Did your father ever talk to you about? (18+ only)

[deleted13728981]

Wow, this is so heartwarming to read. How lucky you and your sons are. I grew up with a dad like that, and it’s painful when people think that it’s weird to have so much openness like we did. Like you, I think it’s just the opposite — I feel bad for them that they grew up so afraid and ashamed all the time.

We've all had different experiences. My dad was not open at all and because of that I'm doing the opposite with my sons. I could never imagine talking to my dad about masturbation but I want them to be able to come to me about anything and not feel embarrassed.

 

[DerekD]

I started masturbating after I found my dad's porn movies and found out I was gay. A few years later I attempted a conversation about sex with my father, but he didn't want to say anything. This confused me because my relationship with sex is complicated.

 

[DerekD]

My experience with my father is just the opposite.

I'm quite lucky I guess in that I have a dad and an older brother, so I had plenty of older guys to answer my questions without turning to google. They were both happy to help, my dad was really helpful, even going as far to look up gay-related stuff in case I was into dudes. Which didn't end up happening ahah, but it's still really considerate of him. Definitely grateful to have the both of them, otherwise I would have learnt about everything from porn lmao

 

[deleted15329811]

Not a word!

 

[NerdAlert]

If a father can't sit down with his son(s) and have a frank discussion about what it is to be a man, that is one father I feel sorry for. A father son bond and an open, honest relationship is one thing I cherish with my sons as my father did with me.

As someone who really struggled growing up without a dad (and still struggles without having one as an adult), this is really beautiful to hear.

 

[maroon1040]

Mine was pretty much quiet when it came to sex and bod aside from early years showers to teach basic physical hygiene and using a urinal. So when I reached puberty, I got an illustrated book on puberty from parents to describe what would happen to my bod. Cant remember the title but it was spot on regarding bodily functions and changes.

 

[blondebuddy21]

Yeah he talked to me about masturbating, sex, puberty and just about becoming a man!

 

[korewamizu]

my dad was pretty young when I was born he was only 19 and didn’t really act much like a father but more of a bigger brother, he always talk about how he had sex and shared tips, once I asked him what to do if I have a problem with finishing too fast and he pulled his dik out and told me to squeeze the tip and demonstrated lol

 

[deleted15329811]

Didn't say a word about anything! He's kind of a dip stick!

 

[melblad74]

Had already been doing it for a bit before he did but he and I had a pretty open and enlightening conversation bout it. He was always super forthcoming bout that stuff.

Hell we still talk bout it from time to time!

lucky you! sounds like you had/have a great open relationship with your dad!

 

[Pedritohola26]

In the past not a single word from him about sex, I found out about masturbation on my own and about adult body or sex from a book in school library. He wasn't bad father but we weren't close also he was shy and tried to distract me with others thing when I was curious about it.

But nowadays we are close more than before as he has to overnight with me every month for meeting doctor, so the conversation about sex or joke about sex things is going naturally especially from me like I have a new friend. there're many things he is excited to explore especially from my suggestion or my invitation without mom knows. lol

 

[Qazrol]

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there're many things he is excited to explore especially from my suggestion or my invitation without mom knows. lol

Explore with other man? How did you convince him?

 

[deleted6636031]

Explore with other man? How did you convince him?

If he is like mine well he was always like that..

 

[Pedritohola26]

If he is like mine well he was always like that..

Mine is a lot of things that he didn't do before his retirement like sauna, onsen, strip club or talking about sex stuff on social medias as sex toys or clip in twitter.

 

[Beeman18]

I guess I was blessed! After my Mom realized that I was jacking off by catching me. My Dad sat me down and explained things to me as far as sex and being a man! He followed it up by further explaining how to deal with having a large cock. At some point my Mother came and explained that when she caught she of course noticed size which caused this talk because she knew that my father was also large and wanted to make sure I understood what I had!

 

[Clrwtrdlbud71-fl]

Dads need to man up and talk to their sons, ridiculous to have these beings we say we love then aban them to go through alone the mental state of figuring out what/when/how/why is happening, plus the unnecessary guilt of an unnecessary little secret that results from going at it alone. Besides, wlits a wonderful opportunity for bonding between fathers and sons, wasted if let be.

If one is man enough to 'dip it', be man enough to speak!

 

[deleted6636031]

Dads need to man up and talk to their sons, ridiculous to have these beings we say we love then aban them to go through alone the mental state of figuring out what/when/how/why is happening, plus the unnecessary guilt of an unnecessary little secret that results from going at it alone. Besides, wlits a wonderful opportunity for bonding between fathers and sons, wasted if let be.

If one is man enough to 'dip it', be man enough to speak!

Yup. Things would be easier that way. Dads and sons should share everything...

 

[deleted814719]

Not a word. And I never discussed masturbation with my two sons. I guess I felt it is something they'd discover on their own.

Probably a miss on my part. We did discuss sex with a woman and being responsible. Never discussed techniques.

 

[chrisrobin]

It turned out that it was me giving the talk! Through a very complicated turn of events I suddenly found I was going to be a father, turned out to be twin boys. Just as suddenly as I had taken on parental responsibilities she upped and left with a guy who had a huge cock, no sense of motherhood or responsibilities. so, having raised them, hopefully unaware that I preferred guys it came down to having to have the talk, the first of several, when I found them jacking off together. First thing that flashed into my mind was they';re bound to ask if they'll go blind!

Having been reassured they wouldn't go blind or anything the next step was to explain that it was a natural thing to do and part of growing up and getting on the path to manhood. The most important bit was to instill in them it wasn't something they should be ashamed of and done furtively - obviously there are boundaries but common sense would tell them that.

 

[rusevcrush1]

I guess I was blessed! After my Mom realized that I was jacking off by catching me. My Dad sat me down and explained things to me as far as sex and being a man! He followed it up by further explaining how to deal with having a large cock. At some point my Mother came and explained that when she caught she of course noticed size which caused this talk because she knew that my father was also large and wanted to make sure I understood what I had!

What exactly did he explain to you? I would love to hear it