Too Big To Take Frequently

[909Biggie]

So, here's a challenge that I'm sure many of us have had. I'm currently experiencing it and it drives me batty: I'm too large to have (gay, anal) sex with on a regular basis. My partner needs at least a few "days off" after a good fucking just to recover. He's an excellent bottom, for sure; best sex I have ever had! But I want to have sex, like, every other day, and he just can't take it. To add insult to injury, he has told me that if I were smaller -- 5 or 6 inches (instead of the 8.5 that I am) -- we could probably have sex everyday, whenever I want, etc. <sigh> With my perpetually high libido, this is such an unintended slap in the face...

The way I see it, I have few options: Masturbate, try to convince him to engage in a different sexual act with me (pretty difficult to do), seek another partner for on-the-side fulfillment, or nothing.

Most of the time I jerk off, but I have sought out someone to give me head. The only thing is, it was a little sketchy (truck driver in his cab, which smelled of cigarette smoke, etc.); I ended up getting an STI test the next day just to be on the safe side.

Anyway, I actually don't WANT someone else; I want my man. But I can't have him, not as often as I'd like anyway. And, as I mentioned above, my libido is so fierce that it drives me crazy and into all sorts of potentially bad situations. I'm built to fuck. I love it. There's nothing like breeding a good hole. I'm sure many of you can relate.

Any advice? Thanks in advance.

 

[engineer805]

I've never seen situations like this (including with a past lover) where some exercises with dildos didn't solve the problem. Get a dildo (or two perhaps) of different diameter (girth) smaller than your cock. Incorporate using them on him as part of your sex play. Make it enjoyable for him by pleasuring him some other way as well to keep your intimacy strong. Eventually, his muscles will stretch to accommodate. The guys who can "take anything" without hesitation weren't born that way - it took "training" either via bottoming for guys with thick cocks - or training and pleasuring themselves with dildos - or both.

 

[909Biggie]

I've never seen situations like this (including with a past lover) where some exercises with dildos didn't solve the problem. Get a dildo (or two perhaps) of different diameter (girth) smaller than your cock. Incorporate using them on him as part of your sex play. Make it enjoyable for him by pleasuring him some other way as well to keep your intimacy strong. Eventually, his muscles will stretch to accommodate. The guys who can "take anything" without hesitation weren't born that way - it took "training" either via bottoming for guys with thick cocks - or training and pleasuring themselves with dildos - or both.

Thanks. I appreciate the advice. He does love ass play and I can give him lots of anal orgasms that way without ever penetrating. I'm a very giving lover. But inevitably, after we make love, he needs some "time off." Are you suggesting that more play will mean less time off necessary?

 

[Mike hung]

So, here's a challenge that I'm sure many of us have had. I'm currently experiencing it and it drives me batty: I'm too large to have (gay, anal) sex with on a regular basis. My partner needs at least a few "days off" after a good fucking just to recover. He's an excellent bottom, for sure; best sex I have ever had! But I want to have sex, like, every other day, and he just can't take it. To add insult to injury, he has told me that if I were smaller -- 5 or 6 inches (instead of the 8.5 that I am) -- we could probably have sex everyday, whenever I want, etc. <sigh> With my perpetually high libido, this is such an unintended slap in the face...

The way I see it, I have few options: Masturbate, try to convince him to engage in a different sexual act with me (pretty difficult to do), seek another partner for on-the-side fulfillment, or nothing.

Most of the time I jerk off, but I have sought out someone to give me head. The only thing is, it was a little sketchy (truck driver in his cab, which smelled of cigarette smoke, etc.); I ended up getting an STI test the next day just to be on the safe side.

Anyway, I actually don't WANT someone else; I want my man. But I can't have him, not as often as I'd like anyway. And, as I mentioned above, my libido is so fierce that it drives me crazy and into all sorts of potentially bad situations. I'm built to fuck. I love it. There's nothing like breeding a good hole. I'm sure many of you can relate.

Any advice? Thanks in advance.

Ok I'm straight but, my wife always struggled like hell with anal and we'd never try it very often but when we did a little more than the head of my dick would have her tapping out and literally crying with pain even with tons of lube of course. We'd laugh it off and it was fine, obviously I had her pussy for regular sex so not really the issue you have bruh but all the same she always said that one day she'd like to 'give her ass up to me properly'. We've been swingers ever since we've been together, myself all my adult life and long before I even met her, one advantage of her having a tight butt hole was that when we were with other couples the guys who couldn't get friction from her pussy could always take her ass which worked fine for those guys and her. Fast forward to recent times and our swing life has become a little more diverse in the type of couples we meet with, my wife plays more of a dominatrix role these days and physical sex isn't as important to her in our meets with other people so, and sorry this has been a little long winded but I felt it helped to explain properly, she decided that the time had now come to give up her ass to me properly in our personal sex life.
Obviously no easy journey for either of us but especially her, we decided we'd practice a couple times a week minimum, along with lube we'd use different toys and dilators working her up gradually until we could finish each session with myself penetrating as much as she could handle each time. It was slowish progress but her ass began to stretch more easily than she'd thought it would using the gradual and more gentle approach, these days now she needs no preparation apart from the application of lube, me working up my stroke to begin with after initial penetration in her ass and within a few minutes she can accommodate my whole length in her butt and she thoroughly enjoys it I'm pleased to add.
So my advice is toys and dilators, also get yourselves an inflatable dildo or two they're a great tool for the stretching process, you need to look at a thicker skinned inflatable though buddy as the cheaper ones with a thin jacket don't really cut it.
Hope it helps bruh, a little patience and practice and I'm sure you'll get where you want to be man.

 

[rope9839]

As I have gotten older and some of the women I have been with have gotten older, too, it has been a more frequent thing to have an injury or get shut down for a week or ten days for a variety of reasons.

 

[erpap]

So, here's a challenge that I'm sure many of us have had. I'm currently experiencing it and it drives me batty: I'm too large to have (gay, anal) sex with on a regular basis. My partner needs at least a few "days off" after a good fucking just to recover. He's an excellent bottom, for sure; best sex I have ever had! But I want to have sex, like, every other day, and he just can't take it. To add insult to injury, he has told me that if I were smaller -- 5 or 6 inches (instead of the 8.5 that I am) -- we could probably have sex everyday, whenever I want, etc. <sigh> With my perpetually high libido, this is such an unintended slap in the face...

The way I see it, I have few options: Masturbate, try to convince him to engage in a different sexual act with me (pretty difficult to do), seek another partner for on-the-side fulfillment, or nothing.

Most of the time I jerk off, but I have sought out someone to give me head. The only thing is, it was a little sketchy (truck driver in his cab, which smelled of cigarette smoke, etc.); I ended up getting an STI test the next day just to be on the safe side.

Anyway, I actually don't WANT someone else; I want my man. But I can't have him, not as often as I'd like anyway. And, as I mentioned above, my libido is so fierce that it drives me crazy and into all sorts of potentially bad situations. I'm built to fuck. I love it. There's nothing like breeding a good hole. I'm sure many of you can relate.

Any advice? Thanks in advance.

Sorry about your issue and I don’t have a solution for you. Although Mike Hung had some nice advice. However, I do love a man who is built to fuck!

 

[autoballer]

My wife can only take me about once a week or she is to sore. I just touch myself instead. It's kinda depressing. I will never cheat, but I watch a ton of porn. If I bring it up she will offer (halfheartedly) to get me off some how, hj usually. I could go twice or three times a day if allowed. We tried anal one time and I was completely unable to enter. Anal is my fetish I've had only a very few women try it and only one was into it but even she tapped out.

 

[HippyHollowAustin]

My wife can only take me about once a week or she is to sore. I just touch myself instead. It's kinda depressing. I will never cheat, but I watch a ton of porn. If I bring it up she will offer (halfheartedly) to get me off some how, hj usually. I could go twice or three times a day if allowed. We tried anal one time and I was completely unable to enter. Anal is my fetish I've had only a very few women try it and only one was into it but even she tapped out.

If that is true, why on earth do you have a photo gallery full of pictures of you pumping?

 

[autoballer]

If that is true, why on earth do you have a photo gallery full of pictures of you pumping?

I love the feeling...but it's true I probably should stop it. It's mostly a masturbation thing and goes back to normal within a day.

 

[Goose_Eggs]

Sounds more like a difference in sex drives than inability to take it a second day, the unwillingness to have any other sex than getting fucked seems a bit odd. My partner and I have slightly different sex drives, I could happily fuck daily and he is pretty content with 3-4 times a week. That said, while he may not be up for fucking or getting fucked, he'll suck my cock 6 times a day if I feel like it and eat my ass just as much so that works when we aren't slipping each other the pole .

 

[erpap]

Wish I had this problem. I wouldn’t mind a huge thick one everyday!

 

[deleted808122]

I've never seen situations like this (including with a past lover) where some exercises with dildos didn't solve the problem. Get a dildo (or two perhaps) of different diameter (girth) smaller than your cock. Incorporate using them on him as part of your sex play. Make it enjoyable for him by pleasuring him some other way as well to keep your intimacy strong. Eventually, his muscles will stretch to accommodate. The guys who can "take anything" without hesitation weren't born that way - it took "training" either via bottoming for guys with thick cocks - or training and pleasuring themselves with dildos - or both.

Being (mostly) a bottom when with men, and only for guys that thoroughly dwarf my endowment, I know where he's at. It's like your insides get a "hangover" after deep, hard fucking.

I'm going to agree with @engineer8005 here, with one small adjustment - hair of the dog. When feeling that internal weird/uncertain/deadness of a day-after anal hangover, get a long, thin, soft dildo, one of those jelly-like doubleheaders do the trick, and slowly massage the sore bits with a nice water-based lube. It's astounding how quickly his body will recover. At least mine does.

 

[Lance V]

My first wife was a once-a-weeker. She claimed that I would wear her out. Granted she was a small woman, but I have always treated women as gentle as possible. Even attempts to pleasure her without penetration were rebuffed. Our sexual incompatibility was the main reason for our split.

 

[72361]

I had a partner like that once, years ago. She told me outright that she wished I was more like her ex who was 5 inches long, and every time we had sex was an uphill battle for her. She'd usually disappear into the bathroom before hand to lube up her vagina, and she didn't want to talk about it either..

 

[6948221]

So, here's a challenge that I'm sure many of us have had. I'm currently experiencing it and it drives me batty: I'm too large to have (gay, anal) sex with on a regular basis. My partner needs at least a few "days off" after a good fucking just to recover. He's an excellent bottom, for sure; best sex I have ever had! But I want to have sex, like, every other day, and he just can't take it. To add insult to injury, he has told me that if I were smaller -- 5 or 6 inches (instead of the 8.5 that I am) -- we could probably have sex everyday, whenever I want, etc. <sigh> With my perpetually high libido, this is such an unintended slap in the face...

The way I see it, I have few options: Masturbate, try to convince him to engage in a different sexual act with me (pretty difficult to do), seek another partner for on-the-side fulfillment, or nothing.

Most of the time I jerk off, but I have sought out someone to give me head. The only thing is, it was a little sketchy (truck driver in his cab, which smelled of cigarette smoke, etc.); I ended up getting an STI test the next day just to be on the safe side.

Anyway, I actually don't WANT someone else; I want my man. But I can't have him, not as often as I'd like anyway. And, as I mentioned above, my libido is so fierce that it drives me crazy and into all sorts of potentially bad situations. I'm built to fuck. I love it. There's nothing like breeding a good hole. I'm sure many of you can relate.

Any advice? Thanks in advance.

If I would be your boyfriend, I would be so pissed reading this! You have no respect for him whatsoever. He's not you sex toy.

 

[nomju]

Only ever been turned down in the morning after fucking the previous night. Last time I went for a wake up fuck after a busy evening she said 'no way, I feel battered down there '.

 

[Coronahead]

As I have gotten older and some of the women I have been with have gotten older, too, it has been a more frequent thing to have an injury or get shut down for a week or ten days for a variety of reasons.

What is the age range of the women that you experience problems like this with?

 

[rope9839]

What is the age range of the women that you experience problems like this with?

It has been a lot more frequent with women in their 50's to 60's than it was when I was mainly having sex with women in their 20's and 30's.

 

[MuscledHorse]

So, here's a challenge that I'm sure many of us have had. I'm currently experiencing it and it drives me batty: I'm too large to have (gay, anal) sex with on a regular basis. My partner needs at least a few "days off" after a good fucking just to recover. He's an excellent bottom, for sure; best sex I have ever had! But I want to have sex, like, every other day, and he just can't take it. To add insult to injury, he has told me that if I were smaller -- 5 or 6 inches (instead of the 8.5 that I am) -- we could probably have sex everyday, whenever I want, etc. <sigh> With my perpetually high libido, this is such an unintended slap in the face...

The way I see it, I have few options: Masturbate, try to convince him to engage in a different sexual act with me (pretty difficult to do), seek another partner for on-the-side fulfillment, or nothing.

Most of the time I jerk off, but I have sought out someone to give me head. The only thing is, it was a little sketchy (truck driver in his cab, which smelled of cigarette smoke, etc.); I ended up getting an STI test the next day just to be on the safe side.

Anyway, I actually don't WANT someone else; I want my man. But I can't have him, not as often as I'd like anyway. And, as I mentioned above, my libido is so fierce that it drives me crazy and into all sorts of potentially bad situations. I'm built to fuck. I love it. There's nothing like breeding a good hole. I'm sure many of you can relate.

Any advice? Thanks in advance.

If you were in Atlanta, I could take you everyday. Even more than once in the same day. I am built for it.

 

[deleted808122]

Only ever been turned down in the morning after fucking the previous night. Last time I went for a wake up fuck after a busy evening she said 'no way, I feel battered down there '.

Ditto. Have had to "settle" for morning-after oral, plus soothing her tender bits. As a bottom, though, it's my responsibility to "tough it out".