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Why Would An Asexual Person Be On This Website?

Discussion in 'Ask an Asexual Person' started by 4097701, Mar 14, 2020.

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    I've known some people who identify as asexual and they're far from a monolithic group.

    Some asexuals have sexual thoughts, desires, feelings, etc., but don't feel the need to fulfill them by having sex with anyone.

    If you're a straight guy, then you probably don't have any desire to pursue sex with another guy. An asexual person can have a normal sex drive in the same way, but not have the desire to have sex with either gender.

    A male friend of mine figured he was asexual in his early 20s when he tried having sex and each time he just wasn't into it. Normal sex drive but just a general lack of sexual desire for other people.

    It's a complex topic and hard to put everyone in a perfect box of what they are.
     
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    @Shap
    Are we suspending ask a rules here?
     
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    In the hopes that hanging out with all you oversexed people itll rub off and we will be a bit more normal?
     
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    Some of us are just large.
    "Abnormal" sexual expression, and, abnormal penis size. It's possible to have both.
     
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    Nothing abnormal in a sexuality, as it’s noticed in an oversexed culture..
     
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    I signed up because of this forum, but I think I'm not still ready to answer this question…
     
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    Would you explain your post, please?
     
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    I'm the furthest cry from asexual that there is, nonetheless I do have two friends that openly identify as asexual, and from my experience with them, I'd just like to comment that asexual definitely does NOT necessarily mean sex-phobic or repressed or uptight in any way. One of my asexual friends is especially easy to talk to about sex and they are very hip to sex & fetish culture and even has some good dirty jokes that catch me of fguard sometimes. Asexual does not mean anti-sexual by any means. I have to admit that at first I was nervous about allowing asexuals into the abstract known as LGBTQ+, thinking it wasn't something I could relate to in anyway as a highly-libido'd homosexual male. However after my experience with these individuals I feel enlightened that asexuals can absolutely be allies, that they won't hate me for being sexual, and that they should be encouraged to identify as they are because being able to admit how you feel sexually is very important. So I'm an ally to asexuals for sure and they totally belong in this awesomely inclusive community that is LPSG.
     
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    Being asexual doesn't mean you don't identify as being gay, lesbian or anything else in the LGBTQ+ realm.
     
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    Who was it that determined this was a " sex site "
    ..seems that the thread starter is attempting to project their intention, of why others are on here.

    ......the thread starter is also questioning others to entertain their doubt of asexuality...not to genuinely ask a question to understand this gender identity.

    They can go fuck off now.
     
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    You'll have to explain that to me. I thought asexual was a sexual orientation, like homosexual. How can you identify as more than one sexual orientation?
     
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    From Websters:

    asexual noun, plural asexuals
    Many asexuals still have romantic attractions—identifying themselves as straight, gay or bisexual romantic—form committed relationships and value all the non-sexual benefits of a partnership that sexual individuals enjoy. Minus the sex.— Lori A. Brotto
     
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    Ok this helps me a lot lol, im not the only guy somewhere under ace that likes showing off for the fun of it
    For me asexual doesnt mean no libido or anything but like i have no particular need to involve others
    Like for me i enjoy showing off and looking at stuff but ive no desire to participate
     
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    Asexual covers a lot of ground. But it rarely means NON sexual. So when there are attractions or desires, the gender of the person to whom one is attracted likely defines the hetero/homo-sexual orientation. (Yes, Bi/Pan is in there)
    So as a demisexual with some romantic attachment, since I am attracted to someone of opposite gender, it’s a het situation.
     
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    I’m betting there are fetishists who do their non sexual fetishy stuff, who are not attracted to people. (They are attracted to latex, or leather, or shoes, or food...not the human)
    So there can be things that look sexual but aren’t to the participants. and either or both can be asexual and or a-romantic.
     
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    I see my self as asexual that feels attraction at times, in fact it varies, and tbh I like watching porn and masturbating(especially since it feels good to me), I also like to indulge in sex from time too and I admit I can be sex repulsed(depending on the the person or people) when talking about some sexual topics. Other than that I’m just say I’m an Ace person who fucks around from time to time.
     
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    Asexuality is a big spectrum and we're all different. For me personally, I'm ace and attracted to guys, as in I see guys I find are hot/cute all the time and get crushes a lot. Dicks do nothing for me though, neither does sex.. I'm pretty sex-averse and repulsed by the thought of actually having sex. I just have absolutely no desire for that stuff and I'd be fine living me whole life without having sex. I do have a fetish though that only pertains to guys, so it's not like I don't have a libido. I'd say I'm actually pretty horny (for an ace person at least).. I masturbate pretty much every day and post nudes online and shit. I'd label myself as homoromantic asexual although sometimes it's easier to just call myself gay even though I don't like sex. I mean, I'm basically gay minus that part lol.
     
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    I consider myself asexual. Sex just doesn't appeal to me for in a real life scenario. But I enjoy watching porn and stuff. I dont jack off much anymore though. Which had me thinking...I wonder if asexuality has a "use it or lose it" component to it too. When I was younger I was very sexually active. But as I've aged and its harder to find when you're single & older, etc. I wonder if just the lack of it reduces your libido and just naturally makes you more asexual. Just a theory. Not that some people aren't truly asexual. But maybe its an acquired thing too.
     
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    I am the same! Seriously just described me exactly.
     
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    because of the way my sexual intrests. developed. Im not intrested in women enough to form relation ships.. after having slept with them.. and a fixation for mens genitals.. Ive never thought of forming relationships.. so i have never been able to express love myself.. and pushed away the only woman that put up with my anger . My first sexual eperience [content deleted].. was forced into my mouth.. at a neighbors.. I never remember looking foward.. to seeing my father.. but enjoyed visiting my abuser.. and remember .. being sought out by him. when i wernt to visit my grandma. he was the teenaged son of the neighbors.my father is dead.. my mother denies leaving me with the inlaws neighbor.I have a 4 inch penis. and no support.. reading the conversations between hung men" .. allows my imagination.. to wander.. Im a daydreamer.. its a coping mechanism
     
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    dick shaming is real. my mother was ignorant of the fact that I had an inverted penis, and very large . non decended testicles.. mhtfr b12 deficiencys and or celiacs.. prevented coversion of androgen
     
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    For me I love fucking women and having multiple female partners at once.

    I do however identify as an A.
     
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    I am so glad I found this thread. Is there a group for aces or people on the ace spectrum?

    I am homo-leaning romantic, more homo-leaning aesthetic asexual. I had difficulty in realizing that my romantic side is not the same as sexual. At one point I thought I was aromantic but I don't think that's true. That's how I started to wonder what's going on. I thought it was my testosterone levels but they're normal (or at least not treatable).

    So, my history is one very sexual. I had sex. I tried to like it. It's ok and I can enjoy it but like the memes about aces indicate: lots of things better than sexual intercourse. That said, I'd love to experience a better way of intercourse, perhaps someone who knows what they're doing. Also, asexuals, if they have sex with someone other than self, usually don't for reasons of romance or just to get off.

    Just remember, asexuality is about sexual attraction and not behavior.
     
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    For me I don't have a problem with the idea of sex. But when I look at someone I never think "oh they have a sexy butt I just wanna..." or anything like that. I might think "Oh they must go to the gym" then again I don't really look at people lol. Can I have sex? Yes. But there has never been this spark. Last time I had sex the only things that went through my mind was "What am I gonna do after this? When does this start feeling good? Are we almost done?" Sure the initial pleasure was there, but ehhh I get better pleasure from reading or watching something funny.
     
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    We all have needs and desires that don't necessarily follow our attractions. At work this week, an instrument technician was wearing well fitted khakis. It definitely caught my attention and I did have thoughts that made me question my attraction. Still, this is not typical for me. I wonder is sexual attraction can be defined as a sexualized aesthetic attraction.
     
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