Why Are (some Of) Y'all Obsessed With Straight Men?

[Brodie888]

For a lot of bottoms, all they want is to be fucked like a b!tch by a confident, sexually aggressive, hypermasculine man. I think a lot of gay men seek out straight guys because they think straight men are more likely to satisfy this need.

 

[Obrii]

I want to wash my eyes with bleach after opening and reading this thread. Here are the same repeated not different than any other’s experience typical answers: “we want someone who’s masculine”, “we want something we don’t have”.

Not one of these replies has changed my view that these so called “straight men” are in fact straight. Literally none of you gays have Or will ever have a “straight” man, since you know they’re straight. But y’all sleep with closet cases, nothing new there.
And yes I’m a bitter bitch before anyone responds to me, but I tell the truth unlike all of you.

I have a spa business and I have played with plenty of straight men and young veterans that were curious and new to m4m play. Some weren't looking to experiment and we only played after a few sessions, so it happens.

It's also easy to play with straight men that are just into having their feet serviced. They have no interest in anything else but can be persuaded if you're really good.

 

[User101823]

Because it’s something we normally can’t have…It makes it more appetizing.

 

[malakos]

I'm certainly not obsessed with straight men, and don't specifically look for them, but as a nudist I do encounter my fair share of them, since there's less social division between straight and gay in the nudist world. I generally find that I have more in common with interests, since I am not into the gay scene and all the stereotypical aspects of it. I think a lot of people don't realise just how many gay men do have the 'straight' or 'masculine' attributes that seems to be the attraction here. One has to be in their kind of world to find them.

I think it's caused by extremely distorted conceptualization of who gay men are. Some people think they can recognize a gay man by his appearance and manner. The way that they think they can do this is by signs of flamboyancy (probably because some gay men are easy to ID in this way, and people tend to like easy categorization). When a man isn't recognized as a gay man in this way, if he's rather far away from the supposed telling signs, he is assumed to be straight. Then these same people bewail that there are no masculine gay men, and form a preference for seeking out "straight" men, when in fact they don't know (or, don't recognize) masculine gay men because of the very way they framed the identification of gay men, and the "straight" men they seek out are really gay men whom were erroneously (and probably unknowingly) ruled out as gay. Yes, there are plenty of masculine gay men, but the weirdos who show up into these sorts of threads have them preconceived as straight because they show no "obvious signs" of being gay.

 

[deleted27570301]

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Pretty straight forward. What's with the frothing at the mouth about them? What about them is supposedly "more of a turn on" than a gay man?

I am a bottom gay and for me I find straight men attractive because they are more manly. Gay men that are top are of course my prefrence and I wouldnt go around asking for straight dudes but alot of gay men (not all!) no matter position is rather fem at times and as a 100% bot I "need" a "straight" man. I find it so attractive when a man is manly, I do not want him to do fem stuff. I am not fem myself. I am not attracted to a straight man because he is straight. Its about the traits alot of straight men have.

 

[SaberOli]

They're very masculine. Gay men don't have that same masculinity. That's it really. No "forbidden fruit" or anything.

 

[FrankTO]

Some might think this is homophobic, but I'm attracted to masculinity, and I just can't get women or feminine stuff. I was madly in love with a straight man for decades. So when I met my husband, who is actually bi, I was in heaven because I had a real man in front of me. Even 18 years later he has yet to trigger my gaydar!

 

[thebiggulp]

I don't ask anyone their pedigree when they pop over for sex. I don't give two shits how they identify, I just want their cock in my mouth. Most of them are masculine, because that's what my ad requests. They just need to be average guys. Blowies are brief moments of casual fun. No need to analyze what it is all about.

 

[LICNYCgay]

Sorry but that’s some homophobic bullshit. Gay men aren’t “masculine?” I have met what I would call “hypermasculine gay men” and very effeminate straight men. This whole conversation is meaningless.

 

[Paler]

I am a HUGE eye contact guy. If a "straight" guy eye fucks me up and down that is my cue to get to it. If he doesn't so much as glance at me then forget it--he can walk around muscled, tanned, and shirtless and I am just not interested/obsessed if he doesn't look at my eye and is chasing some skirt at the same time. Case closed.

 

[Paler]

So as someone who is sometimes attracted to "straight" men (among many other types I have), I think I'd explain it this way:

I spent a big chunk of my 20s in the Army on active duty. In part, that was about problems I had with my own sense of masculinity. I wanted to prove to myself that I and that being gay didn't make me any less of one. Another part of that was wanting to turn myself into the kind of man that I'd be attracted to. I was very much into hypermasculinity (some of my first JO material was the WWF) and I wanted to be that big kinda intimidating guy who doesn't set off anyone's gaydar. About the same time, I was noticing that a lot of gay guys who, for instance, get into the leather scene, may be able to dress reasonably convincingly as bikers, but don't exactly act the part; as is sometimes said with some cruelty, "He looks good, but he opens his mouth and his purse falls out."

Meanwhile, I would have all these straight guys back in my unit (and later in the jobs I held after getting out) who were rubbing off on me. You are who you associate with, and for some very formative years I was hanging out with a bunch of crazy straight infantrymen.

I want to emphasize that a lot of this had to do with my own hangups about my orientation. I'm a bit ashamed of how I could be pretty cruel myself regarding stuff like drag or effeminacy (and I've since come to have very great respect for the skill and talent that goes into putting together a drag persona).

So anyways, of course these straight guys around me would have looked fantastic to my eyes. They were everything I wanted in a man at the time. Except as far as I could tell they weren't into me at all, and I didn't dare say anything that might have given away my orientation. This was the age of Don't Ask, Don't Tell.

I think, too, being stuck in the the closet throughout my time in the Army also had the effect of making me wonder if I'd be accepted if the other guys knew who I really was. That's one of the things that sucks about the closet: that fear of rejection if they knew the real you really fucking sucks.

So when I did happen to run into someone who came across as "straight" but nevertheless was interested in sex with me, that not only really was an attractive quality, but it also was a way of getting some validation: "See? This straight guy likes me well enough to give my his cock." It was a tiny bit of proof that maybe if ever I did come completely out, it wouldn't be as bad as I feared.

In retrospect, there's something very humiliating and debasing about that sort of thing. It can make you desperate to please men who likely really don't deserve it, just to keep alive the faint hope that maybe, if I can catch him alone at just the right moment, he'll give me the validation that I need to see myself as more of a "real man". I want to be just one of the guys, but I also want it to have that sexual twist added in, or else it's not a full acceptance of the whole me.

If that makes any sense at all.

This makes a lot of sense to someone younger like me. The line, "This straight guy likes me well enough to give my his cock" is *everything*

 

[Boaxy]

They tend to be into masculine/rough/rugged type guys, and can't help what they are attracted to.

They are in situations/circumstances where they are surrounded by straight men they habitually come across and can't avoid. (For example a gay guy who works at a salon next to a construction site with straight guys, or the cute security guard in his building is straight etc.)

They develop crushes they can't help themselves over, with straight guys.

The "wanting what you can't have" aspect.

They tend to be more attracted/drawn to straight guys, and feel gay guys they have attempted to get with, have baggage and other issues they have with the gay community.

They again can't help what they are attracted/drawn/keen on, and it happens to be a Straight guy.

So yeah.

 

[Obrii]

There's a lot of research out on generic traits and genes. Gay men have reported that certain bone structures, facial features, and of course voice tones are seen more in typical heterosexual males, and they rate them as more attractive and desirable.


Some scientists have pointed to the xq28 chromosome band.

"Some say that sexuality is polygenic, meaning that hundreds or thousands of genes contribute to the trait in small ways. This is similar to other complex heritable characteristics, like height or a tendency to try new things."

 

[Hotfucker28]

Why I'm obsessed with straight guys?? Because I feel horrible sorry for them cause 99,9% of them will never know how it feels to be worshipped or how it feels to get a true blowjob. Straight young men live to worship women but unfortunately women (due to having almost no sex drive) don't really put much effort into satisfying a str8 guy. I've seen a lot of amateur gay and str8 porn and there are videos of gay men worshipping every inch of a hot guys body and blowjobs that last for hours (yes guys can last that long..) You don't see women doing any of this willingly and those str8 guys basically do all the work to satisfy them but get nothing in return. However there is a lot of gay4pay amateur porn out there where str8 guys are obviously paid to get a bj from a gay dude and to see them realize what a good bj is and the look on their faces never ceases to amaze me. And obviously the whole forbidden fruit thing and the idea that str8 guys are not really sexually attracted to other men but still would let you blow them when they are horny/need money etc...(yes gay4pay is very common).

 

[HungBtmVegas]

Probably for the same reason straight men post their cocks on this website that they know has barely any regular female users on it. The fantasy aspect.