I must say, having read your posts and the thread you created, I get the feeling that maybe (and please do not take this the wrong way), you have a rather jaded outlook on the whole 'attractiveness' thing. I should imagine living in NY does you no favours, but I for one cannot believe the situation is as truly dire as this.
In my own experience, I have two friends in particular who, shall we say, aren't exactly gifted in the looks department. Let's imagine a 4/10 guy and a 6.5/10 guy, if we're keeping score, both in their late 20s. I used to be pretty close with them both, and we'd go to night clubs (this is maybe 7 years ago), and invariably, they'd both end up going home with some hotness. Now, the 4/10 guy would strike out a LOT. The 6.5/10 was quite athletic and definitely had some moves on the dancefloor. He'd be shut down by a few people, but by the end of the night he'd manage to work his charms on at least somebody - if he didn't like the look of one, he'd usually have a backup plan too. Two confident guys who, I'm pretty sure, had no concept of their own attractiveness, yet rarely went home alone.
Myself, on the other hand... well I found all this pretty difficult. I never really had the personality for the whole nightclub thing. I'd invariably end up pecking some girl on the cheek, and making my way home. It was only if a girl was really into me that I'd get lucky, and that didn't happen very often.
Now, I'm not going to be so crass as to rate myself out of 10, but I know I was the looker out of us three - even I could tell that much. I never had much trouble getting the women talking in the first place. Maybe it was just the confidence thing which meant a connection wasn't made.
So I guess what I'm saying is, don't get jaded because you think you maybe don't look the part, because women absolutely are attracted to confidence and general sex appeal - doesn't matter how bald or ugly you are (or you believe you are). Otherwise my whole story about the 5'6" bald 28 year old with a scar on his face getting 10 times as much action as a 6'5" tall athletic guy with a nine incher, all his hair and a strong jawline wouldn't make much sense, now would it?