Lack of str8 sex = feeling more bi

[NorthWestStud]

I can tend to agree that unfortunately when my gf isn’t as horned up as me and down to fuck it makes me more likely to act out on my bi-curious side

 

[Mister2101]

The best part for me with sex with guys, is the absolute ease, convenience and meaningless act associated with it. With women having random sex, can occasionally have issues.

Once the sex is over with a guy, there is no need for an emotional attachment. We both go about our day or night, as if nothing has happened, aside from wanting to do it again. Thats it.

very very true for me as well.....no expectations......no stress....no drama.....no pressure.....just great physical sexual pleasure and enjoyment....

 

[Mister2101]

I am 66 y.o. I have a very loving relationship with my wife of 43 years; unfortunately she is terminally ill

I have always been 50 / 50 . Emotionally I connect with women. Since my wife and I were married I never had another hetero encounter because, physically, I connect with men. I always practiced discretion in my "gay side" of life. I have had some great experiences, mainly with other married men.

My wife is now in Long Term Care. Since I have been living on my own, I have really developed my experience with prostate massagers, butt plugs, anal beads, male masturbators, sounding ( love it ), penis plugs, cock and glans rings and lots of porn. I masturbate daily.

I will never re-partner. I don't think I could have an emotional connection with anyone as I have had with my wife. My wife and I did have a very healthy sex life.

Part of my coping mechanism is just what I have been doing for self gratification. However, I will continue to have male encounters at appropriate times.

Belonging to this group has made me appreciate what I have experienced in life. I think, to some extent, a notable percentage of men are "wired" to have both female and male sexual experiences. I think it is our culture that has made this a "taboo" subject.

The most important thing, if you are considering m/m experiences, is discretion and safety.

Well said my friend. Sorry your wife's health has become terminally ill. Thanks for sharing and Keep the faith.

 

[deleted5339781]

Yes, absolutely. As the sex at home has fallen away so the desire for cock play with another guy has gone up. It also seems to have generally increased with age. I wouldn't even have considered it in teens/early 20s.

It's comforting to know that this is not uncommon. Society has just forced us into hiding it away.

 

[dom1000]

Yes, absolutely. As the sex at home has fallen away so the desire for cock play with another guy has gone up. It also seems to have generally increased with age. I wouldn't even have considered it in teens/early 20s.

It's comforting to know that this is not uncommon. Society has just forced us into hiding it away.

That’s really interesting...what do you think sparked your curiosity in cock play as you grew older?

 

[deleted5339781]

That’s really interesting...what do you think sparked your curiosity in cock play as you grew older?

I'm really not sure. I just know that watching porn, I started to concentrate on the big cocks as much as the women! Maybe it's because I've become more open minded as I've got older and give less of a shit what people think. Also, it's more acceptable these days so perhaps I wouldn't dare consider it previously.

 

[dom1000]

I'm really not sure. I just know that watching porn, I started to concentrate on the big cocks as much as the women! Maybe it's because I've become more open minded as I've got older and give less of a shit what people think. Also, it's more acceptable these days so perhaps I wouldn't dare consider it previously.

That’s interesting. I feel like I’ve recently been meeting a lot of 20- and 30-something straight guys with girlfriends who tell me that they are curious about sex with dudes, especially dad/son fantasies.

 

[deleted5339781]

That’s interesting. I feel like I’ve recently been meeting a lot of 20- and 30-something straight guys with girlfriends who tell me that they are curious about sex with dudes, especially dad/son fantasies.

Not sure about dad/son fantasies but the curiosity in general is probably more common than we're led to believe. I also think that it's easier for guys to have physical encounters without the drama and emotions associated with sex with women. I'm still as horny as ever but I understand that this is often not the case with women as they get older. I love the emotional connection with my other half but am attracted to the idea of some purely physical fun with another guy to meet our needs.

 

[evil1796]

The lack of sex with my wife was certainly a factor in making the decision to hook up with another guy. I've had bi/gay fantasies since 12 or 13, but as a young, married father, I wasn't mature enough to embrace my sexuality honestly. And I had this notion of loyalty to my wife..so I put my desires on hold..hopeful that one day circumstances would change. Instead I spent a decade surviving on vanilla, missionary only sex! Then even that ended suddenly, and I was left with my right hand or nothing. I wanted to go online, and hookup with the first guy I met! Eventually, she made the choice to allow me to seek an affair with another man..a long story for another time..and here we are over 3 years later. She seems content, and I get to see my guy a couple times a week!

 

[Lucypinderfan]

This thread is great, I can totally relate.

I’m with a beautiful long term gf and now fiancé but our sex life hasn’t been great after having kids. Whenever we’re going through a particularly dry spell my focus turns towards men. Started with comparing, then jerking each other off, then getting a facial, then to giving a bj. I sometimes watch gay porn too

my overall thought on it (which has only been reinforced by this thread) is that it’s actually pretty normal. It’s just society that says you should be in a monogamous relationship and only be attracted to one gender.

 

[Mike hutt]

This thread is great, I can totally relate.

I’m with a beautiful long term gf and now fiancé but our sex life hasn’t been great after having kids. Whenever we’re going through a particularly dry spell my focus turns towards men. Started with comparing, then jerking each other off, then getting a facial, then to giving a bj. I sometimes watch gay porn too

my overall thought on it (which has only been reinforced by this thread) is that it’s actually pretty normal. It’s just society that says you should be in a monogamous relationship and only be attracted to one gender.

EXACTLY! If our society didn’t control us so much I think more men would be open to it. Read the history, it’s a natural thing and it should be enjoyed and not rejected just because.
Cheers!

 

[MilfBanger78]

The best part for me with sex with guys, is the absolute ease, convenience and meaningless act associated with it. With women having random sex, can occasionally have issues.

Once the sex is over with a guy, there is no need for an emotional attachment. We both go about our day or night, as if nothing has happened, aside from wanting to do it again. Thats it.

That pretty much sums it up.

I know a gay/bi couple that live in one of the rental homes I manage, they always hit on me. the masculine bi one of the pair told me he got tired of dealing with female drama so he just decided to move in with a gay dude and he can still have a female fuck buddy here or there. And they can have all the other guys over to the house whenever they want for group sex. They live a pretty laid back lifestyle lol. bbq's, drinks, 420 group sex etc.

 

[MilfBanger78]

This thread is great, I can totally relate.

my overall thought on it (which has only been reinforced by this thread) is that it’s actually pretty normal. It’s just society that says you should be in a monogamous relationship and only be attracted to one gender.

Absolutely agree. Humans are not meant to be monogamous by nature. If more women understood that, the divorce rate would be way lower, and many less broken families.

Also love Lucy Pinder

 

[Lucypinderfan]

Absolutely agree. Humans are not meant to be monogamous by nature. If more women understood that, the divorce rate would be way lower, and many less broken families.

Also love Lucy Pinder

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and this picture is why I never get confused about whether I’m going completely gay lol. So hot

 

[bi2]

and this picture is why I never get confused about whether I’m going completely gay lol. So hot

lol +1

I agree. If I could do her 90% of the time and have 10% with a guy occasionally that would be perfect.

 

[bi2]

very very true for me as well.....no expectations......no stress....no drama.....no pressure.....just great physical sexual pleasure and enjoyment....

The no expectaions and no stress or drama is so true. In my case at least, as the totally submissive bottom, Im the one who tells my male partner when Im in the mood, so its always perfect for me. I appreciate the expectations of a top, so its at most a day or two notice that the act may be delayed.

Given all my desires, energies and focus is on him cumming every single time, its a win-win for the two of us. Given I always cum, its an irrelevant issue of not being happy. Im almost always pleased.

With a woman, thats not the case really. You have to please her and make sure she is turned on and ready etc etc. There is effort required to make her cum and make her happy. Dont get me wrong, there is a lot of pleasure and excitement from that, but there is also the inherent pressure of taking her over the goal line.

 

[curious323]

I can tend to agree that unfortunately when my gf isn’t as horned up as me and down to fuck it makes me more likely to act out on my bi-curious side

If you ever want to act out on it, you could...

 

[BiteSize]

The lack of sex with my wife was certainly a factor in making the decision to hook up with another guy. I've had bi/gay fantasies since 12 or 13, but as a young, married father, I wasn't mature enough to embrace my sexuality honestly. And I had this notion of loyalty to my wife..so I put my desires on hold..hopeful that one day circumstances would change. Instead I spent a decade surviving on vanilla, missionary only sex! Then even that ended suddenly, and I was left with my right hand or nothing. I wanted to go online, and hookup with the first guy I met! Eventually, she made the choice to allow me to seek an affair with another man..a long story for another time..and here we are over 3 years later. She seems content, and I get to see my guy a couple times a week!

Lucky guy. Do your guy and your wife ever get to share you?

 

[evil1796]

Lucky guy. Do your guy and your wife ever get to share you?

Hi there, and thank you! I've been working on that for a long time, but in need of a new guy to play with..thanks Covid! Interested? Lol

 

[sissyjanine]

hey all,

When my sex is a little sparse from the wife, do you find your sexual feelings turn more bi/gay? I know mine certainly do.

Wonder if others do too.

Yep, totally me as well!