How Do You Deal With Cirucmcision Grief?

[rocketj]

There was a time I was a little upset that I wasn't uncut but then I got over it.

 

[new2day]

I wouldn't say I have grief, just curiosity of how a foreskin would feel. I was circumcised as a boy, so I cannot recall ever having a foreskin. While I was too young to consent, I know that my parents did what they thought was best for me.

It's fairly uncommon in the UK, so I do look a little different, but that's never been an issue, never teased at school, never felt awkward around others in gym changing rooms or using communal showers.

I like how my penis looks, so I'm happy to show it off.

 

[Kaduna]

It seems that n o one has mentioned foreskin restoration in this discussion. Is that something ClearSky would be interested in?
No experience of it...but read that some are very happy with results. It would give you a chance to evaluate your penis while you do the exercises and maybe feel better about it. It is just a wonderful little organ...where cut or not!

 

[ClearSky4]

It seems that n o one has mentioned foreskin restoration in this discussion. Is that something ClearSky would be interested in?
No experience of it...but read that some are very happy with results. It would give you a chance to evaluate your penis while you do the exercises and maybe feel better about it. It is just a wonderful little organ...where cut or not!

Hi, thanks for the suggestion. Yes, I have been doing foreskin restoration everyday for a few months. While I've heard it can help alleviate the grief from being circumcised, it can also take a year or more before one even sees results. Also, I feel restoration is not the right word for it (its more like emulation) because foreskin is specialized tissue and a "restored" foreskin is not specialized tissue, but merely a flap of skin.

 

[ClearSky4]

That’s exactly what it is. The clown has an anime pic as his avatar…classic intactivist troll. The fact is that ClearSky4 is ashamed of his foreskin and is overcompensating. He should just man up and get the circumcision he wants but is too cowardly to go through with.

I am already circumcised. I was circumcised without my consent. I'm ashamed of not having a foreskin because my penis is missing an incredibly important (and erogenous) "sheath."

 

[Lance97]

I am already circumcised. I was circumcised without my consent. I'm ashamed of not having a foreskin because my penis is missing an incredibly important (and erogenous) "sheath."

People are entitled to feel however they do. Restoration might help a bit but don't expect a full recovery. Perhaps asking your parents why you were circumcised and tell them how you feel about it could give you some closure. Being told to man up is the most useless piece of advice it just makes people feel their problems aren't important.

 

[ClearSky4]

1. It can’t possibly be bad in any noticeable way sexually if you look at it from a historical perspective. We have lived in patriarchal societies for most of our existence (not something to be proud of though), and the satisfaction of men and their sexual desires was (and still is in some places) quite high on the agenda. It doesn’t make sense if the same societies had evolved to perform a procedure on their males that would have reduced their ability to enjoy sex. This is much different from FGM where often the intervention is far from the minimally invasive equivalent of removing the prepuce, and involves removing the clitoris head, hinting at men controlling women’s bodies and limiting their ability to enjoy sex. Men removing their foreskins when this may cause harm doesn’t really add up in this context.

Actually the invasieness of GM exists on a spectrum so it can range from being minimally invasive to severly invasive. The invasiveness of GM can look different depending on the person and does not always result in one type of outcome. So if circumcision removes a third of the penis, that does sound severely invasive (from a GM standpoint) does it not?

 

[Stu311]

Actually the invasieness of GM exists on a spectrum so it can range from being minimally invasive to severly invasive. The invasiveness of GM can look different depending on the person and does not always result in one type of outcome. So if circumcision removes a third of the penis, that does sound severely invasive (from a GM standpoint) does it not?

A third of the penis in what? Net area, volume? The foreskin barely registers as either.

 

[ClearSky4]

A third of the penis in what? Net area, volume? The foreskin barely registers as either.

Oops I don't know why I put a third, but I believe circumcision removes about a fifth of the penis's volume. And of course it removes the three more erogenous parts of the penis, so I think it's most invasive than people think.

 

[Stu311]

Oops I don't know why I put a third, but I believe circumcision removes about a fifth of the penis's volume. And of course it removes the three more erogenous parts of the penis, so I think it's most invasive than people think.

Care to provide sources? Otherwise it’s just waffle. I find it hard to believe a fifth of the volume is removed, especially as I saw what was removed in my case immediately post op and it looked like a fairly small amount of tissue.

 

[YIIRYBNC]

It seems that n o one has mentioned foreskin restoration in this discussion. Is that something ClearSky would be interested in?
No experience of it...but read that some are very happy with results. It would give you a chance to evaluate your penis while you do the exercises and maybe feel better about it. It is just a wonderful little organ...where cut or not!

I don’t want to gatekeep restoration because I think it should be accessible to those who want to try it and the device makers deserve the business. That being said, I don’t think ClearSky is in the right stage of dealing with their emotional state to do this right now. They’re just going to make themselves feel constantly angry and they’re more likely to injure themselves that way. They need to get to a point of acceptance with their body before they make the decision to modify it.

 

[deleted300444]

I dont think I have grief but rather just disappointed that I am not intact.

 

[Frozen Heart]

Why don't you restore your foreskin? If you don't want to change your reality or if you can't change it, move on. Accept your body the was it it a live a happy life.

I would like to be taller but I can't change it. Women are attracted by tall guys and I learned to live with it I never limited myself or thought I was inferior to anyone. I am who I am and I want to be the best men with what I've got.

Usually, people who think a lot about a foreskin already have an opinion formed on the matter that cannot be changed. Well... you didn't have a choice, but make sure your sons have this choice.

 

[matelalique]

A third of the penis in what? Net area, volume? The foreskin barely registers as either.

Volume you are correct that it barely registers. Net area - there are two sides to a foreskin, so I don't think a third of the area of exposed skin is actually a stretch. And if you include inner foreskin and moistened glans (which is unmoistened by circumcision) then the total surface area of the penis affected is probably about half. The bottom half of a circumcised penis is about the only thing that can be reasonably compared between a circumcised and an uncircumcised penis. Exposed skin keratinizes - and the exposed glans and remaining inner foreskin are not immune to this natural process. The unexposed inner foreskin and the glans it protects do not form a layer of keratin. That is an awful lot of skin on an uncut penis - you are correct that it probably isn't close to a third of the total skin area on a cut penis. It is probably over half of the skin on an uncut penis.

 

[Mcuthigh]

Never in my life have I heard such consternation over something so small as a few ounces of foreskin. The vast majority of circumcised men just get on with life. We like our cut cocks and consider it to be an improvement that we are proud of. I suspect that even if you had wads and wads of stinking foreskin, you would surely still be stewing over that as well.

 

[P51Geo1980]

I am already circumcised. I was circumcised without my consent. I'm ashamed of not having a foreskin because my penis is missing an incredibly important (and erogenous) "sheath."

sure you are, troll.

 

[ClearSky4]

Never in my life have I heard such consternation over something so small as a few ounces of foreskin. The vast majority of circumcised men just get on with life. We like our cut cocks and consider it to be an improvement that we are proud of.

I'm literally just asking how to get on with life though... because I'm having trouble seeing how a skinned penis is an improvement over a natural one.

 

[P51Geo1980]

I'm literally just asking how to get on with life though... because I'm having trouble seeing how a skinned penis is an improvement over a natural one.

So, everyone knows you’re a troll….

The way to get over it is to realize there is nothing…absolutely NOTHING you can do about it and move on with your life like an adult. I would say “healthy adult” but nothing about your trolling points to you being a healthy adult.

 

[Mcuthigh]

sure you are, troll.

Do not handle grief over my penis…Could no be any happier!.

 

[Mcuthigh]

I presume your foreskin lovers org came up with this stupid scenario and figured that there really was someone who would buy it!