Gay men don't go run and hide in a heterosexual relationship
Do Bisexual men actually settle down with men?
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Yeah but that has nothing to do with bi guys don't want men
I...
Of all the inane nonsense you've spewed all over this thread, this takes the cake. I can't imagine anyone taking your "arguments" seriously after this, assuming they did so before. Congratulations, this is your very own "they're eating cats and dogs" moment.
Many do, or have. Especially in the non-Western world. I even know gay men from the USA, Canada, Germany, and especially gay sons of immigrants or 1st gen citizens, especially in Asian families as they are expected to marry women and have children or stay married to women.
Okay, let's have some fun
Straight celebrities who had gay or bisexual spouses (some of them are straight men);
Judy Garland
Fran Drescher
Carrie Fisher
Liza Minnelli
Lou Dimond Phillips
Carol Channing
Angela Lansbury
Berry Berenson
Charlotte Rae
Elsa Lanchester
Amansa Blake
Martha Raye
Janet Gaynor
Charles Bryant
Venessa Redgrave
Wait there’s more, gay male celebrities ( to be fair, there are a couple bisexual men in the mix) who married women before coming out…
Rock Hudson
Phillip Schofield
Elton John
Jason Ross
Peter Allen
Little Richard
Anthony Perkins
Micheal C Hall
Barry Manilow
Bryan Lourd
Peter Marc Jacobson
Tony Richardson
Alan Cummings
Vent Manelli
Oscar Wilde
Al Reynolds
Jonathan Plumber
Mark Haron
Jim McGreevey
Cole Porter
yeah, gay men don't run and hide in hetero relationships .... its' just the bi's... okay
wait, what's that saying.... oh yeah, "no matter how hot someone is somebody is sick of their bullshit" Maybe bisexual men are getting tied of gay men's bullshit.
Well, we know how it ended for Oscar Wilde when his homosexual relationship got exposed. As for Cole, Rock and others from Old Hollywood, coming out would be a career suicide. Almost everyone was getting married at the time. Michael C. Hall was only ever married to women.
In 2018 Michael C. Hall said he identifies as “not all the way heterosexual”
Thought that I've heard something similar some time ago, but wasn't sure. Thanks for the info and quote. Still, Devon Graye is the OG queer Dexter.
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That seems to be a fair identity. But to some... If you're curious, you're bi. Which means if you're bi... You're closeted gay.
You don't like bisexual men. Stick to gay men, that's what you're really into. Unless...you mean to lead bisexual men on and lie to them...
Nah bi guys leaning more towards men are better and I don't need to lie at least they want a relationship instead of just not liking men for only one thing
They are too busy sticking their noses where it doesn't belong, they are clouded by judgmental narrow minded beliefs.
Honestly, my sense is they don’t want a relationship with you not because they’re bisexual but for a different reasons.
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Damn.
So today a guy I've been talking to from Scotland gave me the I'm bisexual not biromantic line. I appreciated him being upfront about it (and actually knowing the difference between the two), but damn it still sucked for a bit. Rationally I knew he did the sensible thing, but dem burgeoning feelings....
Anyway, I remembered this thread and you guys. <3
So today a guy I've been talking to from Scotland gave me the I'm bisexual not biromantic line. I appreciated him being upfront about it (and actually knowing the difference between the two), but damn it still sucked for a bit. Rationally I knew he did the sensible thing, but dem burgeoning feelings....
Anyway, I remembered this thread and you guys. <3
How is that possible. I was assured by the rational homosexuals in this thread that those rotten bisexuals love to lead guys on and play with their emotions, never disclosing they aren't interested romantically.
Will wonders never cease?
Hey everyone, it's bisexual awareness month. Below is a reading list from Zachary Zane, a bisexual male, prolific writer and bisexual activist. To the extent you're interested I hope you find the list interesting, helpful and insightful.
Have a great week!
Sexplain It: I’ve Identified as Gay for So Long, but I Really Like Women. Zachary Zane, Men’s Health (2021).
When Can I Call Myself Bisexual? Zachary Zane, Bi.org (2017).
What About That One in a Million Same-Sex Crush? Zachary Zane, Bi.org (2018).
What to Do When Your ‘Straight’ Boyfriend Comes Out to You as Bisexual. Zachary Zane, Vice (2021).
Sexplain It: I’m Bi. How Do I Start Having Sex With More Women? Zachary Zane, Men’s Health (2021)
Sexplain It: My Boyfriend Is Interested in Guys, but Doesn’t Want to Have a Threesome. Zachary Zane, Men’s Health (2021).
Putting ‘Bisexual’ on My Dating Profile Changed Everything. Zachary Zane, Swipelife.Tinder.com (2019).
What It’s Like to be a Bi Guy on Tinder. Sofia Barrett-Ibarria, Melmagazine.com (2018).
The Silver Lining of Dating While Bi. Zachary Zane, Bi.org (2016).
I’m Bi and I Use Tinder Differently With Men and Women. Zachary Zane, Swipelife.Tinder.com (2019).
Don’t Ask Me for a Threesome to Make Your Boyfriend Happy. Gabrielle Noel, Swipelife.Tinder.com (2019).
When Dating Is Not Easier on the Bi Side. Kristen Thompson, Femsplain.com (2016).
I’ve Always Identified as Gay, But Now Want to Sleep With Women. Zachary Zane, Men’s Health (2020).
How to Come Out to Your Wife as Bisexual. Zachary Zane, Men’s Health (2019).
Bisexuality Is Power. Zachary Zane, Playboy Magazine (2018).
Why Is the Bisexual Label So Daunting? Zachary Zane, Pride.com (2016).
8 Expert Tips For Bi-Curious Men Ready to Explore Their Sexuality. Zachary Zane, Men’s Health (2019).
How Internalized Biphobia Ruined My First Tinder Date. Gabrielle Noel, Swipelife.Tinder.com (2018).
I’m a Bisexual Stereotype Whose Job Is to Dispel Bisexual Stereotypes. Zachary Zane, Slate.com (2017).
Battling the Internalized Biphobia in All of Us. Zachary Zane, Into (2017).
9 Bisexual Men Share What Helped Them Come Out. Zachary Zane, Men’s Health (2019).
Is Everyone Bisexual? Gabrielle Kassel, Healthline (2022).
Why Bisexuals Are So Invisible and What We Can Do About It. Zachary Zane, Pride.com (2016).
Q&A: Bisexual Activist Robyn Ochs On Bi-visibility, Erasure, And The Future Of The Bi+ Movement. Zachary Zane, Huffington Post (2016).
Why Bisexual Men Are So Misunderstood. David Artavia, Yahoo (2021).
Bisexual Men Exist, and It’s Time for Our Moment. Zachary Zane, Men’s Health (2020).
The Epistemic Contract of Bisexual Erasure, Kenji Yoshino, Stanford Law Review (2000). (Note: The article is 56,000 words but a great read to help you understand and address biphobia.)
7 Myths of Dating Bi Guys. Zachary Zane, Bustle.com (2016).
7 Ways To Deal With Biphobia During Pride. Sophie St. Thomas, Pride.com (2018).
Bisexual People Have Long Felt Excluded from Pride Festivities. That’s Finally Changing. Zachary Zane, Washington Post (2019).
I am a Bi Man Who Doesn’t Want to See #BisexualMenExist Trending. Zachary Zane, Men’s Health (2020).
The B in LGBT: Why Bisexual Awareness Week Matters. Zachary Zane, OUT Magazine (2018).
What’s the Real Difference Between Bi and Pansexual? Zachary Zane, Rolling Stone (2018).
The Bi vs. Pan Rivalry Needs to Stop. Zachary Zane, Bi.org (2018).
I’m Bi and It’s Not That Complicated. Zachary Zane, Bi.org (2017).
What Is Pansexuality, and How Is It Different from Bisexuality? Zachary Zane, Prevention (2019).
Examining Physical Health Disparities in Bi People. Zachary Zane, Bi.org (2017).
New Study Explains Why Bi Folks Face Greater Health Disparities. Zachary Zane, Bi.org (2017).
Why Do Bi Women Face Higher Rates of Sexual Assault? Zachary Zane, Bi.org (2017).
Bi Women Are More Likely to Suffer From Opioid Misuse. Zachary Zane, OUT Magazine (2018).
As a Bi Man, It Was Difficult to Watch the ‘Love is Blind’ Carlton-Diamond Fight. Zachary Zane, Men’s Health (2020).
TV Producers, Stop Portraying Bisexuals as Villians. Zachary Zane, Washington Post (2016).
How Bisexuality on TV evolved from a Favorite Punchline to a Vital Storyline. Caroline Framke, Vox (2018).
How TV Is Putting the ‘B’ in LGBTQ — And Why It Matters. Jenna Scherer, Rolling Stone (2019).
How my Polyamorous Boyfriend and I Navigated STIs. Zachary Zane, Waxoh.com (2019).
Who Really Practices Polyamory? Zachary Zane, Rolling Stone (2018).
Three’s Company. Zachary Zane, Plus Magazine (2018).
After Cheating on My Partner, I Wondered: Was Monogamy Right for Me? Zachary Zane, Washington Post (2017).
Being in a Polyamorous Relationship Prepared Me Better for Monogamy. Zachary Zane, Allure (2019).
What If We Thought of Monogamy as a Spectrum? Zachary Zane, Washington Post (2016).
How Polyamory Made Made Me Less Jealous. Zachary Zane, Pride.com (2016).
My Best Gay and Bi Friends Are Friends With Benefits. Zachary Zane, The Advocate (2017).
Dear Bi Men: A Black Man's Perspective on Power, Consent, Breaking Down Binaries, and Combating Erasure. J. R. Yussuf (2024).
Boyslut: A Memoir and Manifesto. Zachary Zane (2023).
Bisexual Men Exist: A Handbook for Bisexual, Pansexual and M-Spec Men. Vaneet Mehta (2023).
All the F*cking Mistakes: A Guide to Sex, Love, and Life. Gigi Engle (2020).
Open: An Uncensored Memoir of Love, Liberation, and Non-Monogamy. Rachel Krantz (2022).
Polysecure: Attachment, Trauma and Consensual Nonmonogamy. Jessica Fern (2020).
Men's Health Best. Sex. Ever.: 200 Frank, Funny & Friendly Answers About Getting It On. Jordyn Taylor and Zachary Zane (2022).
Greedy: Notes from a Bisexual Who Wants Too Much. Jen Winston (2021).
Have a great week!
Am I Bisexual If…?
I Don’t Know Who Needs to Hear This, but You are Bi Enough. Zachary Zane, New York Times (2021).Sexplain It: I’ve Identified as Gay for So Long, but I Really Like Women. Zachary Zane, Men’s Health (2021).
When Can I Call Myself Bisexual? Zachary Zane, Bi.org (2017).
What About That One in a Million Same-Sex Crush? Zachary Zane, Bi.org (2018).
Dating While Bisexual
Sexplain It: My Husband Came Out as Bi But Is Confused About What He Wants. Zachary Zane, Men’s Health (2022).What to Do When Your ‘Straight’ Boyfriend Comes Out to You as Bisexual. Zachary Zane, Vice (2021).
Sexplain It: I’m Bi. How Do I Start Having Sex With More Women? Zachary Zane, Men’s Health (2021)
Sexplain It: My Boyfriend Is Interested in Guys, but Doesn’t Want to Have a Threesome. Zachary Zane, Men’s Health (2021).
Putting ‘Bisexual’ on My Dating Profile Changed Everything. Zachary Zane, Swipelife.Tinder.com (2019).
What It’s Like to be a Bi Guy on Tinder. Sofia Barrett-Ibarria, Melmagazine.com (2018).
The Silver Lining of Dating While Bi. Zachary Zane, Bi.org (2016).
I’m Bi and I Use Tinder Differently With Men and Women. Zachary Zane, Swipelife.Tinder.com (2019).
Don’t Ask Me for a Threesome to Make Your Boyfriend Happy. Gabrielle Noel, Swipelife.Tinder.com (2019).
When Dating Is Not Easier on the Bi Side. Kristen Thompson, Femsplain.com (2016).
I’ve Always Identified as Gay, But Now Want to Sleep With Women. Zachary Zane, Men’s Health (2020).
How to Come Out to Your Wife as Bisexual. Zachary Zane, Men’s Health (2019).
Bisexuality Is Power. Zachary Zane, Playboy Magazine (2018).
Internalized Biphobia
Sexual Orientation OCD Is Hard. It Can Be Even Harder When You Are Bisexual. Zachary Zane, Men’s Health (2021).Why Is the Bisexual Label So Daunting? Zachary Zane, Pride.com (2016).
8 Expert Tips For Bi-Curious Men Ready to Explore Their Sexuality. Zachary Zane, Men’s Health (2019).
How Internalized Biphobia Ruined My First Tinder Date. Gabrielle Noel, Swipelife.Tinder.com (2018).
I’m a Bisexual Stereotype Whose Job Is to Dispel Bisexual Stereotypes. Zachary Zane, Slate.com (2017).
Battling the Internalized Biphobia in All of Us. Zachary Zane, Into (2017).
9 Bisexual Men Share What Helped Them Come Out. Zachary Zane, Men’s Health (2019).
Finding a Bi+ Community
Bi “Visibility” Is Good, but Bi Community Is Better. Zachary Zane, Cosmopolitan, (2022).Is Everyone Bisexual? Gabrielle Kassel, Healthline (2022).
Why Bisexuals Are So Invisible and What We Can Do About It. Zachary Zane, Pride.com (2016).
Q&A: Bisexual Activist Robyn Ochs On Bi-visibility, Erasure, And The Future Of The Bi+ Movement. Zachary Zane, Huffington Post (2016).
How to Deal with Biphobia
What Does It Mean to Be Biphobic? Gabrielle Kassel, Healthline (2022).Why Bisexual Men Are So Misunderstood. David Artavia, Yahoo (2021).
Bisexual Men Exist, and It’s Time for Our Moment. Zachary Zane, Men’s Health (2020).
The Epistemic Contract of Bisexual Erasure, Kenji Yoshino, Stanford Law Review (2000). (Note: The article is 56,000 words but a great read to help you understand and address biphobia.)
7 Myths of Dating Bi Guys. Zachary Zane, Bustle.com (2016).
7 Ways To Deal With Biphobia During Pride. Sophie St. Thomas, Pride.com (2018).
Bisexual People Have Long Felt Excluded from Pride Festivities. That’s Finally Changing. Zachary Zane, Washington Post (2019).
I am a Bi Man Who Doesn’t Want to See #BisexualMenExist Trending. Zachary Zane, Men’s Health (2020).
The B in LGBT: Why Bisexual Awareness Week Matters. Zachary Zane, OUT Magazine (2018).
Identifying as Bisexual, Pansexual, or Both
Why I Proudly Use the Bisexual Label. Zachary Zane, Pride.com (2016).What’s the Real Difference Between Bi and Pansexual? Zachary Zane, Rolling Stone (2018).
The Bi vs. Pan Rivalry Needs to Stop. Zachary Zane, Bi.org (2018).
I’m Bi and It’s Not That Complicated. Zachary Zane, Bi.org (2017).
What Is Pansexuality, and How Is It Different from Bisexuality? Zachary Zane, Prevention (2019).
Health Disparities in the Bi+ Community
In the LGBTQ Community Bisexual People Have More Health Risks. Here’s What Could Help. Zachary Zane, Washington Post (2017).Examining Physical Health Disparities in Bi People. Zachary Zane, Bi.org (2017).
New Study Explains Why Bi Folks Face Greater Health Disparities. Zachary Zane, Bi.org (2017).
Why Do Bi Women Face Higher Rates of Sexual Assault? Zachary Zane, Bi.org (2017).
Bi Women Are More Likely to Suffer From Opioid Misuse. Zachary Zane, OUT Magazine (2018).
Bisexual Media Representation
How I Become the King of Bi Porn. Wolf Hudson as told to Zachary Zane, Men’s Health (2020).As a Bi Man, It Was Difficult to Watch the ‘Love is Blind’ Carlton-Diamond Fight. Zachary Zane, Men’s Health (2020).
TV Producers, Stop Portraying Bisexuals as Villians. Zachary Zane, Washington Post (2016).
How Bisexuality on TV evolved from a Favorite Punchline to a Vital Storyline. Caroline Framke, Vox (2018).
How TV Is Putting the ‘B’ in LGBTQ — And Why It Matters. Jenna Scherer, Rolling Stone (2019).
Bisexuality and Ethical Non-Monogamy
So, Here’s How I Ended Up Living with My Boyfriend and His Wife. Zachary Zane, Hornet (2017).How my Polyamorous Boyfriend and I Navigated STIs. Zachary Zane, Waxoh.com (2019).
Who Really Practices Polyamory? Zachary Zane, Rolling Stone (2018).
Three’s Company. Zachary Zane, Plus Magazine (2018).
After Cheating on My Partner, I Wondered: Was Monogamy Right for Me? Zachary Zane, Washington Post (2017).
Being in a Polyamorous Relationship Prepared Me Better for Monogamy. Zachary Zane, Allure (2019).
What If We Thought of Monogamy as a Spectrum? Zachary Zane, Washington Post (2016).
How Polyamory Made Made Me Less Jealous. Zachary Zane, Pride.com (2016).
My Best Gay and Bi Friends Are Friends With Benefits. Zachary Zane, The Advocate (2017).
Bisexual Books
It Ain't Over Til the Bisexual Speaks: An Anthology of Bisexual Voices. Vaneet Mehta and Lois Shearing (2024).Dear Bi Men: A Black Man's Perspective on Power, Consent, Breaking Down Binaries, and Combating Erasure. J. R. Yussuf (2024).
Boyslut: A Memoir and Manifesto. Zachary Zane (2023).
Bisexual Men Exist: A Handbook for Bisexual, Pansexual and M-Spec Men. Vaneet Mehta (2023).
All the F*cking Mistakes: A Guide to Sex, Love, and Life. Gigi Engle (2020).
Open: An Uncensored Memoir of Love, Liberation, and Non-Monogamy. Rachel Krantz (2022).
Polysecure: Attachment, Trauma and Consensual Nonmonogamy. Jessica Fern (2020).
Men's Health Best. Sex. Ever.: 200 Frank, Funny & Friendly Answers About Getting It On. Jordyn Taylor and Zachary Zane (2022).
Greedy: Notes from a Bisexual Who Wants Too Much. Jen Winston (2021).
I think I might be homoromantic and bisexual. Such a weird world!
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