The Male Ego

[D_Kitten_Kaboodle]

I am curious (as many know) and this is something I just don't understand.

Would love to hear a discussion on what men think about when they decide to "enhance the truth" about their penis size.

Online fun is all well and good and it really doesn't matter. But I am talking about some men who are obviously smaller than they claim.

Being "serious" about meeting up, they insist their cock is what they've reported. I'm not blind, nor am I THAT gullible. Many times I play along until they "finally" come clean about their size. (big SIGH) ...

WHY? What are the thoughts behind such an imagination? Is it all really just a game??

This has happened to me on several (!!!!) occasions... I'm just curious about how the male ego processes something like this~

Thoughts, gentlemen?

FP

PS. If you don't know me.. I have an open marriage. But I am sure there are other women here who meet guys and run into the same issues...

 

[D_VerizonHairless]

It has gotten pretty damn stupid. To the point that one girl a couple years ago told a friend of hers after (who then told me) that I had to have at least 8" in girth.

Really? 8 inches in girth? lol.


Honestly, I don't see the point in lying about it. If you lie, eventually someone will find out it's not really the truth. Some people on here lie and it makes no sense, most already have a great looking cock that is huge, but the competitive nature of our animalistic brains have people trying to one up over stupid stuff like cock size.

 

[Ekwhipt]

My guess it is a combo of a couple of things--the view down is not accurate, their are a number of different ways to measure that are not accurate, and their is a misconception about average size and the probability of having an enormous penis ( both of which are smaller then men think). So men think that when they look down at a misplaced ruler and see a larger number, they think that the number is probably right because it's what they think is likely normal, when in fact they are actually smaller and being the smaller size is actually more normal and more likely. When what they see on the ruler matches their perception of what is right and normal, the mind turns that into a fact that they sincerely believe is true. So it's not really lying, it's misperception. Make sense?

 

[D_Kitten_Kaboodle]

It's more like "I got a 12 inch cock" ..... "well, not really... it's more like 10 inches".... uhmmmm did I say 10 inches? I meant 6" (blush)

 

[69er]

Guys know damn well what they are doing. I call it 'poking and hoping'. Saying anything to get their foot-cock in this case- in the door and that hopefully they will be accepted and believed. It's a case of men thinking with their dicks and not their heads. And yes, people really are that stupid. Most people are painfully ignorant on issues regarding sex.

 

[nicenycdick]

It's like any other lie. If you say it enough, even YOU believe it!

 

[mack_the_knife]

There's a number of factors at work with this particular issue, at least in my honest opinion.

The first has to do with virility. Males equate penis size with sexual prowess, strength, attractiveness, and/or a number of other metrics. Basically "I have a big dick so you must want to sleep with me." This comes from 2 million or so years of human evolution (that's human from the day we split from our more ape-like ancestors, not human in the modern day homo sapien sense).

Another issue is the fact that, despite assertions to the contrary, women are indeed concerned with male penis size. Not to say that every woman is a "size queen" but it is to say that the vast majority of women would find a "vienna sausage" sized penis inadequate to satisfy their individual needs.

Insofar as men lying about it, that's a fear and/or self-preservation response. It could also be the fact that they don't have any way of measuring accurately or know-how by which to measure it appropriately.

Personally I've never lied about my size, just in the off-chance that should something in fact happen to reveal my deception, further doubts could be cast about my honesty in other, more important realms of discussion.

That's my two cents on this topic and I;ll be happy to answer any questions about it.

 

[Thirdlegproduction]

Noticed this with some friends, if possible these men just like to keep up the illusion for as long as possible hoping the truth doesn't find a way of correcting the illusion.
A false sense of confidence built on air is better then none in their eyes.

 

[irregulargrid]

Men know that women want a big willy so they spin an interesting yarn in order to...
Men laugh like hell about it with other men in pubs, water coolers, pre-conference meeting and such like
Sometimes it's size but...
It's a great good time to pull the wool over...
And it isn't just sex it's everything that they say to a women from the time they are...
Men are from Mars after all!

 

[lovinglife]

I am curious (as many know) and this is something I just don't understand.

Would love to hear a discussion on what men think about when they decide to "enhance the truth" about their penis size.

Online fun is all well and good and it really doesn't matter. But I am talking about some men who are obviously smaller than they claim.

Being "serious" about meeting up, they insist their cock is what they've reported. I'm not blind, nor am I THAT gullible. Many times I play along until they "finally" come clean about their size. (big SIGH) ...

WHY? What are the thoughts behind such an imagination? Is it all really just a game??

This has happened to me on several (!!!!) occasions... I'm just curious about how the male ego processes something like this~

Thoughts, gentlemen?

FP

PS. If you don't know me.. I have an open marriage. But I am sure there are other women here who meet guys and run into the same issues...

They are insecure about their penis and themselves. They dont think they can get a woman unless they have a giant penis. It doesnt make any sense to me, though. If you are trying to get with a woman she is going to see your penis anyway and lying will do no good.

 

[D_Kitten_Kaboodle]

They are insecure about their penis and themselves. They dont think they can get a woman unless they have a giant penis. It doesnt make any sense to me, though. If you are trying to get with a woman she is going to see your penis anyway and lying will do no good.

^BINGO....
and in the case of the sizequeen (like me) the chances of getting a good fuck are slim to none when it is discovered that (1) you misrepresented yourself and (2) you don't meet the pre-stated needs ... some might call that a dealbreaker.

I'm more concerned with the fabrications .... though I'll not lie and say I have an average guy at home and am not looking for a replacement.



You guys are giving me lots and lots of things to think on ... This is great! Thanks~

 

[beagats]

I think of man bragging about their size is a matter of two circumstances:
1 - women don't bring a ruler every time they have sex, then men use to lie just a little
2 - a man wants to have a big dick not for a woman, but for himself and the other men... look, big penises do represent power over the male kind, is a way to tell "you're not enough to this girl" and works better than musk! soo a big dicked guy is like an alpha male in his "pack" (no pun intended!)
Besides, there's also a third issue that some women really care about penis size to the point of dumping a guy just for having a little one, but it's not as relevant as the other two, I think...

 

[lovinglife]

Besides, there's also a third issue that some women really care about penis size to the point of dumping a guy just for having a little one, but it's not as relevant as the other two, I think...

If it comes to this it matters even less about lying... considering shes gonna dump him for having a little one anyway regardless of what he says.

 

[B_FootballStud21]

I am curious (as many know) and this is something I just don't understand.

Would love to hear a discussion on what men think about when they decide to "enhance the truth" about their penis size.

Online fun is all well and good and it really doesn't matter. But I am talking about some men who are obviously smaller than they claim.

Being "serious" about meeting up, they insist their cock is what they've reported. I'm not blind, nor am I THAT gullible. Many times I play along until they "finally" come clean about their size. (big SIGH) ...

WHY? What are the thoughts behind such an imagination? Is it all really just a game??

This has happened to me on several (!!!!) occasions... I'm just curious about how the male ego processes something like this~

Thoughts, gentlemen?

FP

PS. If you don't know me.. I have an open marriage. But I am sure there are other women here who meet guys and run into the same issues...

Answer is pretty simple, every man is as strong as his ego. You see it everywhere.

Go to the gym and ask any guy how much he bench presses, ask a dude how much money he makes, ask him how many girls they've slept with, ask them how tall they are, ask them how big his dick is. I can go on and on.

At the end of the day, we're just animals, and just like every other male species on this planet, we try to advertise ourselves (peacocks being the most blatant and obvious example) in the best light possible (even if that light uses 5 million watts of bullshit)

Over the years I realized that bullshitting will always give you bullshit results, so I consciously try to stay true to myself. Once that happened, it literally was a breath of fresh air. Am I 100% perfect? Hell no, I still have a tenancy to fabricate somethings in stories to try to make it sound funnier etc. But I feel like being at least aware of myself helps.

Women do this too though, you see it with wonder bras, high heels, make up, etc. As human beings, we all have pretty fragile egos whether we want to admit to it or not.

But the male ego is even more fragile, I believe, because as men, we have to fit into this stereotype of being the biggest, baddest mother fuckers to ever breath air, and if you're not, you're a "whimp", "pussy" or a "bitch" and a plethora of other empty insults that mean nothing yet everything at the same time.

I might have went off in a tangent, basically people, there is no need to lie. It's better to go through the pain of being disciplined enough to be truthful and reap those rewards of a happy life instead of getting the temporary heroin like fix of spewing bullshit, only to later feel the pain of regret for living a life of a lie.

 

[701757]

This shouldn't be too hard to figure out lol. Most men "probably" think you're going to think better of him if in your mind you think he has a big penis. Just like how people also lie about how much money they have. Pretty low thing to do.

 

[lovinglife]

This thread makes me feel like the only mostly honest guy alive.

 

[camer999]

Honestly like said before, every sex lies. Make up, bras (in general, makes them look more perky and can make them look bigger than they are), heels (increases leg tone while wearing them, also is an illusion for longer legs).

 

[joyboytoy79]

I don't really get it, myself, FP. I *suspect* that the assumption is that "women aren't good at estimating size, so she'll believe whatever I tell her." It's a false assumption based on a blatant stereotype. Maybe not so surprisingly, that assumption also extends to gay men.

Whatever the reason behind it - it's VERY annoying!

 

[554279]

Mine is pretty much as advertised. Ain't no point in lying, because obviously it's easy to figure out, sooner or later she is going to see and then hey, there you are. Other than the meetings on there internet where people are blatant about "hey I want a guy with a big cock", your not usually going to meet women like that in real life, day to day.

I have slept with a few accused or self proclaimed size queens, and was never turned down for return visits. Even when it came up in drunk talk or the ice breakers ahead of time that I was just "average" I still got my foot in the door.

I am pretty sure that most people would rather go with a guy that had a 6" cock and only declared 6", as opposed to a 6" cock posing to be 8,9 or 10".

 

[rbkwp]

Maybe
A majority of the uninhibited male, who has had a lifetime of comparing with there peers, when it comes to there branching out into the world of the opposite sex, its just a relatively normal human process to exaggerate a little / lot, with the female, it being a normal egotistical macho male, expected thing to do.
Because we are aware of females not having any length resembling the male appendage, its easier for us / some to consider exaggerating

just a BS theory conjured up as a contribution, to the thread FP
Makes no sense at all, as usual hah
but there not being a lawful requirement to speak a truth with backup facts, on our new forums... haah makes my response sort of OK-ish?