How do you define bisexual and why do you use that label?
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I guess if you have 2 or more dildos, they can all live happily in the drawer and not get jealous. They don't care what time you come home.
In all seriousness, no one said they did care how people identify. The posts are responses to the question originally asked, in all seriousness. Does saying, "in all seriousness" make my point more credible, like a grandfather lowering his gaze and glowering while dispensing knowledge one should never forget? But, in any event, thank you for your unnecessary virtue signaling.
I identify as bisexual because I get so horny when I see an attractive man and an attractive woman (within my personal parameters of what I consider attractive).
And likewise, I have felt "butterflies in the stomach" with both men and women, therefore "emotional" attraction.
I believe that bisexuality implies emotional, psychological, erotic and/or sexual attraction to people of both sexes. However, it is possible not to feel all these types of attraction towards both equally, I think that each bisexual person will have more of one thing than another (PS: erotic attraction is not exactly the same as sexual attraction)
Regarding the type of men you mention, who say they only like penises, it is probably a kind of paraphilia (although not in the bad sense of the word). This is probably where ambiguous concepts arise, such as "heterocuriosity", etc.
In my personal case, I only manage to feel horny with voluptuous/curvy women, and with athletic men. Those classic sculpture looks, I love it.
As for personality, I am not a big fan of "feminine", I like women who are not extremely feminine, for some reason I am not attracted to people who give me the feeling that if I touch them they are going to break, get messy, get dirty. I also think men are more fun and simple (in my experience), but I do not know if I could make totally satisfied a boy, for example I have never liked the cum. In other hand, also, women are more intimidate to me, they anatomy is more complex, etc.
Now, I had sexual experiencias with both sexs, but I never felt something impressive with them , I think I am demisexual, and I have never been in love, sadly.
in my experience, I always had long term relationships with women, but was attracted to men during those times and never acted on it, because of my monagamous relationship status. I find some women incredibly sexy and a real turn on, and likewise some men do the same to me, generally more from a physical standpoint and the dick does have an almost taboo attraction to me (because of my previous hetero relationships). Emotional attachement to men is different for me-- I can and am emotionally attached to men but it feels less 'soft' in some way, sorta less nurturing if that makes sense-- more brotherly with all the things that label suggests-- banter, humour etc.
For most of my life I've identified as gay, but then I've noticed that I sometimes feel attraction for some women too, in addition to transgender/non binary people. So that's where the bisexual label fits better for me: it is clearly not a 50/50, I have a preference for men, but I do have some fantasies for women and other genders too.
The thing is, I like how men have sex. I don't think it would be easy to find a woman who likes to have sex "like a dude", e.g. for example being on a dating app, sending nudes, discussing her sexual preferences and inviting you over. Or, for example, cruising in a sauna. That type of stuff.
The closest you get to this is when a man/woman couple looks for a third, on Grindr, to fuck them both. It's rare, I almost went for it once but then we didn't manage to meet. I hope I can try this one day. I can elaborate more on my sexual fantasies in private, if anyone is curious... Feel free to message me!
In my daily life I often say that I'm gay rather than bisexual, for "simplicity", and then I explain my bisexuality only if I become friends with someone or the topic comes up in more detail. All in all, I've never been romantically attracted to a woman. I think it's not so likely, but still possible if I find the right person.
The thing is, I like how men have sex. I don't think it would be easy to find a woman who likes to have sex "like a dude", e.g. for example being on a dating app, sending nudes, discussing her sexual preferences and inviting you over. Or, for example, cruising in a sauna. That type of stuff.
The closest you get to this is when a man/woman couple looks for a third, on Grindr, to fuck them both. It's rare, I almost went for it once but then we didn't manage to meet. I hope I can try this one day. I can elaborate more on my sexual fantasies in private, if anyone is curious... Feel free to message me!
In my daily life I often say that I'm gay rather than bisexual, for "simplicity", and then I explain my bisexuality only if I become friends with someone or the topic comes up in more detail. All in all, I've never been romantically attracted to a woman. I think it's not so likely, but still possible if I find the right person.
Bisexuality is not an absolute 50/50 for most I would wager so I only speak for myself in my definition. I classify myself as bi because I love dick, I enjoy dick and giving head, and I also love women and pussy and boobs. My dick gets hard and excited at all of the above. As such, I cannot be straight or gay as I like things in both domains. Therefore, I am bi.
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I do t like labels .. gay straight bi or whatever ..
I just see myself as a guy that enjoys sex with guys and girls .. my penis doesn’t discriminate against anything
I just see myself as a guy that enjoys sex with guys and girls .. my penis doesn’t discriminate against anything
Bully for you, but such a sexual preference does not make you morally superior just because you do not "discriminate" any more than I am morally superior because I don't discriminate among brands of gasoline I put in my car. As for labels, you may not like them, but they're here to stay because they serve a useful purpose in our language for both the label-er and the label-ee.
