You are more concerned with this and the optics of what we are saying than the facts on the ground.
If you have a problem like that you deal with its source, religion, ignorance, idiots etc. because very soon mainstream society will discover that sexuality is not fixed like activists claim, it is malleable in certain conditions, and very stubborn in many others. We are all born SEXUAL with varying propensities towards different things.
To only see sexuality as black and white out of fear of the religious zealots is a disservice to mankind and science. The solution is to get declaw religion and allow the truth to be free. Build a society on it instead of thousands of years of lies.
Furthermore, the argument for gay rights is a liberal one. If it's a gene I have it, if it's a choice I made it. It's not "it's not my fault, I was born this way", it's "my life, my choices, my rules". That is true freedom.
Pushing "Born This Way" as the only explanation for human sexuality is not only unscientific, it is also bullshit.
Everyone is so concerned with stupid labels. It's getting out of hand. We need to take it back basics.
I am personally more interested in finding out where the limits are and where the source is. No matter what the answer is, I'll embrace it. Even if it is something I don't agree with.