[HELP] Too tight to be fucked?

[Lordh]

Hi guys! I need some help! I recently had my first time with my magic guy.. It was amazing, I really enjoyed that, as my buddy, obviously.

He's not muscle, even if I love muscles men. He's a little bit fat, but, hey, I like it, and his face is cute, handsome, and his beard is... amazing! Love to hug guys with "substance" lol
I'm toned, and I'm going to start gym this week, so I will improve my body. I'm telling you this because my guy is quite annoyed by his belly - his family suffer obesity, and he's explained me that he's "lucky" to be "just" a little fat, and that he'll start gym, too - and when he has fun with muscles/toned guys... He start to overthink about his body, not to be enough sexy, enough hot..!
That's stupid! If a guy flirt with you, it's because he likes you, c'mon!

The result is that he's problem to fuck me... (sorry if I take so much to reach the point!) Or better, to maintain erection when he has to fuck me. He's hard when he kisses me, when I suck him and when he sucks me. He likes me, a lot. But when he is going to put his cock inside me... STOP. I start to wank him, or suck him, he become hard, but when he tries again... You already know.

He rims me, I'm relaxed, I enjoy his cock (not so big to hurt me so much). But I'm obviously tight. Very tight. He told me that he considers himself the problem, and it makes me sooo sad!!! I notice how he's annoyed by that and he started talking about pills (relaxing herbs, not viagra..), and I suggest him to talk with friends, before. I'm quite worried he starts taking pills, or shit.

So, I'd like to know:
1) if fucking a really tight hole is difficult
2) how can I help him
3) what I can suggest him (to do or not to do)

THANK YOU FOR ALL YOUR SUPPORT!!! :redface:

 

[ryanart]

hi I, had the same problem. Exactly the same. here is what I did. when I knew we were going to be together, I would . when alone an hour before I would use a dildo to get my self "warmed up" when the time came. for him to make love to me we never had a problem after that at all.

 

[southeastone]

If he's not keeping it up when he goes to fuck you I would guess subconsciously that he is a bottom or that at some time he has had a shitty cock which has put him off?.
Try saying "no" fucking for 2 weeks just stick to the stuff you both enjoy but take the pressure off him to perform then build up to it. Try spooning with him behind you just watching a film or something and take it real slow, give nature a chance!

 

[uncut_in_tx]

Take it slow. Get together when time makes no difference. Be nude and cuddle. Suck and fondle each other. Let him finger you plenty so you're both relaxed. KY is a must. I've had a lover who couldn't stay hard when it came time to fucking me. We slowed down and pretty soon, he was in me good!

 

[iminri]

There are times that I experience this problem, mostly if I'm concerned that I'm hurting my partner. I think ryanart gave you the best suggestion. Good luck!