I totally agree some gays just want to live their life and some are just jealous when the spotlight shifts to others and big announcements are made of their identity as some kind of achievement -- I don't want to be written off either. I grew up always being told to be more creative, so 'golden boy' just means limelight of LGBTQ+ -- very often when people either welcomes or chastises all of us they will just say 'gay' instead of LGBTQ…This is something I keep hearing and I really don't understand it and have never observed it. When were gay men ever the "golden boy"? has it occurred to anyone that maybe the reason gay men are upset about fluidity agendas is because they keep hearing this condescending sentiment and it's totally untrue to anyone's experience? @nhguy78 had said something similar about gay men feeling "overshadowed". Do you guys really think that the grievances some gay men are sharing about this come from jealousy over the limelight in the great social oppression showcase extravaganza? I mean, does anyone even *like* that kind of attention; how could you accuse anyone of wanting that?
Well, speaking for myself, I don't want that kind of attention, I just want to live my life, which is what most of us want whether gay or bi or trans. Most of us don't want to be in the crossfire of a culture war (much less used as pawns). So I'm getting a little annoyed being told my opinions about gender politics have anything to do with wanting some kind of cultural attention back, because I never remember having that attention in the first place, and I never asked for it anyway. It's a great way to write off what anyone has to say about this and it's completely unfounded.
It's more about being TOLD that you don't represent them just because you have a preference or act a certain way or maybe don't want a label and yes I hear and I see this in the media, on sites, apps using the 'Gay' or masculine gay male as an example of non conformance which is totally pigeon-holing them. Although whose to say that the writers are even part of the community and maybe just bots.
I'm on your side and don't just soak in the limelight of 'Gay' meaning all of the community (China attacks 'gay' boy bands all the time), but there are some that do either fem or adonis. Some love it, others are just used to it. For the Captain Obvious: EVERYONE is different. This doesn't mean the Gay butch is innocent either. It's better to just get along.