to answer, just hasn't worked out. Example: there is only one person (with the exception of my lovely wife) to whom I have a desire. Guy at the gym, whom I know a little. Last conversation we had, said he had a pool, large, and he likes to swim in the nude on hot days. Prior to that he was commenting on his relatively small suit (family club, not that small). he said, naked swimming, kinda weird - I said , nope I do not think so.
In any event, when I see him again, my comment is going to be "...that pool sounds nice"...and I would say my suit is smaller...at which point should he invite, I will ask my wife, she will say yes, and off I go.
Now, if could we find a good couple.... it would certainly be MM and FF -- !! so that is my story, thanks for asking.