How do you define bisexual and why do you use that label?

[FrankieGuile]

Frankly I would never use that label.

Labels are useful things and the OP requested definitions for one of them which demonstrates intellectual honesty and curiosity. I applaud him for that.

You might "never use that label" but that doesn't mean the label cannot be used on you or someone else; it also doesn't address the OP's request. At worst, it appears to be an attempt to virtue signal or shut down discussion which is common among people who "refuse to use labels." At best, such a refusal to use labels signals uncertainty, muddled thinking and insecurity of being.

 

[badnicky1]

Labels are useful things and the OP requested definitions for one of them which demonstrates intellectual honesty and curiosity. I applaud him for that.

You might "never use that label" but that doesn't mean the label cannot be used on you or someone else; it also doesn't address the OP's request. At worst, it appears to be an attempt to virtue signal or shut down discussion which is common among people who "refuse to use labels." At best, such a refusal to use labels signals uncertainty, muddled thinking and insecurity of being.

Yes, I should (and do) apologize, I wrote in a hurry out of enthusiasm to respond, and should have waited until I had more time.
The label bisexual describes me, but absolutely terrifies me. I feel it has the most downsides of all the available labels, and the fewest upsides. Obviously that’s all debatable, but I’ve lived a lifetime of avoiding coming out to many people as such because the risks of doing so are as bad inside the community as outside, in my view.

 

[FrankieGuile]

Labels are useful things and the OP requested definitions for one of them which demonstrates intellectual honesty and curiosity. I applaud him for that.

Yes, I should (and do) apologize, I wrote in a hurry out of enthusiasm to respond, and should have waited until I had more time.
The label bisexual describes me, but absolutely terrifies me. I feel it has the most downsides of all the available labels, and the fewest upsides. Obviously that’s all debatable, but I’ve lived a lifetime of avoiding coming out to many people as such because the risks of doing so are as bad inside the community as outside, in my view.

A life without risk is an empty life and one should not seek to avoid risk when acting and deciding authentically. Besides, the world is full of risk; it is about how we embrace it and respond to it. Fear is no justification for living a less than full life and you won't get sympathy points from many for being fearful. The best way to prove these things to yourself is to take the action you have avoided for so long no matter your excuses to the contrary.

 

[badnicky1]

A life without risk is an empty life and one should not seek to avoid risk when acting and deciding authentically. Besides, the world is full of risk; it is about how we embrace it and respond to it. Fear is no justification for living a less than full life and you won't get sympathy points from many for being fearful. The best way to prove these things to yourself is to take the action you have avoided for so long no matter your excuses to the contrary.

I think what I meant was that I perceive my gay friends to be incredibly harsh to bisexual people, usually when they don't know there's one around. They show their cards, and it's at a level beyond my capacity to accept. Call that fear or risk, I'm fine with that. But I choose not to open myself to endless criticism for being "only halfway gay."

 

[deleted19462351]

I think what I meant was that I perceive my gay friends to be incredibly harsh to bisexual people, usually when they don't know there's one around. They show their cards, and it's at a level beyond my capacity to accept. Call that fear or risk, I'm fine with that. But I choose not to open myself to endless criticism for being "only halfway gay."

Whoa, we're half way gay
Whoa oh, livin' on a prayer
Take my hand, we'll make out, I swear
Whoa oh, livin' on a prayer

 

[deleted19462351]

I think what I meant was that I perceive my gay friends to be incredibly harsh to bisexual people, usually when they don't know there's one around. They show their cards, and it's at a level beyond my capacity to accept. Call that fear or risk, I'm fine with that. But I choose not to open myself to endless criticism for being "only halfway gay."

As I fellow bi guy I'm just gonna let you know I love bi guys, they are best ❤

 

[goldscorpguy]

I've never minded being labelled, after all we do it with everyone and everything in our lives. Think of your family, friends, colleagues, even people you only momentarily interact with like shopworkers, bank tellers or the homeless. Each one you label... rich, poor, smart, dumb, attractive, ugly, the list is endless. So why not label our sexual and gender preference, whether secretly or openly.
I define my bisexuality in simple terms. I enjoy the physical act of sex with both men and women. I only form romantic feelings for women, but with men it is basic and uncomplicated fucking. If someone looks at my life and labels me heteroflexible, homoflexible or something else, that is their prerogative. But I'm more than happy with bisexual, I feel comfortable in that skin.

 

[bigboaster]

I've never minded being labelled, after all we do it with everyone and everything in our lives. Think of your family, friends, colleagues, even people you only momentarily interact with like shopworkers, bank tellers or the homeless. Each one you label... rich, poor, smart, dumb, attractive, ugly, the list is endless. So why not label our sexual and gender preference, whether secretly or openly.
I define my bisexuality in simple terms. I enjoy the physical act of sex with both men and women. I only form romantic feelings for women, but with men it is basic and uncomplicated fucking. If someone looks at my life and labels me heteroflexible, homoflexible or something else, that is their prerogative. But I'm more than happy with bisexual, I feel comfortable in that skin.

Good for you. Your shade of bisexuality is perfectly valid (and fairly common). Not sure why someone would feel the need to "re-label" you but plenty of gays absolutely hate your lifestyle (and often engage in rampant biphobia in response as well)

 

[ASK JEFF]

I feel that we should all just have one label and one label only:

Human

Pretty much sums it up…

 

[FrankieGuile]

I think what I meant was that I perceive my gay friends to be incredibly harsh to bisexual people, usually when they don't know there's one around. They show their cards, and it's at a level beyond my capacity to accept. Call that fear or risk, I'm fine with that. But I choose not to open myself to endless criticism for being "only halfway gay."

It's your own business to interact with people you find acceptable and scorn those you find objectionable. It's good to make decisive judgments of people. So, no, I don't call that fear and it certainly has nothing to do with risk.

 

[Sinful Sindy]

If your cock gets hard thinking about cock, even if you don’t seek it out, you’re probably a little bit bi

 

[curtain_swoosh]

being able to get aroused by both sexes.

 

[Anime2]

Bisexuality is pretty simple it's when a person is physically and emotionally attracted to both genders. There are some people who are more attracted to one gender more than the other though but in general they like both

 

[Anime2]

I use the label here at LPSG because it best describes me.

I've never come out as anything in the real world. My private life is nobody's business.

FACTS

 

[Anime2]

I also think we as humans have over complicated this as well. For example what a man likes in the bedroom will get labelled something he may not feel he is. Example if a straight man likes being pegged or arse play most people will ignorantly assume he is gay when that's not the case.

 

[Anime2]

Question to everyone in the thread a man that's straight literally only desires women romantically and sexually. Men dont turn him on at all but he has a desire to suck dick he just has this fantasy to suck a massive dick he doesnt care who because its not a about the guy it's about the tool. So what does that make him

 

[StrenghtenMe]

Question to everyone in the thread a man that's straight literally only desires women romantically and sexually. Men dont turn him on at all but he has a desire to suck dick he just has this fantasy to suck a massive dick he doesnt care who because its not a about the guy it's about the tool. So what does that make him

Dick fetishist?
Anyway, the point is that a lot of sexual labels don't matter in reality.
"Straight" guy who likes sex with men is literally indistinguishable from heteromantic bisexual guy- the guys who hookup with him only care that he wants to hookup with them.

 

[bigboaster]

Question to everyone in the thread a man that's straight literally only desires women romantically and sexually. Men dont turn him on at all but he has a desire to suck dick he just has this fantasy to suck a massive dick he doesnt care who because its not a about the guy it's about the tool. So what does that make him

Probably some type of dick paraphilia. There's some examples of these guys on this forum.

Some do consider this a type of bisexual, others just consider themselves straight, some say hetero-flexible. The point is "labels" are messy and even the person themselves doesn't always know how to "properly" identify necessarily. That's why I think how you choose to label yourself is just a personal choice, not an indicator of your total orientation.

 

[Anime2]

Probably some type of dick paraphilia. There's some examples of these guys on this forum.

Some do consider this a type of bisexual, others just consider themselves straight, some say hetero-flexible. The point is "labels" are messy and even the person themselves doesn't always know how to "properly" identify necessarily. That's why I think how you choose to label yourself is just a personal choice, not an indicator of your total orientation.

If I can be candid religion specifically the world of christianity has really done a number on male sexuality.

Prior to Christianity labels didnt exist mens sexuality wasn't overally analyzed like it is today. Sexual desire was just that and people lived their lives

 

[Jjsurp99]

Interesting how much this describes me. I enjoy cock but have no interest in any relationship or hugging or kissing men, I just to stroke with them and do a bit of oral. I don’t feel bi but think I am fooling myself when I don’t say I am bi

Get a dildo don't do that to men.