AlteredEgo
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I never looked at it like that before, but from a woman`s point of view I see how it would make sense.
Yeah, you really have to know what you want and can expect from a man before you have sex with him. If you don't meet that rush of hormones with the right perspective and expectations you're asking for heartache.
This is what some of the women in this thread have been the most concerned about. You don't understand. We get that you were not trying to convince her to stay for sex. We do. But you tried to convince her to stay, and it doesn't matter why. You could have had that conversation in the car driving her home. She was freaked out, and wanted to leave. Your hesitation to comply didn't make her feel safer.I just want to reitirate that after she had said that she would like to go home I did not try and convince her to change her mind to stay and have sex, but rather I was just curious to know what happened to have her want to go home so suddenly and what is it that I had done to put her off as I was certain I did something somehow to cause her reaction but I was absolutely at a loss to think of what that may have been.
I once stabbed a man who might have been like you. To this day, I would swear in a court of law that he kidnapped me. He was a taxi driver who stopped the car in a desolate area to argue with me about the price.I asked him to call the dispatcher to verify the disputed price, but he wouldn't. I asked him to take me back where he got me and let me take another cab. He just continued to argue prices with me. The doors were locked and only the driver could unlock them. I asked a few more times to be returned to where he got me about a mile away. I told him I was afraid. Eventually I gave him a potentially fatal stabbing wound, used his surprise as an opportunity to unlock my door from his controls, and fled, leaving my weapon still in him.
But maybe from his perspective he didn't kidnap me, he just pulled over where he happened to be and tried to settle the price before we got too far along on our 15+ mile trip. Maybe he was just having a reasonable discussion with some passenger who randomly stabbed him and ran.
This is how different men and women are. It never occurred to that guy that I could hurt him, let alone make an attempt on his life. He took me to a place where I felt trapped and isolated. I wasn't talking out of my ass when I told him I was scared. I was! He was bigger, stronger, probably faster, and the situation didn't feel right. So, I stabbed him. If I had it to do over, I would stab him again, and take my fingerprint-laden weapon with me upon my exit.
You see, this is a concept you really need to grasp sooner rather than later. The second a woman doesn't feel safe with you, you must act in a way which reassures her. If she has already told you what would make her feel safe again, "could you please take me home?" just do it. Do that first. Find out why she felt unsafe after you have begun taking action to make her safe again. Remember: if she is like me, your life may depend upon it.