I'm Only Interested in Straight Men, Help
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One of the things I find so attractive about straight men is that so many of them are not even aware they are attractive - they are totally authentic
true, many are convinced they are ugly and instead they are very beautiful and sexy, but girls always belittle them.
you clearly live in a bubble, you either only hang out with gay guys or mostly straight. If you ever cross over to the other side frequently you'd realize that straight men and gay men in general act very different, interpret the world differently. You can argue on here all day long but your words have no weight on those who truly experience differences and pay attention to the world they live.
one of the subtle things about straight men that they are not even aware of is the confidence when going out into the world. It's a luxury few gay men get to have unfortunately.
Sorry if this is obvious, but where are you seeing events designed for making friends in the lgbt community? I’d be super happy to go to one but haven’t really seen anything advertised.
That's a fair question. When I met my husband, things were different (it's a few years ago)
but there are a few places you can start that come to mind. As mentioned before, see if there's an LGBT Center in your area and find out what events they're having. Also, see about Pride events. Those can be a great way to meet people. And not just at Pride. See who has plans, and offer to help with preparing. That interaction can be great for meeting people.Look online. Sites like meetup.com can help. Try searching for things like "gay friends." There are opportunities out there!
I don't know what's in your area, but around here, you can go to things like Gay Men's Chorus events. I can't sing to save my life, but I can be a supporter. Same for stuff like gay rugby. I don't play, but I've met lots of guys through being a supporter.
There are lots of opportunities. Just change your approach a little.
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Very true. It is kind of like being right handed. The world is engineered with you in mind so there are a lot of things you can take for granted.
It also explains how fragile some of them are when that gets challenged. If you are other-than-straight, other-than-white, or—I will say it—other than conventionally attractive, you develop coping skills that they never had to learn.
You clearly don't know me and I'm the opposite of living in a bubble and likely know far more people than you. If you're born in 78 like your name suggests, you should know better. I'm close in age. If you too are putting all gays in a Grindr category you have a very limited view of gay men or really just think there is 1 type. You can be straight and have all the stereotypical characteristics of a gay man but just happen to be attracted to women, and vice versa. OP and you try to limit all of us to your experiences with your app gays. But I digress.. I don't usually argue with unknowns online and especially not on a porn sight. I'm happily married with a very diverse group of friends in every sense, so I'm glad I'm not having any of these problems.
The sexual preference (being gay, straight or anything else) does not define the personality of a person nor has nothing to do with gender identification.
It is a short sight and mistake (often reflecting inner unresolved issues or acceptance of one self) to categorize gay as a “type” of people. Every single individual is a person of its own. Labels will be your weakness and obstacle to fulfill yourself as a person.
Advise: embrace life to its fullest and experience more of the world, no regrets, no judgment, and meet more people.
Wish you the best and hope you find what you are looking for. Xx
It is a short sight and mistake (often reflecting inner unresolved issues or acceptance of one self) to categorize gay as a “type” of people. Every single individual is a person of its own. Labels will be your weakness and obstacle to fulfill yourself as a person.
Advise: embrace life to its fullest and experience more of the world, no regrets, no judgment, and meet more people.
Wish you the best and hope you find what you are looking for. Xx
I guess anybody can say anything on the internet, there is no real way to verify if what you say about yourself is true. It's funny when someone makes an immature comment like I have more friends than you without knowing me or anybody else on here....people only say that when they are lashing out at someone and want to seem superior. This kind of response just goes against your point about gay people and stereotypes. You say you don't live in a bubble doesn't equate to how you respond......just an observation, no need to be upset unless I hit a sore spot. Anyway you and other people seem to have a problem with people who prefer chocolate ice cream simply because you prefer strawberry. It's not saying one is better than the other , it simply a preference based on observation and experience. If your experience with the gay culture and dating etc is good than good for you, but what is weird is you try to tell everyone this through passive aggressiveness, which really makes people like me think you are trying to sell everyone on the same pyramid scheme you bought into......maybe you aren't as happy and content as you want the world to think you are.
Like many chub gay guys who feel like they are not hot enough because they don't have six packs...or guys with small dicks because people are obsessed with huge dicks they see in porn.
Straight and GBT men can be equally unaware of their attractiveness depending on their surroundings.
I have to disagree with you on that one sadly.
Unless he's masculine, or like a power lifter or respected in the bear community or something etc., many chub gay men are kinda shunned, and he loses more points, the more feminine he appears/behaves as, and even more points if he's not White.
Straight unkempt, haggard, raggedy, Peter Griffin, heavier/chubby guys on the other hand, all he has to have is a good sense of humor, be intelligent, probably know how to fix things around the house so they can save money on repairmen lol (women love straight guys like that) and be a good father should they fornicate and she gets pregnant and they have offspring etc. so yeah.
So I don't think that particular example dispells the point that a lot of Straight guys complain for no reason, and all this "incel" bullshit, when there is nothing wrong with them.
Gay men on the other hand (and I'm not even chub/overweight, but I am attracted to bigger guys. I try to keep my taste/standards open. I just happen to be Black and effeminate which is still many strikes against me in the gay/bi male dating circuit/network/community etc.) can be anxious and scared to complain for good reason; as they might not be the conventional look that guys in this community fawn after; also, they are probably at the bottom of the totem pole, as even if they wanted to integrate themselves in the market to date other guys, they would run into problems. But it's unfair, such is life.
I agree with you - I was replying to the specific assertion that " many (straight) are convinced they are ugly and instead they are very beautiful and sexy, but girls always belittle them."
Straight Acting Gay Man Who Occasionally Sleeps with Women – Not Bisexual
Hey everyone, I wanted to share something and see if others relate.
I am a gay man, but I occasionally have sex with women. For me, it is not about attraction in the way it is with men. It is just a different kind of experience, a different dynamic. I enjoy it, but it does not change how I see myself. I do not feel romantically or emotionally drawn to women, and I would not build a life with onTo me, sex and love are not the same thing. Sex can be just an experience, a connection in the moment, without redefining who I am. That is why I do not consider myself bisexual. I know bisexuality includes varying degrees of attraction, but in my case, women do not do it for me beyond the occasional physical encounter.
And honestly, everyone should be allowed to define their own identity. If a straight guy sleeps with a couple of men in a year but would never date a man, to me, he is still heterosexual. Let people decide for themselves. Labels are personal, and no one needs to fit into a rigid box.
I also think putting pressure on someone to label themselves a certain way can push them away from the gay community entirely. We have so many new spectrums of identity that have just appeared in recent years, but somehow a man cannot call himself straight even if he has had a male sexual encounter or watches gay porn? In our community right now, we are letting people identify as cats because they feel like a cat. The issue here is not about definitions, it is that some of you want him to be bisexual just so you have a shot.
Hey everyone, I wanted to share something and see if others relate.
I am a gay man, but I occasionally have sex with women. For me, it is not about attraction in the way it is with men. It is just a different kind of experience, a different dynamic. I enjoy it, but it does not change how I see myself. I do not feel romantically or emotionally drawn to women, and I would not build a life with onTo me, sex and love are not the same thing. Sex can be just an experience, a connection in the moment, without redefining who I am. That is why I do not consider myself bisexual. I know bisexuality includes varying degrees of attraction, but in my case, women do not do it for me beyond the occasional physical encounter.
And honestly, everyone should be allowed to define their own identity. If a straight guy sleeps with a couple of men in a year but would never date a man, to me, he is still heterosexual. Let people decide for themselves. Labels are personal, and no one needs to fit into a rigid box.
I also think putting pressure on someone to label themselves a certain way can push them away from the gay community entirely. We have so many new spectrums of identity that have just appeared in recent years, but somehow a man cannot call himself straight even if he has had a male sexual encounter or watches gay porn? In our community right now, we are letting people identify as cats because they feel like a cat. The issue here is not about definitions, it is that some of you want him to be bisexual just so you have a shot.
My ex GF was like that and it made me think that I too may be like that. She could fuck a girl or lick her but never be in a relationship with a girl. She wouldn’t consider herself bi. And my wife has also made out with girls but wouldn’t consider herself bi either. I think the term for straight guys is hetroflexable? However I’m with you. Everyone and everything doesn’t have to have a label, as an adult do what you like as long as it conesual ( or CNC 
) go for it. 
) go for it. 
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Look, I dont want to give you false hope but I worked with a straight man who was known as a womanizer around the office. We became really good, platonic friends. I was out to him. After about 4 years of a platonic friendship, he got curious. He said something that made me know he was thinking of exploring. So after a few days I approached him. Took an additional 2 years for me to finally convince him. He was scared that if he lended himself to the experience, it would make him gay. I assured him being open to different things in the bedroom does not mean he is gay and im not trying to make him one.
I ended up giving him one of the best blow jobs he claims to have ever received. And I was happy because I finally got a sample of what many women around office had tasted. Our second encounter took another 2 years to happen. He wanted to fuck me although he had not enjoyed anal sex with females that much. I obliged. He fucked me so hard I thought my eyes were going to pop out of my head! Sounds exciting right? But it was actually the worst fuck I ever had. He had ZERO stroke game. Just BAM BAM BAM! But he obviously enjoyed it because he would continue to pursue me after telling me about all the pussy he had lined up to be with. I avoided having any more sexual contact with him. I didnt know how to tell him he was a bad fuck without pissing him off. LOL! Plus I valued our friendship more and didnt want emotions getting involved and making things complicated, which eventually happened and would end up ruining a great friendship.
But the point of this long winded story is you may have a chance with some straight men if you are lucky but dont hold your breath and if is does happen it may not be all that you are hoping for. Even though I never had sex with my straight friend again after the anal encounter, i remained attracted to him, we stayed good friends for a few more years, mainly because he stimulated my mind more than any other man I ever met. I ended up losing him because we both let our emotions get in the way.
Even sadder ending was I knew he had a dark side. After being estranged from him for a few years, he quit, worked different jobs. He ended up sexually assaulting a 17 year old girl due to some drug and mental heakth issues he was having. He was facing serious prison sentence so he ended up taking his life. Although we had not spoken in a while I felt like I had lost my brother.
I ended up giving him one of the best blow jobs he claims to have ever received. And I was happy because I finally got a sample of what many women around office had tasted. Our second encounter took another 2 years to happen. He wanted to fuck me although he had not enjoyed anal sex with females that much. I obliged. He fucked me so hard I thought my eyes were going to pop out of my head! Sounds exciting right? But it was actually the worst fuck I ever had. He had ZERO stroke game. Just BAM BAM BAM! But he obviously enjoyed it because he would continue to pursue me after telling me about all the pussy he had lined up to be with. I avoided having any more sexual contact with him. I didnt know how to tell him he was a bad fuck without pissing him off. LOL! Plus I valued our friendship more and didnt want emotions getting involved and making things complicated, which eventually happened and would end up ruining a great friendship.
But the point of this long winded story is you may have a chance with some straight men if you are lucky but dont hold your breath and if is does happen it may not be all that you are hoping for. Even though I never had sex with my straight friend again after the anal encounter, i remained attracted to him, we stayed good friends for a few more years, mainly because he stimulated my mind more than any other man I ever met. I ended up losing him because we both let our emotions get in the way.
Even sadder ending was I knew he had a dark side. After being estranged from him for a few years, he quit, worked different jobs. He ended up sexually assaulting a 17 year old girl due to some drug and mental heakth issues he was having. He was facing serious prison sentence so he ended up taking his life. Although we had not spoken in a while I felt like I had lost my brother.
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