Weird But I Need To Ask

[Lvitlarge]

Im a gay guy, never been with a woman (or wanted to be). I’ve was a bit of a late starter, being shy etc. When I started I was top but didn’t enjoy it much and didn’t do it often.

I did btm for a few guys including my only proper boyfriend, but it was never that fun.

Recently I’ve developed a medical reason I can’t btm anymore. I love giving oral, and am told I’m very good at it. Will rim a guy and wank off etc.

Sorry for long windedness but the question is, would you date a guy knowing that topping him was pretty much never going to happen?

It’s been praying on my mind a lot lately so I figured i’d try and get some more opinions. I’m too embarrassed to tell my friends.

 

[Brodie888]

There are lots of guys who have no interest in anal sex at all for various reasons. So just persist and eventually you will find someone compatible.

 

[phone]

While some people might be disappointed don't pay attention to them, people should be in relationships with people for far more than just sex. If someone can't see that, then what do you see in them?

 

[Lvitlarge]

Thanks guys..for the replies

 

[ThickJ]

Im a gay guy, never been with a woman (or wanted to be). I’ve was a bit of a late starter, being shy etc. When I started I was top but didn’t enjoy it much and didn’t do it often.

I did btm for a few guys including my only proper boyfriend, but it was never that fun.

Recently I’ve developed a medical reason I can’t btm anymore. I love giving oral, and am told I’m very good at it. Will rim a guy and wank off etc.

Sorry for long windedness but the question is, would you date a guy knowing that topping him was pretty much never going to happen?

It’s been praying on my mind a lot lately so I figured i’d try and get some more opinions. I’m too embarrassed to tell my friends.

All you can do is let guys know that bottoming isn't for you. As the other poster commented, a lot of guys aren't into anal either. Since you like giving oral, rimming, jacking, etc., you have a lot to offer. There's frotting as well.

 

[fuckersplit]

Im a gay guy, never been with a woman (or wanted to be). I’ve was a bit of a late starter, being shy etc. When I started I was top but didn’t enjoy it much and didn’t do it often.

I did btm for a few guys including my only proper boyfriend, but it was never that fun.

Recently I’ve developed a medical reason I can’t btm anymore. I love giving oral, and am told I’m very good at it. Will rim a guy and wank off etc.

Sorry for long windedness but the question is, would you date a guy knowing that topping him was pretty much never going to happen?

It’s been praying on my mind a lot lately so I figured i’d try and get some more opinions. I’m too embarrassed to tell my friends.

I am vers but I also can’t bttm so I understand you in some way. It will maybe not be easy, but if he loves you all the way you two will figure it all out

 

[chancesare]

If I never topped again, that would be fine with me. It's oral all the way.

 

[Infernal]

I have a long standing health issue that makes bottoming a nightmare for me. I've never been a huge fan of it, but there are times when I want it, and it just isn't going to happen. Unfortunately the same issue makes me nauseous quite easily, so giving someone a good fuck puts me at risk of being sick to my stomach. I prefer to be more active when fucking, but I'm not against sitting back and letting someone ride me once in a while..... but no one likes a lazy top. . Now I'm all about sucking dick. I'm still giving pleasure, and there are lots of things you can do with your hands when you've got a dick in your mouth.

There is so much you can do sexually. With a little imagination, you can get over not being able to bottom.

 

[stustu]

agree with others, anal is a preference for some - not for others.
I personally do not enjoy anal - giving or receiving - find it sort of gross.
We're all different - just be OK with your own likes and dislikes.
You don't need to do anything that isn't enjoyable or possible.

 

[MusicBear88]

I've had anal sex, infrequently, and in the right situation with the right person it can be hot. But it's very far from the top of the list of things I like to do that are sexual because it can get complicated and you need lube and condoms and figuring out a position can be difficult... give me a good long snuggle-stroke-suck session and I'm a happy bear!

Yeah, there will always be the "if you don't stick it in, it's not sex" people. Fuck 'em... or in this case, don't.

 

[ZeusNotApollo]

If he cannot accept your honesty with empathy then he’s not worth the time you already invested into the relationship.

A great big “See Ya” on your way out would bring a smile and do wonders to your self esteem.

 

[328982]

would you date a guy knowing that topping him was pretty much never going to happen?

Absolutely, no problem at all

 

[topothepops]

Certainly for a hook-up it might mean you don't go home with the guy. But if you're talking about a relationship, then I would hope any guy you're interested in would not be so shallow as to discount you due to a medical condition. I personally find anal sex very, very important. But if my boyfriend couldn't bottom for me anymore due to a medical reason, I would certainly understand, and our sex life would adjust to accommodate. Sex is great, but it's certainly not the sole driving force in any healthy relationship.

 

[Lvitlarge]

Thanks for replies guys, has made me feel a bit better about things.

Hopefully in future things will change (with my medical condition) and i’ll find a great guy who enjoys sex in a number of other ways..cheers guys x

 

[brandon38]

It ok if you don’t like do it not that fun for me like the other guys oral sex it so much fun and you do lot in that area of it .

 

[WillyLong]

Anal sex is not mandatory. Don't worry, no one is going to take away your gay card. Just make sure that whoever it is you start to date knows up front what your sexual limits are.