I’m cursed by my obsession with straight men because I love masculinity.
Why Are (some Of) Y'all Obsessed With Straight Men?
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Obsessed is probably a bit too strong of a word for most people here. It's the forbidden fruit factor mainly. Plus for me, I'm in to masculine guys. I'm not attracted to fem guys at all. A straight friend of mine once asked me why and I said I don't know really, but it sounds like fem guys have spent more time sucking on helium than cock. 
However, if a straight guy was curious and wanted some fun, I'd oblige. Sex is just sex at the end of the day. No point in ruining it with labels. It's supposed to be a fun form of stress relief. Labels and shaming people for being curious and exploring their sexuality and sexual fantasies or curiosities just causes more stress and guilt/shame for people who want to explore.
However, if a straight guy was curious and wanted some fun, I'd oblige. Sex is just sex at the end of the day. No point in ruining it with labels. It's supposed to be a fun form of stress relief. Labels and shaming people for being curious and exploring their sexuality and sexual fantasies or curiosities just causes more stress and guilt/shame for people who want to explore.
I wouldn’t say I’m obsessed but feeling like I’m desired by “straight” guys does turn me on. I’ve had experiences with a lot of guys who identify as straight (I know, they’re not totally straight, and I believe sexuality is a spectrum anyway) and it’s often pretty hot.
Some of them have the dumbest takes on sexuality though but I’m not fucking them for their mind obviously.
Some of them have the dumbest takes on sexuality though but I’m not fucking them for their mind obviously.
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As someone said, it's about cocks.
But straight cocks excite me more because they are almost forbidden. Straight men are out of reach, it's exciting... And sometimes they're just so damn fucking hot... The stereotypical masc straight man just does things to me you know... U_U
If I had to self analyse, I think it all stems from school. Having to grow up surrounded by straight guys when your sexuality awakens is going to make you see them as desirable, even if you don't quite get why. I remember spying in the changing room when having PE to catch a glimpse of my classmates' dicks. My first crushes where on the straights guys around me at school, my first sex fantasies where about them, I wanked many times thinking of sucking their cocks. I was a scout too, the (almost) only gay guy in a groups of around 45 teenagers with hormones wanking every night in a tent. I wanted to see them, jerk them myself and get their cum on my face...
So I think all that just built into me a desire, an attraction, an almost obsession for heterosexual men (and voyeurism lmao), even more so than for gay men. Many times I found myself just loose lust over a hot guy I thought straight as soon as I learned he was gay.
As an adult, I am attracted to gay guys too of course, because they're the only ones I can actually fuck, but straight guys have that clutch on my heart, still.
But straight cocks excite me more because they are almost forbidden. Straight men are out of reach, it's exciting... And sometimes they're just so damn fucking hot... The stereotypical masc straight man just does things to me you know... U_U
If I had to self analyse, I think it all stems from school. Having to grow up surrounded by straight guys when your sexuality awakens is going to make you see them as desirable, even if you don't quite get why. I remember spying in the changing room when having PE to catch a glimpse of my classmates' dicks. My first crushes where on the straights guys around me at school, my first sex fantasies where about them, I wanked many times thinking of sucking their cocks. I was a scout too, the (almost) only gay guy in a groups of around 45 teenagers with hormones wanking every night in a tent. I wanted to see them, jerk them myself and get their cum on my face...
So I think all that just built into me a desire, an attraction, an almost obsession for heterosexual men (and voyeurism lmao), even more so than for gay men. Many times I found myself just loose lust over a hot guy I thought straight as soon as I learned he was gay.
As an adult, I am attracted to gay guys too of course, because they're the only ones I can actually fuck, but straight guys have that clutch on my heart, still.
As long as it's just a fantasy and not something preventing you from finding irl sexual partners. It doesn't really bother me.
It's not by choice. Most gay men are unattractive to me. Most gays just don't hold themselves as good as most straight men which is ironic.
How do you tell if an attractive stranger or influencer is actually gay or straight? Do you determine that before you find them attractive?
My friends brother-in-law is this short wrestler type of guy that is very built and loves competition. We were joking around once and he made a comment about penis size or something. I jabbed him with a crack about wrestlers having small ones and he said “not this one.” A few months later I beat him racing go-carts and he got mad. The. I caught a glimpse of his dick standing next to him at a urinal and he says “See? What do you think? Pretty girthy, eh? Just look at that head.” He actually wanted me see it and comment on it because it was something he was proud of and could win at.
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No gay men prevent me from having sex!
I've actually had more fun (though nothing sexual) with straight friends. I've been lucky to be surrounded by guys who didn't care at all I was gay and were comfortable in their sexuality to a degree that we'd make jokes, kiss sometimes... just fooling around. I keep fonder memories of my interactions with those straight guys than with any other gay men.
If you had the choice between actual sex with a super hot really attractive, 10/10 gay guy or just fooling around with an average but (kinda cute?) straight guy. Which would you choose? lolNo gay men prevent me from having sex!
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That's honestly a hard one to answer...
It's the whole gay psyche. Gay men want to conquer masculinity which they either dont have or didnt see growing up, and they conquer it through sex. But that only lasts temporarily so they lose interest and the hunt continues with someone else.
Men in general loose interest, not just gay men. And masculinity has always been my preference. I have no attraction to or similarities to femininity whatsoever. I don’t need to conquer it.
No, gay men are like this the most and that's why we have thousands of partners compared to the average hetero, and it ain't because we dont have to worry about pregnancy. It's a damaged psyche and we're always trying to repair it and fill that void, but it can only be temporary...so we get bored and want to hunt someone else no matter how and hot and perfect our partners are.
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I'd take the gay guy because there's a much higher possibility of seeing him again and again whereas I've been with straight curious men the most, and they're so awkward and quiet and shy, and I never wanted to be at their beck and call.
As a masseur, young straight men try to use me for their first gay experience and that just never satisfied my thirst. I have a huge foot fetish and a lot of straight guys are into male on male footplay but I still prefer gay men that are comfortable with their sexuality because I like consistency, and less awkwardness.
they tend to be on average much more masculine, much more confident, and much more attractive than the average, mainstream gay male.
The majority of gay men I meet are NOT masculine. and I'm not talking about having a beard or dressing masculine. I mean ones who genuinely are masculine, have masculine interests, and carry themselves as such. The ones who are genuinely masculine have definitely an exception in my experience and half of THOSE men were previously in straight relationships and lived a straight lifestyle up until a certain point.
The majority of gay men I meet are NOT masculine. and I'm not talking about having a beard or dressing masculine. I mean ones who genuinely are masculine, have masculine interests, and carry themselves as such. The ones who are genuinely masculine have definitely an exception in my experience and half of THOSE men were previously in straight relationships and lived a straight lifestyle up until a certain point.
this is a very odd take imo. for one thing, anytime a gay man hooks up with a straight guy they don't have this approach of just moving on to someone else. They ALWAYS obsess with the straight guy, end up having strong feelings for them, and end up eventually pushing them away. I don't see it as "conquering their masculinity" unless they are bottoming, which believe it or not I've found some straight men who were hyper masculine with huge dicks ended up only wanting to bottom if it came down to sex with a man... but there is definitely an excitement that comes with being a straight male's first ever experience with another man. it's almost like a corruption of their heterosexuality but it's so kinky and hot too see that combination of being really nervous and also very aroused on them , it's like being with a virgin who isn't a virgin.
at the end of the day though, straight men just have way more attractive features and personality traits than the average gay man for me because they're much more masculine.
I think for some gay men, sex with a straight guy is the gay equivalent of a straight man taking a woman's virginity.
It's like you are the one opening the eyes of a person to a world of pleasures beyond anything they have known.
Anne Rice's Interview with a Vampire is basically this idea.
It's like you are the one opening the eyes of a person to a world of pleasures beyond anything they have known.
Anne Rice's Interview with a Vampire is basically this idea.
I want to wash my eyes with bleach after opening and reading this thread. Here are the same repeated not different than any other’s experience typical answers: “we want someone who’s masculine”, “we want something we don’t have”.
Not one of these replies has changed my view that these so called “straight men” are in fact straight. Literally none of you gays have Or will ever have a “straight” man, since you know they’re straight. But y’all sleep with closet cases, nothing new there.
And yes I’m a bitter bitch before anyone responds to me, but I tell the truth unlike all of you.
Not one of these replies has changed my view that these so called “straight men” are in fact straight. Literally none of you gays have Or will ever have a “straight” man, since you know they’re straight. But y’all sleep with closet cases, nothing new there.
And yes I’m a bitter bitch before anyone responds to me, but I tell the truth unlike all of you.
I'm certainly not obsessed with straight men, and don't specifically look for them, but as a nudist I do encounter my fair share of them, since there's less social division between straight and gay in the nudist world. I generally find that I have more in common with interests, since I am not into the gay scene and all the stereotypical aspects of it. I think a lot of people don't realise just how many gay men do have the 'straight' or 'masculine' attributes that seems to be the attraction here. One has to be in their kind of world to find them.
