bro, you should treat it right and find others who do the same

 

[trojbi]

He sounds inexperienced both with using his large dick and reading his partners queues.

I’m pretty hung myself it sounds like I might be bigger than him actually. He shouldn’t be hurting you like that, like that isn’t the goal to injure your bottom cause then you can’t keep fucking lol. He needs to learn to be patient even if it’s frustrating.

Even if I say “I’m gonna destroy you” I don’t want it to actually hurt. He needs to learn the difference between intense (which is ideal) and painful (which is not). If he can’t tell then give him more direct feedback and if he doesn’t listen then don’t come back.

 

[cptviper]

Update: As stupid as I am, he wanted to see me again but I told him that I couldn't do anal again as I was still sore down there and he agreed, saying we can do other things. Later in the night he began asking for anal again and I said no, but eventually gave in, asking him to go slower. Overall it was better than the last time and we only had one fuck session. But I knew something was wrong. Skip a few days ahead and the area was still sensitive with uncomfortable BM. Shortly thereafter I started leaking pus from the area. So I realised I had developed an infection. Clearly my hole reached it's limit and something tore inside. I went a week with this infection but it did not clear up so I got antibiotics. Today is the last day of the course but the problem is persisting. So I'll most likely go see a doctor. As you can imagine the whole experience has put me off anal sex for the foreseeable future.

Sidenote: I keep telling him that he is too big for me, and he tells me other people take him no problem. So either my hole is smaller than most or he is gaslighting me.

 

[supersayian29]

Update: As stupid as I am, he wanted to see me again but I told him that I couldn't do anal again as I was still sore down there and he agreed, saying we can do other things. Later in the night he began asking for anal again and I said no, but eventually gave in, asking him to go slower. Overall it was better than the last time and we only had one fuck session. But I knew something was wrong. Skip a few days ahead and the area was still sensitive with uncomfortable BM. Shortly thereafter I started leaking pus from the area. So I realised I had developed an infection. Clearly my hole reached it's limit and something tore inside. I went a week with this infection but it did not clear up so I got antibiotics. Today is the last day of the course but the problem is persisting. So I'll most likely go see a doctor. As you can imagine the whole experience has put me off anal sex for the foreseeable future.

Sidenote: I keep telling him that he is too big for me, and he tells me other people take him no problem. So either my hole is smaller than most or he is gaslighting me.

Dude not gonna lie you shouldve stopped a long time ago with him. He doesnt care about you. Jusy easy ass sadly. Did u want to be in a relationship with him or it strictly just about fucking?

 

[thongboy]

He sounds inexperienced both with using his large dick and reading his partners queues.

I’m pretty hung myself it sounds like I might be bigger than him actually. He shouldn’t be hurting you like that, like that isn’t the goal to injure your bottom cause then you can’t keep fucking lol. He needs to learn to be patient even if it’s frustrating.

Even if I say “I’m gonna destroy you” I don’t want it to actually hurt. He needs to learn the difference between intense (which is ideal) and painful (which is not). If he can’t tell then give him more direct feedback and if he doesn’t listen then don’t come back.

Lesson one when you top: listen to your bottom

 

[enjoyn247]

So I had met this guy on the internet awhile back. He likes masculine white bottoms like myself and I like masculine black tops like him. We are the same age, he's well accomplished, handsome and decent. He recently contacted me again and my problem the first time around was that his dick was so big I never thought I could deal with it. He sent me pics and I was like whoa no way and he's a strong guy to boot so I was like I can't take it. I think he's a great guy, someone I wanna date and be with for real. But he's so big and I wanna do it bad but what would be some good tips to take it properly and make it great for him

 

[surver1]

Update: As stupid as I am, he wanted to see me again but I told him that I couldn't do anal again as I was still sore down there and he agreed, saying we can do other things. Later in the night he began asking for anal again and I said no, but eventually gave in, asking him to go slower. Overall it was better than the last time and we only had one fuck session. But I knew something was wrong. Skip a few days ahead and the area was still sensitive with uncomfortable BM. Shortly thereafter I started leaking pus from the area. So I realised I had developed an infection. Clearly my hole reached it's limit and something tore inside. I went a week with this infection but it did not clear up so I got antibiotics. Today is the last day of the course but the problem is persisting. So I'll most likely go see a doctor. As you can imagine the whole experience has put me off anal sex for the foreseeable future.

Sidenote: I keep telling him that he is too big for me, and he tells me other people take him no problem. So either my hole is smaller than most or he is gaslighting me.

have you tried using Poppers?

 

[supersayian29]

All i wanna know is this just for a fuck or u wanna be in a relationship with this guy? We need some details

 

[cptviper]

have you tried using Poppers?

I can't get poppers where I am.

 

[cptviper]

All i wanna know is this just for a fuck or u wanna be in a relationship with this guy? We need some details

It was supposed to be a hookup but now he calls me like everyday, so I don't know what it is. Personally I don't like him in a boyfriend way

 

[supersayian29]

It was supposed to be a hookup but now he calls me like everyday, so I don't know what it is. Personally I don't like him in a boyfriend way

Hmm. Well theres your anwser right there. You dnt like him in a boyfriend type of way and he doesnt care enough about u to change how he fucks you because you're in so much pain. Let him go. Theres better hookup dick out there whos gonna at least care enough to fuck you right.

 

[supersayian29]

It was supposed to be a hookup but now he calls me like everyday, so I don't know what it is. Personally I don't like him in a boyfriend way

As a side note how does he feel about u? Do yall have pillow talk after or just a dick and dash?

 

[cptviper]

As a side note how does he feel about u? Do yall have pillow talk after or just a dick and dash?

He's slept over a few times, even seeing me without sex. Because I told him no anal for a while and he still came over, so I don't know what we are. I think he's waiting for me to let him fuck me again, but as I said in a previous post I'm still healing. I'll probably give him one more chance and if I still can't get it to feel good then I'll have to cut ties.

 

[supersayian29]

He's slept over a few times, even seeing me without sex. Because I told him no anal for a while and he still came over, so I don't know what we are. I think he's waiting for me to let him fuck me again, but as I said in a previous post I'm still healing. I'll probably give him one more chance and if I still can't get it to feel good then I'll have to cut ties.

You gotta have that conversation with him before you let him inside you again. Hes gotta take it easy on you. Putting your body through that much pain is not worth it bro.

 

[supersayian29]

You gotta have that conversation with him before you let him inside you again. Hes gotta take it easy on you. Putting your body through that much pain is not worth it bro.

Please keep that in mind