Guys Being Blunt And To The Point.

[Ms.M]

Planting one's face in one's own asshole is not a violation of ToS. It's just a personality disorder.

I had noticed that trolling seems to get ignored fairly often by the moderating team, from posts I've seen from other users on here. Not my place to mind the rules or the enforcement of 'em, though. I would say that outside of the initial post in the thread from the OP that their behavior has fallen well within what is written in the rules for the site. What do I know, though?

 

[Tight_N_Juicy]

I had noticed that trolling seems to get ignored fairly often by the moderating team, from posts I've seen from other users on here. Not my place to mind the rules or the enforcement of 'em, though. I would say that outside of the initial post in the thread from the OP that their behavior has fallen well within what is written in the rules for the site. What do I know, though?

I think trolling is harder to "convict" as a moderator. I've never been one, but I've seen how trolls are handled on a few different forums and from what I've seen generally it's not as easy to pin down.

There are definitely some cases where is obvious trolling and it gets dismissed, but I think that might be because there is so much other shit going on on a site like this prioritizing has to happen and trolling gets kicked down the list of tasks to deal with.

I may be completely wrong, I'm just speculating. I do think it's gotten better than it used to be by a wide margin. There are still kinks to with out (pun not intended but welcum).

Just bored and adding my pennies cuz fuck it.

 

[Ms.M]

I think trolling is harder to "convict" as a moderator. I've never been one, but I've seen how trolls are handled on a few different forums and from what I've seen generally it's not as easy to pin down.

There are definitely some cases where is obvious trolling and it gets dismissed, but I think that might be because there is so much other shit going on on a site like this prioritizing has to happen and trolling gets kicked down the list of tasks to deal with.

I may be completely wrong, I'm just speculating. I do think it's gotten better than it used to be by a wide margin. There are still kinks to with out (pun not intended but welcum).

Just bored and adding my pennies cuz fuck it.

Fair. Not my business truly in any case. If I had major issues with the site, I just wouldn't return.

 

[Add9er]

Keep it limp, and dry.

To answer your stupid question: no. I don't want some random simpleton blurting out that he's willing to fuck me. Even when I was looking purely for sex... I wasn't looking to fuck a total moron/asshole.

So, no.

Don't chafe it, bruh.

Im not talking about a rando walking up to and asking in first few minutes. Its if you’ve hung out with them the whole night and had chemistry. I just never understood why that’s so bad to be direct.

 

[Tight_N_Juicy]

Im not talking about a rando walking up to and asking in first few minutes. Its if you’ve hung out with them the whole night and had chemistry. I just never understood why that’s so bad to be direct.

Ok so that has happened to me (kinda). More than once. I know most of the people I've fucked very well, and knew them long before we fucked. So there was no need to be anything but blunt. I've flat out told men before too, hey you wanna fuck around? I've had some say yes, some say no.

The way you phrased your OP and reacted to the replies you got gave a particular impression. Not a flattering one either, if you didn't pick up on that.

 

[Tight_N_Juicy]

Oh, and I just don't think meeting someone and telling them *that same night* "hey, wanna fuck?" is in any way a good idea.

My experiences are not like that. The bluntness came from a level of comfort that can only be built (with me) over time. Not in one night.

Edit: maybe to you it's not a big deal because your level of physical comfort is starting on a different level. Men I don't know are potentially dangerous, no matter how much "chemistry" we might have. I know this from experience. So, on the first night I don't want a blunt offer for sex. It's just not something that makes me comfortable around a new person. The opposite, actually.

 

[Add9er]

Oh, and I just don't think meeting someone and telling them *that same night* "hey, wanna fuck?" is in any way a good idea.

My experiences are not like that. The bluntness came from a level of comfort that can only be built (with me) over time. Not in one night.

Edit: maybe to you it's not a big deal because your level of physical comfort is starting on a different level. Men I don't know are potentially dangerous, no matter how much "chemistry" we might have. I know this from experience. So, on the first night I don't want a blunt offer for sex. It's just not something that makes me comfortable around a new person. The opposite, actually.

That makes sense about the safety. And I probably won’t ask that ever anyway. I was more curious if it sounds desperate or crass and a general turnoff.

 

[Tight_N_Juicy]

That makes sense about the safety. And I probably won’t ask that ever anyway. I was more curious if it sounds desperate or crass and a general turnoff.

I think a lot of men forget to keep in mind that even though you may not be an abusive, dangerous person I don't know that. And too many men who *are* very fucking dangerous are also very "charming", for lack of a better word.

It is a general turn off if it's coming from someone I've only known a day or even a few. Coming from someone I know well it's not offensive. Hell, my guy who I'm insanely in love with did exactly that. The first time we fucked he just asked "do you want it?" I said yes, and we fucking FUCKED.

So it's all about context and having a level of comfort and trust with the person who's being blunt.

I hope you took something away from this conversation. There's a lot to soak up in this one.

 

[MickeyLee]

TnJ being ultra-suede as always.

 

[Tight_N_Juicy]

TnJ being ultra-suede as always.

*Dusts shoulder*

I try. I come feisty, but rational. Most of the time

 

[EllieP]

I'll answer your original question.

I have never gone looking for a hookup in a bar or anywhere else. But I have had men ask me if I wanted to sleep with them. My answer has always been "let's not, but you can pretend we did." Because I know he probably would anyway.

I sometimes felt as if I was viewed as a cheap blonde. For some reason large breasted women with blonde hair are viewed by some to be eternally horny and always on the hunt. Nothing could be further from the truth in my case. I don't carry extra horniness in my boobs, contrary to popular belief.

Now, if I'm in a relationship with someone and he would say he would be so grateful if I did the pokey pokey with him, and I was so inclined to do the pokey pokey, too, well that's a different story. Pokey pokey would almost assuredly be in our near future.

 

[Add9er]

Thank you for the sincere answer.

I sometimes felt as if I was viewed as a cheap blonde. For some reason large breasted women with blonde hair are viewed by some to be eternally horny and always on the hunt. Nothing could be further from the truth in my case. I don't carry extra horniness in my boobs, contrary to popular belief.

I can understand why you’d feel that way, but let me say this: when guys ask for sex right away, there’s no hidden meaning. We don’t think you’re promiscuous or view you as an object or uneducated. Hell, we would try and have sex with the First Lady (if there was attraction). Its not even a notch to add to the body count. It’s almost always about being horny and the pleasure of fucking. I will always try and have sex on the first date; whether I think she’s gonna be my future wife, or just a one-time deal.

 

[Tight_N_Juicy]

Thank you for the sincere answer.

I can understand why you’d feel that way, but let me say this: when guys ask for sex right away, there’s no hidden meaning. We don’t think you’re promiscuous or view you as an object or uneducated. Hell, we would try and have sex with the First Lady (if there was attraction). Its not even a notch to add to the body count. It’s almost always about being horny and the pleasure of fucking. I will always try and have sex on the first date; whether I think she’s gonna be my future wife, or just a one-time deal.

That's just it though... You can only speak for yourself, not men as a whole.

And, I'm not accusing you of being one but how do I know you're not just playing "the super honest guy" who actually has predatory intentions? I don't. Not on the first night of meeting you.

I have come to a point where I believe people who have ONS's and never find themselves victimized are just plain lucky. I don't think it's ever worth the risk.

If that means a few (or a lot) of good men have to be patient and earn the trust of people they want to fuck I'm fine with it. And if they're *truly* good men, they'll be fine with it too.

 

[Add9er]

That's just it though... You can only speak for yourself, not men as a whole.

And, I'm not accusing you of being one but how do I know you're not just playing "the super honest guy" who actually has predatory intentions? I don't. Not on the first night of meeting you.

I have come to a point where I believe people who have ONS's and never find themselves victimized are just plain lucky. I don't think it's ever worth the risk.

If that means a few (or a lot) of good men have to be patient and earn the trust of people they want to fuck I'm fine with it. And if they're *truly* good men, they'll be fine with it too.

I was responding to Ellie’s point about being viewed as a slut or object. I totally agree with your point about safety. Yes there are predators with a different motive for wanting sex than the typical guy.

 

[Tight_N_Juicy]

I was responding to Ellie’s point about being viewed as a slut or object. I totally agree with your point about safety. Yes there are predators with a different motive for wanting sex than the typical guy.

I know, and I just felt it was relevant to mention one more time that *you* may have your intentions and a mind that doesn't judge women for being sexually open/highly active but that doesn't make much difference because that's not something you can express in the time frame you're using. Well, you can say specific words but they don't hold much weight when so many women have heard so many things before and turned out it was all bullshit. So, I just felt like it was worth repeating.

Being blunt is a turn off for a variety of reasons but the biggest one that comes to my mind is that I simply can't put that amount of trust into a person I've known one day. When I have sex with a man I'm allowing him Inside My Body. PIV sex is invasive for women, even when we're enjoying it. Part of a man's body is literally inside mine during sex. And typically, we're in a position where his physical strength is something he could easily use to do basically whatever he wants.

I'm not a small woman, and I'm not a weak one either. Mentally or physically. That doesn't mean I'm not vulnerable *every* time I have sex with my man. The amount of trust I have to have to allow someone to be that close to me is significant. I think a lot more straight men would understand if they stopped and wondered how they would experience sex if *they* were the ones being penetrated and were physically weaker than us. They don't stop to wonder how we experience sex outside of "how big do you like his dick to be?" There's so much more going on.

 

[Add9er]

I know, and I just felt it was relevant to mention one more time that *you* may have your intentions and a mind that doesn't judge women for being sexually open/highly active but that doesn't make much difference because that's not something you can express in the time frame you're using.

On a side note, I don’t think guys truly judge women for being promiscuous. Most of us love sluts. I think they slut-shame cause they’re mad about getting rejected, not having enough sex, or just cause they know it gets under the woman’s skin.

Being blunt is a turn off for a variety of reasons but the biggest one that comes to my mind is that I simply can't put that amount of trust into a person I've known one day. When I have sex with a man I'm allowing him Inside My Body

But is that really a turn off? That sounds more like you’re just being smart and vigilante about your safety. By ‘turnoff’ I meant, does it make the guy look like a horn dog or deuchebag?

 

[Add9er]

On a side note, I don’t think guys truly judge women for being promiscuous. Most of us love sluts. I think they slut-shame cause they’re mad about getting rejected, not having enough sex, or just cause they know it gets under the woman’s skin.


But is that really a turn off? That sounds more like you’re just being smart and vigilante about your safety. By ‘turnoff’ I meant, does it make the guy look like a horn dog or deuchebag?

Also, many women get turned off if the guy isn’t aggressive on the first night. I remember a long time ago some woman called me a pussy for not trying to bang her, lol. She was a bit drunk but still.

Also, this isn’t a brag, but the women who want second dates are always the ones I slept with right away. The ones who ghost have been ones where for whatever reason, I did not try and fuck them.

 

[Tight_N_Juicy]

On a side note, I don’t think guys truly judge women for being promiscuous. Most of us love sluts. I think they slut-shame cause they’re mad about getting rejected, not having enough sex, or just cause they know it gets under the woman’s skin.


But is that really a turn off? That sounds more like you’re just being smart and vigilante about your safety. By ‘turnoff’ I meant, does it make the guy look like a horn dog or deuchebag?

Again, you can only speak for you.

It does turn me off simply because I think by this point in my life the kind of man I want to have approach me is the kind who already understands that he needs to let me develop a level of trust before he attempts to get inside me. He should want to prove to himself that I'm someone *he* can trust as well. I don't wanna get approached by a man who doesn't care if I'm a piece of shit. I wanna man who wants to know for a fact that I'm a fucking badass. And I am.

 

[MickeyLee]

Umm women who freely express/act upon their sexual energy/desires are not sluts.

Slut is one of those reclaimed words. A woman can call herself a slut, that's it. Posts prove that word has no business being in your mouth.

Playing catch up with the thread I can see why you try to get it in before you talk yaself right out of it again.

LPSG an adult site not a porn script. You can just say women. I like women. We'll get the idea.

 

[Scarletbegonia]

If you were single and horny and looking for a hookup (at a bar, on a date), would it ruin it if the guy straight-up asked, “Do you want to have sex?”. Or does it have to be more subtle/indirect, like him asking if you wanna go back to his place?

isn’t asking to go back to anyone’s place the same thing? Unless there’s an Xbox involved, I hear.

when my guy invited me over one evening, he wondered if it was too forward. Yes, HE wondered.
Did I actually think the invite was only about sex? Nah. But I knew it was on offer.

once something’s established “hey wanna fuck” could be your jam.

but first meet? Attempt some manners.