johnjohnston
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Just appreciate this
And forget the rest.
My issue isn’t with Shawn but the way people here (and the internet in general) communicate.
Let’s be real. A large percentage of even “out” dudes still haven’t truly divested from stuff like toxic masculinity, queer insecurities, gay panic, gay resentments, internalized phobias, using sexuality or hetero dynamics as social and ego currency. A lot of “out” dudes still don’t know how to maturely deal with stuff like fluidity or questioning or contradictions or mental health struggles. And a lot of “out” dudes still have no confidence in where they are in the gender, sexual, affection, affirmation, romantic, emotion, commitment spectrum. “Coming out” or adhering to whatever identities isn’t really the cure-all people try to act like it is. While there’s likely a lot of closeted people who post here anyways.
In general, no matter their identities, where they are in the general spectrum, whether they’re closeted or not, folks needs to stop communicating with so much bitterness and insecurities.