@Fencepost
When I first saw this thread I thought you were an excruciatingly lonely old man, and that you were probably kind, generous, and gullible. I gave my opinions and advice only with the best intentions. My wish was simply that a lonely old man would find the genuine love and companionship that he craved, instead of wasting his years, efforts, and hard earned cash on something that, however you define it, is quite clearly unfulfilling. I thought that perhaps you could put the "relationship" into the same box as Schrodinger's cat, and find a meaningful relationship with someone who likes you instead of your money and whatever else is in it for them. I'm sure most people here have been someone's fool at some point in their lives; we've all been there, so I wasn't specifically calling you an idiot. As I see it in the worst case scenario it is a scam, and even in the absolute best case scenario it is a sham.
Your responses changed my views. After your outpourings of rage I now think that you want to pay women for sex and "relationships" because you are controlling, self-centred, and do not see them as human beings, and most certainly not as equals.
I overlooked a couple of things in your original post:
When I was overseas last year, I had occasion to go to Dubai about once a month. I could have had a no strings attached, very beautiful hooker each time I went. I had the money, and Lord knows I was horny enough.
When I was working in Central Asia a few years earlier, I was in bed with 18 women in my first 18 months there.
Entitled as fuck. Human beings don't do that to other human beings I'm afraid. Why are you even telling us this?
And this:
So; If you are in your 60's, and your "girlfriend" is over 20 years younger than you, then how old is her mother? Yet being called an old fart seems to rankle you.
No judgements were made about your "girlfriend's" character - you imagined all that. I think that she is doing what she has to do for herself and her family, as any human being would for the people they care about. You just have to hope that once she finally makes it to the US and builds a life for herself that she has no other aspirations in life than to look after the elderly and infirm. She might even do it I think, but I doubt that she will ever come to the US without her family - she loves them, something that you unfortunately will never understand.
It is far easier to get to anywhere in Europe from the Ukraine than it is to get to the US because there is less bureaucracy, so hopefully she is working on that angle.
I hope this helps to explain where I'm coming from.