I'm Only Interested in Straight Men, Help

[Boaxy]

Look, I dont want to give you false hope but I worked with a straight man who was known as a womanizer around the office. We became really good, platonic friends. I was out to him. After about 4 years of a platonic friendship, he got curious. He said something that made me know he was thinking of exploring. So after a few days I approached him. Took an additional 2 years for me to finally convince him. He was scared that if he lended himself to the experience, it would make him gay. I assured him being open to different things in the bedroom does not mean he is gay and im not trying to make him one.

I ended up giving him one of the best blow jobs he claims to have ever received. And I was happy because I finally got a sample of what many women around office had tasted. Our second encounter took another 2 years to happen. He wanted to fuck me although he had not enjoyed anal sex with females that much. I obliged. He fucked me so hard I thought my eyes were going to pop out of my head! Sounds exciting right? But it was actually the worst fuck I ever had. He had ZERO stroke game. Just BAM BAM BAM! But he obviously enjoyed it because he would continue to pursue me after telling me about all the pussy he had lined up to be with. I avoided having any more sexual contact with him. I didnt know how to tell him he was a bad fuck without pissing him off. LOL! Plus I valued our friendship more and didnt want emotions getting involved and making things complicated, which eventually happened and would end up ruining a great friendship.

But the point of this long winded story is you may have a chance with some straight men if you are lucky but dont hold your breath and if is does happen it may not be all that you are hoping for. Even though I never had sex with my straight friend again after the anal encounter, i remained attracted to him, we stayed good friends for a few more years, mainly because he stimulated my mind more than any other man I ever met. I ended up losing him because we both let our emotions get in the way.

Even sadder ending was I knew he had a dark side. After being estranged from him for a few years, he quit, worked different jobs. He ended up sexually assaulting a 17 year old girl due to some drug and mental heakth issues he was having. He was facing serious prison sentence so he ended up taking his life. Although we had not spoken in a while I felt like I had lost my brother.

Interesting read. I will say that if you're lucky, you'll get over a straight crush like that. You'll end up reading/finding out something about him to even if I was a Straight girl, I don't think he would be the best mate for me etc. lol. But yeah.

But even then, to some people/gay men, it could turn them on even more, if they find out he's a bad boy, or something to ordinary people would be a turn off, like he has smelly feet, or chews tobacco, or he has really bad body odor and smells like an apocalyptic warzone lol, would probably make some guys want him even more.

But yeah. One thing that irritated me about that story, was he didn't want to mess with you because "He was scared he would turn gay.", like god forbid if he did find out he was a repressed Bisexual/Pansexual, and had to come out and label himself as that, it's the end of the world right? Smh. I swear I don't get straight guys, not one bit. So I guess being gay does suck, and all this "It's okay to be gay man, I wish I was gay like you guys, you guys hook up all the time" etc. is all bullshit and a farce right? Smh. Nice.

 

[Odyssey Land]

I doubt he is scared of homosexuals, he is just attracted to the qualities of straight men that most gay guys don't possess.

Thank you for mentioning this. To simply point out the real and present differences in Gay and Straight men causes some people to go absolutely batshit insane. I’ve often tried to point out the biological differences between Gay men & lesbian women versus heterosexuals only to be shunned or ignored. The reasons so many gay men find themselves hopelessly drawn towards specific qualities found in straight men are the same reasons hetero women find these same guys attractive. Both groups [Gay men & Str8 women] share similar sized brains along with the amygdala. It’s how nature designed it. Cruel for gay men yes, but it’s the cards we were dealt. The sooner we address the root causes for our attractions the sooner we can have honest conversations without people getting triggered.

"Qualities MOST gay guys don't possess"... it's sad the limited view you guys have. You all seem to be working in stereotypes

Sorry but what Bojamgles78 said was a fact. It might’ve been expressed in a not so eloquent way but it’s the unvarnished truth. Gay men ARE different from Str8 men. Our speech, mannerisms, fight or flight responses, interests, desires etc. Why must this be perceived as a negative when it’s the truth? I understand we now live in a world where there’s a push to eliminate differences among men, women, gays and str8s but it’s a flawed social engineering utopian dream that is destined to fail.

 

[Jjsurp99]

I love being a sex toy for straight men

 

[Lilyoftheghetto]

Thank you for mentioning this. To simply point out the real and present differences in Gay and Straight men causes some people to go absolutely batshit insane. I’ve often tried to point out the biological differences between Gay men & lesbian women versus heterosexuals only to be shunned or ignored. The reasons so many gay men find themselves hopelessly drawn towards specific qualities found in straight men are the same reasons hetero women find these same guys attractive. Both groups [Gay men & Str8 women] share similar sized brains along with the amygdala. It’s how nature designed it. Cruel for gay men yes, but it’s the cards we were dealt. The sooner we address the root causes for our attractions the sooner we can have honest conversations without people getting triggered.



Sorry but what Bojamgles78 said was a fact. It might’ve been expressed in a not so eloquent way but it’s the unvarnished truth. Gay men ARE different from Str8 men. Our speech, mannerisms, fight or flight responses, interests, desires etc. Why must this be perceived as a negative when it’s the truth? I understand we now live in a world where there’s a push to eliminate differences among men, women, gays and str8s but it’s a flawed social engineering utopian dream that is destined to fail.

I have also attempted to explain this to people over the years and most gay men seem to get very offended, even though they openly embrace all things feminine. All gay men are not exactly the same. Some do possess qualities of straight men. But I think the majority have qualities of and are wired like straight women. I always tell people I am a man who is attracted to men, notvl women. When I see a man with lots of femenine qualities then no i am not going to be attracted to that. We can be friends but thats as far as it will go.

 

[Odyssey Land]

I have also attempted to explain this to people over the years and most gay men seem to get very offended, even though they openly embrace all things feminine. All gay men are not exactly the same. Some do possess qualities of straight men. But I think the majority have qualities of and are wired like straight women.

I’ve began to accept this years ago. It has helped me accept myself along with having empathy for other gay men. There is a reason some gay men are radioactive towards each other and most of it is rooted in how we were wired. Acknowledging these traits DOES NOT mean gay men are free to lust after straight men with reckless abandon. Instead we should understand why we feel drawn towards unattainable straight men and immediately pump the brakes!

Neuroscience sources

I hope the OP gains something from this conversation that can help him navigate those feelings.

 

[ariesgeorge]

Thank you for mentioning this. To simply point out the real and present differences in Gay and Straight men causes some people to go absolutely batshit insane. I’ve often tried to point out the biological differences between Gay men & lesbian women versus heterosexuals only to be shunned or ignored. The reasons so many gay men find themselves hopelessly drawn towards specific qualities found in straight men are the same reasons hetero women find these same guys attractive. Both groups [Gay men & Str8 women] share similar sized brains along with the amygdala. It’s how nature designed it. Cruel for gay men yes, but it’s the cards we were dealt. The sooner we address the root causes for our attractions the sooner we can have honest conversations without people getting triggered.



Sorry but what Bojamgles78 said was a fact. It might’ve been expressed in a not so eloquent way but it’s the unvarnished truth. Gay men ARE different from Str8 men. Our speech, mannerisms, fight or flight responses, interests, desires etc. Why must this be perceived as a negative when it’s the truth? I understand we now live in a world where there’s a push to eliminate differences among men, women, gays and str8s but it’s a flawed social engineering utopian dream that is destined to fail.

My brain definitely isn't the same size as any woman's Also, I'm 99% of the time considered straight. I've had to tell my barber 3 times that I'm into men.

 

[Odyssey Land]

My brain definitely isn't the same size as any woman's Also, I'm 99% of the time considered straight. I've had to tell my barber 3 times that I'm into men.

lol you could be considered an outlier. Also, your immutable characteristics (or appearance) does not cancel out the science of how you were wired.

 

[Bojangles78]

My brain definitely isn't the same size as any woman's Also, I'm 99% of the time considered straight. I've had to tell my barber 3 times that I'm into men.

I bet $20 I could pick you out in a group of straight guys, my gaydar is on point.

 

[ariesgeorge]

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I bet $20 I could pick you out in a group of straight guys, my gaydar is on point.

I'd love to take part in that trial.

 

[ariesgeorge]

lol you could be considered an outlier. Also, your immutable characteristics (or appearance) does not cancel out the science of how you were wired.

I don't disagree. I just don't believe that gay men's brains have significant physiological difference to a straight man's.

 

[pingpong9]

I've recently started to realize that the only men who make my heart beat, the only men who make me feel seen and heard, are straight men.

Gay men want to fuck. I get it. We're all horny. But anymore, I can't stand getting on grindr and dealing with the bad attitudes, the expectations, and the disappointment. I hate getting on tinder or hinge, trying to talk to people and connect, and inevitably realizing that these men just don't do it for me I can't stand people being so desperate to fuck that there's no other possibility of connection.

I'm volunteering in Mexico right now, and have been since Feb 16th. In that time I've met two straight men, both shockingly beautiful outside *as well as within,* and both experiences left me feeling hollow in our community. The current guy is also a volunteer here, and what's worse is there's a vibe. And it's really, really hard to ignore. He wants to travel to the same places, he believes the same things, and he views the world similarly yet different enough from me to be absolutely fascinating to listen to when he speaks. And the problem is, I don't ever get this from other gay men..

I don't want gay men. I don't want to bother. I don't want to denigrate and degrade myself anymore for 20-45 minutes of shallow connections that will never go anywhere. And yet, thats seemingly exactly what I'm chasing. As much as I don't want to be in this place, as much as I don't want to want this man, as much as I WANT to just exist in peace and be friends with him, all I can think about when I see him is how me makes my heart beat out of my chest. He appears from his room and I smile without meaning to. I mean...I feel like I'm in high school again at 30 years old.

Guys...what do I do? How do I stop this? How do I make this go away? Like, I really need some advice here. How can I stop feeling this way? How am I supposed to meet my needs when my needs are not in alignment with 95% of the "community" that is only after dick? What are we supposed to do when the only men who can give us the connection we're seeking from partners, are men who can never and will never be our partners?

If their dicks gets hard, they are bisexuals, not straight.
Even viagra can not make your dick hard if there is no sexual attraction.
Go to therapy.
Otherwise see u in the news.Devon Hoover Detroit neurosurgeon, murder charges filed..

 

[pingpong9]

Thank you for mentioning this. To simply point out the real and present differences in Gay and Straight men causes some people to go absolutely batshit insane. I’ve often tried to point out the biological differences between Gay men & lesbian women versus heterosexuals only to be shunned or ignored. The reasons so many gay men find themselves hopelessly drawn towards specific qualities found in straight men are the same reasons hetero women find these same guys attractive. Both groups [Gay men & Str8 women] share similar sized brains along with the amygdala. It’s how nature designed it. Cruel for gay men yes, but it’s the cards we were dealt. The sooner we address the root causes for our attractions the sooner we can have honest conversations without people getting triggered.



Sorry but what Bojamgles78 said was a fact. It might’ve been expressed in a not so eloquent way but it’s the unvarnished truth. Gay men ARE different from Str8 men. Our speech, mannerisms, fight or flight responses, interests, desires etc. Why must this be perceived as a negative when it’s the truth? I understand we now live in a world where there’s a push to eliminate differences among men, women, gays and str8s but it’s a flawed social engineering utopian dream that is destined to fail.

Men's brains are bigger but women have more brain cells.

 

[ariesgeorge]

If their dicks gets hard, they are bisexuals, not straight.
Even viagra can not make your dick hard if there is no sexual attraction.
Go to therapy.
Otherwise see u in the news.Devon Hoover Detroit neurosurgeon, murder charges filed..

You're wrong. My dick can get hard by the vibration of my phone. Some people find sex itself sexy. That's not to say bisexuality doesn't exist but it's all a spectrum and not so black and white.

 

[pingpong9]

You're wrong. My dick can get hard by the vibration of my phone. Some people find sex itself sexy. That's not to say bisexuality doesn't exist but it's all a spectrum and not so black and white.

The bisexuals literally are the majority of human populations.
And the one about getting hard by anything has been proven wrong with a YouTube link about a gay man who tried several times fucking women, which he fails at even with viagra.

 

[bigboaster]

The bisexuals literally are the majority of human populations.

There is no evidence for this assertion

 

[Jjsurp99]

The bisexuals literally are the majority of human populations.
And the one about getting hard by anything has been proven wrong with a YouTube link about a gay man who tried several times fucking women, which he fails at even with viagra.

Nah he has disgusted over pussy once he gets rid of that trust he will be hard

 

[pingpong9]

Nah he has disgusted over pussy once he gets rid of that trust he will be hard

2.50 minute.

 

[BIGBULL29]

The bisexuals literally are the majority of human populations.
And the one about getting hard by anything has been proven wrong with a YouTube link about a gay man who tried several times fucking women, which he fails at even with viagra.

I agree.

I've seen a lot of straight men in the porn industry easily step into gay territory. They were aroused by the other men's penises, asses, etc. It is just so obvious at times. Does it mean that all straight men/straight-identifying porn studs are gay -- NO! Absolutely not. But a lot of straight men have a little gay/bi side, or whatever you want to call it.

Straight porn is made for straight men, right? And it's full of big dicks/big cum shots. So, a lot of straight men are liking to see big dick/big cum shots.

Being truly gay is more about romance with the same gender -- not being attracted to the same gender out of jealousy/curiosity/body part attractions (big penis, big boobs, muscles, male ass, female ass, etc.).

 

[thedudesterx69]

So basically you want to be around men who don’t want to have sex with you.

Just become friends with straight men.

 

[thedudesterx69]

It’s not that gay men are shallow and that we just want sex. If someone finds you attractive you’ll always be someone they want to have sex with.

Some straight men think all gay men want is sex so be careful.

I once had a straight guy I didn’t find attractive think I wanted sex… It was so shocking to me when he asked me if I liked him

Gay men don’t find every man attractive!