I am a gay man.
My BF and I have been together for a few years now. We used to have sex all the time. Then about a year or so into it, he just stopped cold turkey and made excuses. He says he’s tired, too depressed, too stressed, not in the mood, too full, too sleepy, too (insert excuse)… I’ve asked repeatedly what is going on but he refuses to tell me any deeper and gets defensive.
I am starting to lose interest and starting to lose an intimacy connection with him now. I have Asked for him to give me some kind of sexual stimulation but he doesn’t seem like he wants to or enjoys anything sexual with me. I am at my wits end of just ending our relationship.
I don’t want to lose him, I need to have sex in a relationship and I kinda need to know if this is a temporary thing or permanent. He doesn’t want to go to the doctor either and says things are fine but they are not fine.
A part of me thinks he is lying, another part wants to believe him.
What irks me is that he will watch porn and get off without me, yet he knows I want sex. The other week I caught him jacking off in the shower by himself, after I got out the shower. To me is a slap in the face and not in a good way.
Can someone tell me if my thoughts are normal? Or am I crazy? Should I believe him? What else can I do?
My BF and I have been together for a few years now. We used to have sex all the time. Then about a year or so into it, he just stopped cold turkey and made excuses. He says he’s tired, too depressed, too stressed, not in the mood, too full, too sleepy, too (insert excuse)… I’ve asked repeatedly what is going on but he refuses to tell me any deeper and gets defensive.
I am starting to lose interest and starting to lose an intimacy connection with him now. I have Asked for him to give me some kind of sexual stimulation but he doesn’t seem like he wants to or enjoys anything sexual with me. I am at my wits end of just ending our relationship.
I don’t want to lose him, I need to have sex in a relationship and I kinda need to know if this is a temporary thing or permanent. He doesn’t want to go to the doctor either and says things are fine but they are not fine.
A part of me thinks he is lying, another part wants to believe him.
What irks me is that he will watch porn and get off without me, yet he knows I want sex. The other week I caught him jacking off in the shower by himself, after I got out the shower. To me is a slap in the face and not in a good way.
Can someone tell me if my thoughts are normal? Or am I crazy? Should I believe him? What else can I do?