I have a question for you. If you happen to fall in love with a man in future which is rare (don't know if you are married currently), will you tell him you are more attracted to women especially looking at your attraction metric so that he knows if he wants to take the plunge? Remember, disclosing you are bisexual is different from telling him the gender you are more attracted to
As for the bolded, we keep hearing the same thing from bisexuals "we aren't all like that", why don't you guys ever call your fellow bi men out giving y'all a bad name? I call out gay men who are attracted to straight men all the time because they arm homophobes with the narrative that gay men wants to "convert" straight men but I've never seen a bisexual person call out their fellow bi person rather it's always the monosexual's fault for being biphobic making it seem like bi people have no fault
Before I answer your question let me ask these questions;
Are all gay men attracted to all men?
Are all lesbians attracted to all women?
Are all straight men attracted to all women?
Are all straight women attracted to all men?
The answer is no.
Do gay men end relationships because they find a more attractive man?
Do lesbians end relationships because they find a more attractive women?
Do straight men end relationships because they find a more physically attractive women?
Do straight women end relationships because they find a more attractive man?
Maybe immature people do, but most relationship end because of a compatibility issue.
There is no simple answer for attraction or relationship duration for bisexual men either; it's not a binary, it's not either or, more or less, it can change (the bi-cycle is real). Attraction is heavily influenced by the individual(s) and all relationship end until one doesn't. The end of all relationships is hard and painful for both people but usually never equally hard or equally painful for both people. Relationships are also not depositions or interrogations under a white hot spotlight. People are imperfect, regardless of the gender or sexuality.
I think Robin Ochs' definition of bisexuality is the most accurate, she says "I call myself bisexual because I acknowledge that I have in myself the potential to be attracted – romantically and/or sexually – to people of more than one gender, not necessarily at the same time, not necessarily in the same way, and not necessarily to the same degree."
Your statement “why don't you guys ever call your fellow bi men out giving y'all a bad name?” Is a loaded statement. A loaded statement is a form of a statement or in some cases a questions, that contains a controversial assumption and or a presumption of guilt. Such statements or questions are sometimes rhetorical tools, the statements or question attempts to limit direct replies to be those that serve the questioner's agenda. The traditional example is the question "Have you stopped beating your wife?"
For the record,
I have never heard a bisexual say "we aren't all like that”.
“why don't you guys ever call your fellow bi men out giving y'all a bad name?” Another loaded statement. Speaking of bad names, nothing worse than a bitchy old queen.
Also for the record, I have never seen or heard you or any other gay man call out a gay man for bad behavior like gay men trying to convert straight men. Ironically that is one of the fastest growing genres in porn right now. I know, I know, porn it’s real and cue the dramatic music as gay men begin to twist themselves into pretzels while clutching their pearls claiming they are the true victims of that porn genre (sorry that was a little snarky but the mental image made me laugh).
Now to your question to me, which was loaded with assumptions, I am not sure why. Can you explain your assumptions about me? I am in a seven, almost 8 year relationship with a man and a woman. They have been married for 25 years. We have been a throuple for about a 1/3 of their marriage and this is my second longest relationship. We do all things couples do. Sometimes all three together, sometime he & me, sometime she and me, sometimes it's the two of them and we each have individual interests and activities that the others don't have that we pursue and enjoy solo or with other friend(s). It's a remarkably normal relationship. We love, care for and are attracted to each other uniquely, equally and differently, sometimes all on the same day. I couldn't say to either of my partners that I am more attracted to men or women. Attraction is unique and individual.
I hope that answers your questions and you have an enjoyable weekend!
