As a man happily circumcised as an adult (no underlying medical issues), I would encourage you to try and learn to love your body as is. I know it is more difficult when you had no say in it, but having experienced it both ways all I can do is assure you that you really are not missing out on much. Sex is as great as it has ever been, sensitivity loss is minimal even 6-7 years down the road and I haven’t really noticed any change since my first couple of months post op, so I doubt my circumcision will have any further impact. Wanking took a bit to get re-used to, but overall it’s just as easy and pleasurable even with a tight cut and no lube once you adjust your technique. Otherwise cock looks smooth and nice, feels cleaner and the wife very much approves of it, having had both circumcised and uncircumcised partners before me. Whatever benefits there are to foreskin, I can assure you they are functionally insignificant, at least in my experience (and unlike most men I can speak from experience).
The internet is full of exaggerated claims and misinformation on both sides of the circumcision debate, which can lead one to feel insecure about their body and this really is a shame. My advice is to not give in to heated debates, unproven claims about the negative impact of circumcision, or exaggerated and baseless statements about how great foreskins are.
Also, over a third of men are circumcised globally and we have been doing it for millennia. There are two things I can infer from this myself:
- It can’t possibly be bad in any noticeable way sexually if you look at it from a historical perspective. We have lived in patriarchal societies for most of our existence (not something to be proud of though), and the satisfaction of men and their sexual desires was (and still is in some places) quite high on the agenda. It doesn’t make sense if the same societies had evolved to perform a procedure on their males that would have reduced their ability to enjoy sex. This is much different from FGM where often the intervention is far from the minimally invasive equivalent of removing the prepuce, and involves removing the clitoris head, hinting at men controlling women’s bodies and limiting their ability to enjoy sex. Men removing their foreskins when this may cause harm doesn’t really add up in this context.
- There is nothing inherently unnatural about being circumcised. I am not using the strict meaning of the word “unnatural” (otherwise cutting your nails, removing body and face hair, wearing dental braces, piercing ears etc. would also be unnatural), but rather to refer to something which is uncommon, wicked, or bizarre, as I understand you feel ashamed. Since over a billion men globally currently do not have a foreskin, I do not see how that could make a circumcised penis odd or unusual. With perhaps very few exceptions, people have seen a circumcised penis, many have one themselves or have experienced it with sexual partners. Having a circumcised penis is not more unusual than shaving your pubes or getting a tattoo or piercing. Sure, there are regional variances, but even then, it really is no biggie. I live in Scotland where the vast majority of men are not circumcised. For some of the ladies I dated I was their first circumcised partner and it never came as a negative. For some it was nothing new - my wife had seen both types and wasn’t surprised I was cut.
To sum up there is really not much to be rationally stressed about. I concede that not having a say in the matter isn’t great, but we have no say in many a matter, some instances significantly more important, like how your parents treated you, how much they invested in your early education, wellbeing, health etc. I personally don’t think I’d have lost much sleep had they decided to have me done at birth, like some in my family were.
If this still causes you great distress ultimately it might help to seek advice from a psychiatrist. No shame in that and I do hope you will feel better, as deeply worrying about matters outside of our control does us no good.
