For me personally, yes. I used the Holland and Barrett supplement for a long time, and rate it very highly. My erection quality, and longevity in bed were fantastic!
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wow, from the size of your penis having a really long fuck must be totally mind blowing, done it increase the amount of cum?
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Definetely something that I have been dealing with most of my sexual life.
Early teen years masturbation was OK as I am able to have more control, start and stop, change the grip, etc
when I started having sex with guys that was for me a major concern and embarrassed me a lot, lot of social stigma around measuring the quality of you as a lover for the time that you last in penetration.
With my first long term boyfriend I use to cum quick in the first one, recover in less than 5 min and go for a longer second one and he was very similar on this so it was good.
after we broke up I was having lot of personal issues as with some hook ups (sex in a relationship is different as both know each other better and how to manage it). Sometimes I came just by the stimulation of putting on a condom. Other times just as soon as I penetrate the guy (I have been always more top than bottom).
during sometime (around 2 to 3 years) I used to wear my foreskin retracted, using a sillicobe ring to keep it back and my dick head desensitized a lot (in a good way), that make me gain lot of self trust and confidence and I used to last really good!
I was tired of the need of wearing a ring constantly (as my foreskin didnt stay back by itself) and also the ring get old so I stopped. Using a public bathroom or public shower was something that I always needed ro remember to remove the ring, putting it back, etc
My dick was back to previous sensitivity and then I started cumming in a short time again (not sure if this is real or just a psicological effect but it happened).
now I have a long term relationship and my boyfriends loves to make me cum fast as he considered it as a great reward of making me that horny in a short time that I cum this fast. It is not a problem as for him is hard to cum and usually he can only reach this point masturbating himself (obviously with my help and stimulation in other parts of his body) and also he doesnt have the need of cumming in every sexual intercourse.
For me it is a but frustrating cumming too fast and I have been working in doing kegels, that works to last a bit more but as soon as I relax I cum like a fountain (I need to keep the tension to not cum and I can only last doing it some minutes). Now I am 39 and my recover time between is longer, so I need more time than before, maybe something like 20 min to go for another round and obviously this makes the heat of the moment dissipate.
I have decided to go back to permanent foreskin retraction (for the pro-circ guys I have considered getting cut in the past, I really like a cut dick and honestly a high and tight cut looks amazing but at this moment is not my priority). So then I bought a set of sillicone rings (on ebay from South Korea, they look great and similar to the previous one that I used for years, this previous one was a japanese ring). I need to talk about this with my partner, he will be reluctant about it as he loves me to cum fast, but I will share with him (I already did it a couple of times) my thoughts about why cumming fast makes me feel frustrated.
so in my personal experience foreskin retraction on a permanent basis has played a great role, using a cock ring also works good for me, more if the cock ring has a separate ring for your balls so helps not letting them retract a lot and then that helps me in delaying the cumming. Kegels has also helped but I am not very good in keeping routines in my life but I will try to go for it again. If you like some anal play having a toy (or a dick!) in my ass while I am penetrating helps a lot in not focusing just in your dick and try to split your attention in other parts of your body.
as a last point is very helpful to see that I am not alone on this and very sad to see how society has make the best value in sex a guy that can last very long during penetration (instead of embracing the diversity that sex has)
Early teen years masturbation was OK as I am able to have more control, start and stop, change the grip, etc
when I started having sex with guys that was for me a major concern and embarrassed me a lot, lot of social stigma around measuring the quality of you as a lover for the time that you last in penetration.
With my first long term boyfriend I use to cum quick in the first one, recover in less than 5 min and go for a longer second one and he was very similar on this so it was good.
after we broke up I was having lot of personal issues as with some hook ups (sex in a relationship is different as both know each other better and how to manage it). Sometimes I came just by the stimulation of putting on a condom. Other times just as soon as I penetrate the guy (I have been always more top than bottom).
during sometime (around 2 to 3 years) I used to wear my foreskin retracted, using a sillicobe ring to keep it back and my dick head desensitized a lot (in a good way), that make me gain lot of self trust and confidence and I used to last really good!
I was tired of the need of wearing a ring constantly (as my foreskin didnt stay back by itself) and also the ring get old so I stopped. Using a public bathroom or public shower was something that I always needed ro remember to remove the ring, putting it back, etc
My dick was back to previous sensitivity and then I started cumming in a short time again (not sure if this is real or just a psicological effect but it happened).
now I have a long term relationship and my boyfriends loves to make me cum fast as he considered it as a great reward of making me that horny in a short time that I cum this fast. It is not a problem as for him is hard to cum and usually he can only reach this point masturbating himself (obviously with my help and stimulation in other parts of his body) and also he doesnt have the need of cumming in every sexual intercourse.
For me it is a but frustrating cumming too fast and I have been working in doing kegels, that works to last a bit more but as soon as I relax I cum like a fountain (I need to keep the tension to not cum and I can only last doing it some minutes). Now I am 39 and my recover time between is longer, so I need more time than before, maybe something like 20 min to go for another round and obviously this makes the heat of the moment dissipate.
I have decided to go back to permanent foreskin retraction (for the pro-circ guys I have considered getting cut in the past, I really like a cut dick and honestly a high and tight cut looks amazing but at this moment is not my priority). So then I bought a set of sillicone rings (on ebay from South Korea, they look great and similar to the previous one that I used for years, this previous one was a japanese ring). I need to talk about this with my partner, he will be reluctant about it as he loves me to cum fast, but I will share with him (I already did it a couple of times) my thoughts about why cumming fast makes me feel frustrated.
so in my personal experience foreskin retraction on a permanent basis has played a great role, using a cock ring also works good for me, more if the cock ring has a separate ring for your balls so helps not letting them retract a lot and then that helps me in delaying the cumming. Kegels has also helped but I am not very good in keeping routines in my life but I will try to go for it again. If you like some anal play having a toy (or a dick!) in my ass while I am penetrating helps a lot in not focusing just in your dick and try to split your attention in other parts of your body.
as a last point is very helpful to see that I am not alone on this and very sad to see how society has make the best value in sex a guy that can last very long during penetration (instead of embracing the diversity that sex has)
I've read really positive things about it from men trying to manage their PE. The way a clinical scientists put it really made it seem like a good medicine to me: she said something like "for men engaged in intercourse without PE, a minute or two might not seem like a lot of time, but to a man dealing with PE, a minute can feel like a lifetime during intercourse with a woman."
Even though I don't have PE, a minute still feels like a lifetime sometimes when I'm inside my wife. I get it! Any kind of delay in ejaculation, even a minute, is meaningful and important. Good luck in this!
Just to add my two cents...
I used to worry about cumming too quick all the time, especially when I was younger. And I think its always more of an issue when you're in your head about it.
I tried so many things - medications, numbing condoms and sprays and lotions, edging more when masturbating instead of just wanking to cum...
To be honest, the only thing that ended up working for me was accepting that maybe I'll cum quick and if it happens...oh well. That, and just getting more experience with guys.
Once I settled into "might happen, might not" and wasn't worrying about it, I wasn't lying there thinking "omg it feels so good don't cum don't cum don't cum" every time someone wrapped their lips around my dick, I just lie there thinking "damn this is good". If I got close, I'd cover it up by pulling them up for a kiss or something, and eventually I just got good at holding back. No need for 20 mins of kegels every day or anything lol.
I'd recommend medications etc as a very very last resort. Find someone you're comfortable with, and work with them. Get someone who won't care if you cum super quick, but will keep hooking up with you and try things together. Trust me, it'll soon become less of an anxiety consumed hook up and you'd be surprised what changes.
And if ya can't find anyone...come find me ;p I'll help you all practice! Over and over and over...
I used to worry about cumming too quick all the time, especially when I was younger. And I think its always more of an issue when you're in your head about it.
I tried so many things - medications, numbing condoms and sprays and lotions, edging more when masturbating instead of just wanking to cum...
To be honest, the only thing that ended up working for me was accepting that maybe I'll cum quick and if it happens...oh well. That, and just getting more experience with guys.
Once I settled into "might happen, might not" and wasn't worrying about it, I wasn't lying there thinking "omg it feels so good don't cum don't cum don't cum" every time someone wrapped their lips around my dick, I just lie there thinking "damn this is good". If I got close, I'd cover it up by pulling them up for a kiss or something, and eventually I just got good at holding back. No need for 20 mins of kegels every day or anything lol.
I'd recommend medications etc as a very very last resort. Find someone you're comfortable with, and work with them. Get someone who won't care if you cum super quick, but will keep hooking up with you and try things together. Trust me, it'll soon become less of an anxiety consumed hook up and you'd be surprised what changes.
And if ya can't find anyone...come find me ;p I'll help you all practice! Over and over and over...
I got a friend who swears by EFT/tapping and I know it's helped me deal with the psychological stuff behind it.
And once the psychological stuff is sorted, usually its much easier.
I've got a friend who is a counsellor and is trained in clinical EFT and I know he is happy to work with people around sex issues/body image etc.
If you want his details shoot me a message.
And once the psychological stuff is sorted, usually its much easier.
I've got a friend who is a counsellor and is trained in clinical EFT and I know he is happy to work with people around sex issues/body image etc.
If you want his details shoot me a message.
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The best advice I have received and I can give to you my brother - is this
1. Spend less time on the online portals searching for pleasure
2. Meet people in real world out there by going out for games sports or even just a run - there is a Meetup App pèsent in almost all parts of world where people swing up and meet for events
On my opinion masturbating a lot or seeing porn a lot would lead to PE or ED - I used to watch porn every day and used to masturbate many times a week - but after I deprived this easy way to satisfy myself I was better in bed with some - some real person- after all the more easily we get satisfied we expect the same scenario or conditions during real encounter but we all know real people are far far far from the porn stars anybody virtual.
Just my 2 cents !!
All the best - am sure we are all on the best way possible already in life for better peace happiness and health. Amen !
1. Spend less time on the online portals searching for pleasure
2. Meet people in real world out there by going out for games sports or even just a run - there is a Meetup App pèsent in almost all parts of world where people swing up and meet for events
On my opinion masturbating a lot or seeing porn a lot would lead to PE or ED - I used to watch porn every day and used to masturbate many times a week - but after I deprived this easy way to satisfy myself I was better in bed with some - some real person- after all the more easily we get satisfied we expect the same scenario or conditions during real encounter but we all know real people are far far far from the porn stars anybody virtual.
Just my 2 cents !!
All the best - am sure we are all on the best way possible already in life for better peace happiness and health. Amen !
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Has anyone here tried PYT Balm for PE? Supposed to be working miracles...
(Pau Yuen Tong Balm)
(Pau Yuen Tong Balm)
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I'd recommend speaking to your GP first of all, there might be a physical thing wrong with you. Personally, I'd avoid balms, herbs, supplements etc, especially if you are taking meds. It could also be psychological so be prepared to see a counsellor/therapist.
You say you top, what's your experience with bottoming? Tbh (like other commenters) I've had guys cum very quickly, in foreplay, and during sex. I never let that be an issue and sometimes it actually turned me on as long as they were still ready to go.
I have a very sensitive dick and when I was starting out I sometimes came pretty quickly. Whenever the girl saw and looked I'd just say, "The second one will be even bigger". I owned it. A cheeky pre-wank before a date helped, as did getting to know my body, and fewer puberty hormones in my body.
You say you top, what's your experience with bottoming? Tbh (like other commenters) I've had guys cum very quickly, in foreplay, and during sex. I never let that be an issue and sometimes it actually turned me on as long as they were still ready to go.
I have a very sensitive dick and when I was starting out I sometimes came pretty quickly. Whenever the girl saw and looked I'd just say, "The second one will be even bigger". I owned it. A cheeky pre-wank before a date helped, as did getting to know my body, and fewer puberty hormones in my body.
Being back on an low dose antidepressant/anxiety has helped me.
Wouldn’t recommend as first choice though!
But not noticed any side effects in terms of libido thankfully.
Am I a stamina champion no but no longer afraid of being intimate and cumming during making out etc.
Had sex the other night lasted longer then I thought, the urge to cum quick is still there but little self control helped.
Whilst I’m on it I’m going to try other strategies so when I come off them again I don’t have the same problems.
Just need a regular sex partner
Wouldn’t recommend as first choice though!
But not noticed any side effects in terms of libido thankfully.
Am I a stamina champion no but no longer afraid of being intimate and cumming during making out etc.
Had sex the other night lasted longer then I thought, the urge to cum quick is still there but little self control helped.
Whilst I’m on it I’m going to try other strategies so when I come off them again I don’t have the same problems.
Just need a regular sex partner
- MCA,
Viagra works to hold off the shot for me, and also keeps you hard afterwards sometimes. Easy to get online and relatively cheap.
I've sometimes had this either at times of high stress or if I hadn't had sex for a long time (same thing, right?). Embarrassing, disappointing, and always had an emotional source. The best way I found to re-normalize was - in addition to jerking off before sex - once fully entering your partner, spend the first 30 seconds or so holding your pelvis still and not thrusting at all, then slowly ramp it up. Taking a slow start can ward off the over-excitement issue and let both of you enjoy a long session after that.
If all else fails, ask your dr for Paxil, an SSRI. It’s easy to start, keep taking, and to stop. Maybe 40% get the side effect of delayed ejac, which is what you want!
Trying Stud 100 delay spray.
Not used it during sex but used it twice during masturbation this week, seems to be working?
Noticed that my PE is getting worse likely due to lack of consistent sex and my lack of control when masturbating giving into the first urge of PONR.
Noticed last month I all was getting urge to cum extremely quick during masturbating and since trying this spray it’s taking longer to reach.
Hopefully works during see
Not used it during sex but used it twice during masturbation this week, seems to be working?
Noticed that my PE is getting worse likely due to lack of consistent sex and my lack of control when masturbating giving into the first urge of PONR.
Noticed last month I all was getting urge to cum extremely quick during masturbating and since trying this spray it’s taking longer to reach.
Hopefully works during see
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Jerk off more. Read up on edging.
Learn your arousal levels. Set them in stages.
Know when you have to back off. And with practice you will gain control over it.
Learn your arousal levels. Set them in stages.
Know when you have to back off. And with practice you will gain control over it.
