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A lot of good thoughts here from a mass of experience. I'll chip in and give you my simple approach that has always worked for me.
I have many hetero male friends, and they all know I'm gay. It has made us closer. One very close to me stops in for an overnight on occasion. He's a physical trainer and beautiful, and loves to be admired, loves to get naked or nearly so. He always showers in my glass shower with the door open knowing it tortures me. He just smiles and keeps showering.
We have an absolutely stress-free beautiful friendship, as I know and acknowledge he's straight. He asks me about my relationships and updates me about his, his inner thoughts, fears and desires. Sure... I'd blow him in two half heartbeats, but I don't think he wants that. If he does, he'll be honest about it. I haven't hit him up, as it just doesn't seem appropriate so far. I totally love this guy, and he tells me he loves me too... it's friendship, real 100% frienship.
His best friend is also like that with me except getting naked, which he would have no reservations about at all. But he hugs me like my mother would, as we're 100% honest around each other always.
A third friend, another physical trainer from Ecuador is the same. He knows I'm gay, and we've discussed each others' relationships and feelings, hurt from breakups and wishes, ideals and hopes for partners. We've cried together over each other's pain when something goes bad for the other. He's beautiful... 100% straight, and the open honesty between us allows the friendship. He would love a massage from me. I'll do that at some point when I get over the paranoia issues I have, he doesn't. He's not gay, not at all.
I value these friendships, and will do nothing to ruin them, like asking for sex. If they want it at some point, they'll be honest about that. No hurt feelings, no harm done. I joke openly with them all the time. The other day the first one I mentioned sent me a dick shaped foam pattern in the bottom of his coffee cup, saying he'd obviously been hanging around me too much. I told him on speaker with his buddy there that if he wanted any deeper influence in his life than the dick shaped stain, that's always available and he knows where I live. They laughed uproariously. Great fun. They treat me like family, and I've been invited too both parents' homes where they proudly introduce me as their gay buddy. I'm friends with the parents too. Honesty goes a long way.
I have many hetero male friends, and they all know I'm gay. It has made us closer. One very close to me stops in for an overnight on occasion. He's a physical trainer and beautiful, and loves to be admired, loves to get naked or nearly so. He always showers in my glass shower with the door open knowing it tortures me. He just smiles and keeps showering.
We have an absolutely stress-free beautiful friendship, as I know and acknowledge he's straight. He asks me about my relationships and updates me about his, his inner thoughts, fears and desires. Sure... I'd blow him in two half heartbeats, but I don't think he wants that. If he does, he'll be honest about it. I haven't hit him up, as it just doesn't seem appropriate so far. I totally love this guy, and he tells me he loves me too... it's friendship, real 100% frienship.
His best friend is also like that with me except getting naked, which he would have no reservations about at all. But he hugs me like my mother would, as we're 100% honest around each other always.
A third friend, another physical trainer from Ecuador is the same. He knows I'm gay, and we've discussed each others' relationships and feelings, hurt from breakups and wishes, ideals and hopes for partners. We've cried together over each other's pain when something goes bad for the other. He's beautiful... 100% straight, and the open honesty between us allows the friendship. He would love a massage from me. I'll do that at some point when I get over the paranoia issues I have, he doesn't. He's not gay, not at all.
I value these friendships, and will do nothing to ruin them, like asking for sex. If they want it at some point, they'll be honest about that. No hurt feelings, no harm done. I joke openly with them all the time. The other day the first one I mentioned sent me a dick shaped foam pattern in the bottom of his coffee cup, saying he'd obviously been hanging around me too much. I told him on speaker with his buddy there that if he wanted any deeper influence in his life than the dick shaped stain, that's always available and he knows where I live. They laughed uproariously. Great fun. They treat me like family, and I've been invited too both parents' homes where they proudly introduce me as their gay buddy. I'm friends with the parents too. Honesty goes a long way.
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