Bi Hookups? Or Fwb's?

[WilliamG]

As I delve deeper into my bisexual awakening... I'm finding my m/m encounters are 100% random hookups. I'm sure there is a range of ways guys meet up. But narrowing it down to mainly random vs friends with benefits.
As I reread my post, I realize some here are couples enjoying the fruits of bisexuality. But even in those situations... The choices are the same.

 

[mrbigdoc]

Both for me... I have random encounters and I also have 2 local married guy and we have enjoyed time for the last 8 years. But I do enjoy the random guy as well when I get the opportunity.

 

[elklindoxxx]

My partner and I don't do any random hookups. That's too dangerous. Although, there is more acceptance of homosexuality in the USA. There is still widespread anti LGBTQ sentiment. And I don't want to take any chances during a random encounter of getting attacked by someone who is pretending to gay. So we mostly go with other couples that we have have screened out throughout our network. However the majority of couples are straight, but we do have some who are bisexual.

 

[WilliamG]

My partner and I don't do any random hookups. That's too dangerous. Although, there is more acceptance of homosexuality in the USA. There is still widespread anti LGBTQ sentiment. And I don't want to take any chances during a random encounter of getting attacked by someone who is pretending to gay. So we mostly go with other couples that we have have screened out throughout our network. However the majority of couples are straight, but we do have some who are bisexual.

Interesting response. For me having been predominately straight for a majority of the life... I don't approach the hookups the same way. My gut feelings are pretty good. I've not met anyone that creeped me out or made me feel uncomfortable for my safety. I do meet them in public places first though. If it's outdoors at the park... I'll chat first and get a vibe. A couple times after meeting in public, I went to their homes.

Guess I'm saying my view and approach are shaped from my longtime (straightness).

 

[johnweek1]

FWB -- safer. I have had hookups while searching for FWB over the years, but the goal is always get a FWB not more and more randos.

 

[hotguy88]

I've done both recently... I have an incredible FWB but I had a random cocksucker last time I was on a business trip and that shit was fucking insane. Pretty much beyond anything I've ever done before

 

[Scott8361]

I prefer to have friends with benefits overall. I find I can be more relaxed and enjoy it more with partners i have more familiarity. It also has less fear of infections.

I had a group of guys, all married or in relationships, that got to know of each other through referrals between each other. We played with each other as opportunities happened, most often just one on one, but sometimes threesomes if availabilities lined up.

We communicated between us and often shared who got to play lately. It was a turn on hearing about others having fun and we supported and encouraged play.

I recently moved out of state and miss it, but still communicate with them and love hearing their recent encounters, with some sharing pictures. Some express missing me... my ass and blowjobs got good reviews!

I'm so horny for their cocks again!

 

[bi2]

As I delve deeper into my bisexual awakening... I'm finding my m/m encounters are 100% random hookups. I'm sure there is a range of ways guys meet up. But narrowing it down to mainly random vs friends with benefits.
As I reread my post, I realize some here are couples enjoying the fruits of bisexuality. But even in those situations... The choices are the same.

With my current fuckbuddy, I have a FWB relationship. Our relationship is purely carnal, there is no personal or intimacy connection we seek or want. Importantly, we have been together for a few years, neither of us have any issues or desires to be with another guy as we get our needs met by the other.

We meet about once a month, hookup, suck, fuck and then go our seperate ways. We present for each other a convenient sexual outlet for him, without any issues, dramas or complications. Im not only totally fine with our arrangement, I am happy and satisfied. We have been hooking up for several years, its purely a physical carnal relationship. Sure we have intimate moments together and at times the sex can border on "love making" but neither of us want a personal relationship with the other.

Outside of sex, if I happen to stay at his place overnight or for a few days, we simply hangout. He might do some work or read and I will be either chilling with Netflix, on the computer or playing games. Its like a couple of guys just hanging out doing there on thing. I like it and he likes it too, its company, its a chilled environment for both of us. There has not been a need to be deep and meaningful with each other. Despite the huge age gap, we get along really fine. Sex is what brings us together and in many ways him cumming deep inside me, bonds us intimately. That connection of breeding makes us "close" by defintion.

 

[MNpervert]

I have had a steady FWB for a while and we are meeting multiple times a week now. I do travel for work and over the years it was mainly hookups while on the road for 30 years. I don't regret any of them I have met some great men, women, trans over the years and some keep in touch with . Now that I am older it is so convenient to have a fuck buddy down the road so I get my fill of man time very often. Whether it is a quick 69 in the morning before work or an all day lovemaking.
My wife and I still have a great sex life, she just doesnt get into M on M stuff and doesnt want to know

 

[hotguy88]

My main buddy is strictly carnal as well usually. My God we sure can destroy some tight pussy together and have had absolutely mindblowing orgasms at nearly the same time inside pussy before. It was beyond anything I've ever experienced

 

[goldscorpguy]

I'm into a mix of both. I have a fwb but sometimes it takes ages between sessions to organise our calendars. With random hook ups I know that one quick trip to a gay sauna or a fabguys meeting will sort my needs. And I always approach it that today's random could become tomorrow's fwb.

 

[elklindoxxx]

Interesting response. For me having been predominately straight for a majority of the life... I don't approach the hookups the same way. My gut feelings are pretty good. I've not met anyone that creeped me out or made me feel uncomfortable for my safety. I do meet them in public places first though. If it's outdoors at the park... I'll chat first and get a vibe. A couple times after meeting in public, I went to their homes.

Guess I'm saying my view and approach are shaped from my longtime (straightness).

It's one thing when you are straight. It's not as if you are going to get beat, stabbed or shot if you are a guy going on a date with a woman by someone or a group of people who are....heterophobes. Hopefully I got that one correct.

Whereas when you are gay, you've got to be really careful. There still are a number of gay beatings that still occur. I don't go on grindr or any of those websites to meet men. You have no idea who you are dealing with. My partner and I meet like minded people through our networks. To me, cruising for men is really really dangerous. I've never done it and never will.

I've been going to my local jerk off club to meet other like minded men since I was in college. That's the safest way to go. It's literally a meat market. I've been propositioned so many times that I have lost track and have picked up lots of men. That's what I suggest.

 

[WilliamG]

It's one thing when you are straight. It's not as if you are going to get beat, stabbed or shot if you are a guy going on a date with a woman by someone or a group of people who are....heterophobes. Hopefully I got that one correct.

Whereas when you are gay, you've got to be really careful. There still are a number of gay beatings that still occur. I don't go on grindr or any of those websites to meet men. You have no idea who you are dealing with. My partner and I meet like minded people through our networks. To me, cruising for men is really really dangerous. I've never done it and never will.

I've been going to my local jerk off club to meet other like minded men since I was in college. That's the safest way to go. It's literally a meat market. I've been propositioned so many times that I have lost track and have picked up lots of men. That's what I suggest.

I get what you're saying about safety. I would love to find a local JO club. But here in LA driving 30 miles is like driving 2 hrs. I have found the cruising side works for me as I can meet them online... Meet at a park... And if we look at each other and decide no... One of us heads the other way. No one gets upset (so far). Now there those that do the "meet up in the park bathroom...". Not me. Out in the open first.

 

[goldscorpguy]

I only hook up with guys who stipulate on their profile that they can accommodate. I find if he's willing to take the risk on me coming to his house, then he's usually pretty genuine about it.

 

[bi2]

I only hook up with guys who stipulate on their profile that they can accommodate. I find if he's willing to take the risk on me coming to his house, then he's usually pretty genuine about it.

Ive only been with 4 guys and all of them have been about 4 decades older, larger and taller than me, where I have gone over to their place. I never felt a risk or fear going over and being with them, but was more nervous initially about the potential of sex and performance.

The first was with my older neighbour when I was younger which I had already known, it was kind of taboo, but I had a lot of fun and enjoyed the sex and exploration, I only stopped seeing him as I had to move interstate for college.

The second was a lovely older man that I met while swimming at a public pool so again there was comfort in no surprises, it was flattering and I was very turned on by the attention he gave me.

The third guy I met on silverdaddies and the very first deliberate targetted manner to find an older male, we are still together and its been a few years.

The fourth guy was just by chance during covid lockdown, when my fuckbuddy couldnt see me because his family was staying with him and he "farmed" me out so to speak to lovely older friend of his. It was totally blind scenario, I never met him or spoke to him and trusted my fuckbuddy and just turned up to his house.

All he told me was to go to this mates place at 8pm on Friday. I never met him, nor spoke to him and had no idea what he looked like. I had blind trust in my partner and as a good submissive, I just did as I was told. At the back of my mind, I knew my partner knew my likes, dislikes and preferences and I was confident he would have "spoken" about us to his mate, so I had faith that his mate would be good for me and good towards me.

Fast forward to that night and everything was great, it was so unexpected and flattering as well, his mate pushed all the right buttons and we had an awesome time together and did so for a few months following that.

My current fuckbuddy obviously knows I have a type and from the way his friend treated me and the wonderful sex we had, its obvious he gave him a full description of what to do and not do with me. I kinda suspected this would happen and really had no issues as I was very pleased and satisfied with the outcome.

Again even in this scenario, I didnt have fear or risk when I went over, but rather a bit of anxiety about the sex that would follow.

 

[BIGBULL29]

I'm not aroused by circle jerks at all.

I'd like to share a man and a woman at the same time. That's super hard to find. Being intimate with both genders. I'm not real into sucking dick, either. My gay side is rather limited but still present. I am not ashamed of it.

The thing that turns me on more than anything is kissing another dude because it's so taboo. The other sex stuff doesn't arouse me as much. Hard to find

But overall, I like eating pussy and penetrating pussy way more than doing sexual acts with a man. I think what turns me on most about men besides taboo kissing is possibly feeling them or touching their asses when they're inside a woman. That gets me rock hard. But, other than that...

Hard to find this stuff in real life. I'm just not into typical gay sex stuff at all. It's all very specific.

PS: I'd like to have Dante Colle and a fuller big-tittied voluptuous woman in one evening. I'd think I'd pay thousand dollars or more for it.

 

[dickthrobbing]

I have a few fwb that came from a hook-up meets.

Having said that my fwb are outside of my normal circle of friends, so I would say more MTF (mates that fuck)

 

[goldscorpguy]

MTF (mates that fuck)

I think that phrase could catch on!

 

[elklindoxxx]

I get what you're saying about safety. I would love to find a local JO club. But here in LA driving 30 miles is like driving 2 hrs. I have found the cruising side works for me as I can meet them online... Meet at a park... And if we look at each other and decide no... One of us heads the other way. No one gets upset (so far). Now there those that do the "meet up in the park bathroom...". Not me. Out in the open first.

In NYC, with all of the crimes perpetrated against the LGBTQ community, it's way too risky to meet people online. You have no idea who you are dealing with. I don't want to put my fellow LGPTQ brothers and sisters into harm's way. It's a difficult life enough as it is. And there has been a major increase in these type of crimes recently in the NYC area.

So going to the JO club is really one of the very few safe venues that we have to cruise for other men. And it's well with the 1.5hr trip for me to get there.

 

[WilliamG]

In NYC, with all of the crimes perpetrated against the LGBTQ community, it's way too risky to meet people online. You have no idea who you are dealing with. I don't want to put my fellow LGPTQ brothers and sisters into harm's way. It's a difficult life enough as it is. And there has been a major increase in these type of crimes recently in the NYC area.

So going to the JO club is really one of the very few safe venues that we have to cruise for other men. And it's well with the 1.5hr trip for me to get there.

I'm a daytime (mostly empty) park kind of guy. Here in Cali we have the winter weather for it. Lots of safe options.