very true and the very reason I never go back to my home town. people really need to realize that being LGBTQ+ is not safe anywhere in the world. Haters are everywhere
Trevor donovan
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He is white, super attractive and wealthy. He would be fine.
Also, a lot of gay men, like me, don’t have the privilege of being straight-passing. Yes, that’s a privilege, just like white privilege, male privilege, pretty privilege, etc. People automatically assume I’m gay because of my voice, which I have no control over. If Trevor is actually gay, that’s not something he has to deal with. He can hide his sexual orientation when he wants to or when it benefits him. Many of us don’t have that option.
Some of the people liking this comment are the same people who liked comments earlier in this thread that he wasn’t fooling anybody. The hypocrisy…People are talking like they're speaking facts like they have any actual insight on his sexual orientation
And none of this is his fault. You can't be mad at him just because he able to pass and you aren't. When and if Trevot comes out is his choice and his alone. You may want to consider what straight passing people have to deal with. It's probably a lot more than you'd expect.
In certain ways I do somewhat agree with your resentments. A lot of “straight passing” guys want to take advantage of both being “straight passing” and take advantage of their “queerness” whenever they see fit. And I am indeed tired of guys wanting to be “proudly out” whenever they choose but never say a thing about homophobia, hetero pressures, queer rights, etc. There are definite advantages to being white, conventionally attractive and “straight passing”, and only a small percentage of those dudes acknowledge those privileges, especially if they’re hetero-leaning/not looking for gay love, investment, commitment. On the other hand, you still can’t shame people for not being “out”, and even with privilege, you still don’t know people’s dimensions and their internal and external struggles.
NicHalliwell
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I think this story about Trevor's sexual orientation is escalating. To such an extent that it no longer concerns him, but exclusively our direct experience.
Maybe we should find another place to discuss this, maybe here Being LGBTQ+ in my city
Maybe we should find another place to discuss this, maybe here Being LGBTQ+ in my city
It’s a double-edged sword. You don’t have to worry so much about femme-phobia and being publicly harassed and people flat-out assuming your queerness and having no problems asking you about it. But it’s not always fun for people to presume you’re “straight”. We still live in a hetero dominant world and everyone still gets filtered through hetero normalcy. If you’re “straight-passing” and also not homosexual, you may feel that you have to go out of your way to “prove” your queerness and to show that you’re not just interested in using “coming out” or males for sex, money and/or clout. (However, sometimes that’s all someone is interested in). You can more easily get caught up in the pressures of hetero normalcy, hetero expectations, internalized phobias and masculine insecurities. Being a “straight passing” queer, you may also find it more difficult to fit in with most “straights” and more difficult to fit in with more overt “queers”.
Privileges, “selling out” and exploitation should be called out more. I’m tired of everyone feeling the need to go “rah rah” every time someone who’s “straight passing” ventures out the closet. But you can never know the specifics of anyone’s sexuality, journey, preferences, struggles, who they love, who they want to legit be with. That’s something to always be mindful of.
