Why Would An Asexual Person Be On This Website?

[Honey badger]

Who was it that determined this was a " sex site "
..seems that the thread starter is attempting to project their intention, of why others are on here.

......the thread starter is also questioning others to entertain their doubt of asexuality...not to genuinely ask a question to understand this gender identity.

They can go fuck off now.

 

[dreambridger]

Being asexual doesn't mean you don't identify as being gay, lesbian or anything else in the LGBTQ+ realm.

You'll have to explain that to me. I thought asexual was a sexual orientation, like homosexual. How can you identify as more than one sexual orientation?

 

[deleted1025121]

From Websters:

asexual noun, plural asexuals
Many asexuals still have romantic attractions—identifying themselves as straight, gay or bisexual romantic—form committed relationships and value all the non-sexual benefits of a partnership that sexual individuals enjoy. Minus the sex.— Lori A. Brotto

 

[shawnie1]

Ok this helps me a lot lol, im not the only guy somewhere under ace that likes showing off for the fun of it
For me asexual doesnt mean no libido or anything but like i have no particular need to involve others
Like for me i enjoy showing off and looking at stuff but ive no desire to participate

 

[Scarletbegonia]

You'll have to explain that to me. I thought asexual was a sexual orientation, like homosexual. How can you identify as more than one sexual orientation?

Asexual covers a lot of ground. But it rarely means NON sexual. So when there are attractions or desires, the gender of the person to whom one is attracted likely defines the hetero/homo-sexual orientation. (Yes, Bi/Pan is in there)
So as a demisexual with some romantic attachment, since I am attracted to someone of opposite gender, it’s a het situation.

 

[Scarletbegonia]

I’m betting there are fetishists who do their non sexual fetishy stuff, who are not attracted to people. (They are attracted to latex, or leather, or shoes, or food...not the human)
So there can be things that look sexual but aren’t to the participants. and either or both can be asexual and or a-romantic.

 

[freshbussy]

I see my self as asexual that feels attraction at times, in fact it varies, and tbh I like watching porn and masturbating(especially since it feels good to me), I also like to indulge in sex from time too and I admit I can be sex repulsed(depending on the the person or people) when talking about some sexual topics. Other than that I’m just say I’m an Ace person who fucks around from time to time.

 

[bright-eyes]

Asexuality is a big spectrum and we're all different. For me personally, I'm ace and attracted to guys, as in I see guys I find are hot/cute all the time and get crushes a lot. Dicks do nothing for me though, neither does sex.. I'm pretty sex-averse and repulsed by the thought of actually having sex. I just have absolutely no desire for that stuff and I'd be fine living me whole life without having sex. I do have a fetish though that only pertains to guys, so it's not like I don't have a libido. I'd say I'm actually pretty horny (for an ace person at least).. I masturbate pretty much every day and post nudes online and shit. I'd label myself as homoromantic asexual although sometimes it's easier to just call myself gay even though I don't like sex. I mean, I'm basically gay minus that part lol.

 

[deleted1025121]

I consider myself asexual. Sex just doesn't appeal to me for in a real life scenario. But I enjoy watching porn and stuff. I dont jack off much anymore though. Which had me thinking...I wonder if asexuality has a "use it or lose it" component to it too. When I was younger I was very sexually active. But as I've aged and its harder to find when you're single & older, etc. I wonder if just the lack of it reduces your libido and just naturally makes you more asexual. Just a theory. Not that some people aren't truly asexual. But maybe its an acquired thing too.

 

[BNAjack]

Asexuality is a big spectrum and we're all different. For me personally, I'm ace and attracted to guys, as in I see guys I find are hot/cute all the time and get crushes a lot. Dicks do nothing for me though, neither does sex.. I'm pretty sex-averse and repulsed by the thought of actually having sex. I just have absolutely no desire for that stuff and I'd be fine living me whole life without having sex. I do have a fetish though that only pertains to guys, so it's not like I don't have a libido. I'd say I'm actually pretty horny (for an ace person at least).. I masturbate pretty much every day and post nudes online and shit. I'd label myself as homoromantic asexual although sometimes it's easier to just call myself gay even though I don't like sex. I mean, I'm basically gay minus that part lol.

I am the same! Seriously just described me exactly.

 

[oshirleyc]

Because they have a large penis and want support from a group

Well, someone else had the same question.
Why Would An Asexual Person Be On This Website?

because of the way my sexual intrests. developed. Im not intrested in women enough to form relation ships.. after having slept with them.. and a fixation for mens genitals.. Ive never thought of forming relationships.. so i have never been able to express love myself.. and pushed away the only woman that put up with my anger . My first sexual eperience [content deleted].. was forced into my mouth.. at a neighbors.. I never remember looking foward.. to seeing my father.. but enjoyed visiting my abuser.. and remember .. being sought out by him. when i wernt to visit my grandma. he was the teenaged son of the neighbors.my father is dead.. my mother denies leaving me with the inlaws neighbor.I have a 4 inch penis. and no support.. reading the conversations between hung men" .. allows my imagination.. to wander.. Im a daydreamer.. its a coping mechanism

 

[oshirleyc]

because of the way my sexual intrests. developed. Im not intrested in women enough to form relation ships.. after having slept with them.. and a fixation for mens genitals.. Ive never thought of forming relationships.. so i have never been able to express love myself.. and pushed away the only woman that put up with my anger . My first sexual eperience at about 4 years of age.. was forced into my mouth.. at a neighbors.. I never remember looking foward.. to seeing my father.. but enjoyed visiting my abuser.. and remember .. being sought out by him. when i wernt to visit my grandma. he was the teenaged son of the neighbors.my father is dead.. my mother denies leaving me with the inlaws neighbor.I have a 4 inch penis. and no support.. reading the conversations between hung men" .. allows my imagination.. to wander.. Im a daydreamer.. its a coping mechanism

dick shaming is real. my mother was ignorant of the fact that I had an inverted penis, and very large . non decended testicles.. mhtfr b12 deficiencys and or celiacs.. prevented coversion of androgen

 

[nhguy78]

I am so glad I found this thread. Is there a group for aces or people on the ace spectrum?

I am homo-leaning romantic, more homo-leaning aesthetic asexual. I had difficulty in realizing that my romantic side is not the same as sexual. At one point I thought I was aromantic but I don't think that's true. That's how I started to wonder what's going on. I thought it was my testosterone levels but they're normal (or at least not treatable).

So, my history is one very sexual. I had sex. I tried to like it. It's ok and I can enjoy it but like the memes about aces indicate: lots of things better than sexual intercourse. That said, I'd love to experience a better way of intercourse, perhaps someone who knows what they're doing. Also, asexuals, if they have sex with someone other than self, usually don't for reasons of romance or just to get off.

Just remember, asexuality is about sexual attraction and not behavior.

 

[TrueB2]

I am so glad I found this thread. Is there a group for aces or people on the ace spectrum?

I am homo-leaning romantic, more homo-leaning aesthetic asexual. I had difficulty in realizing that my romantic side is not the same as sexual. At one point I thought I was aromantic but I don't think that's true. That's how I started to wonder what's going on. I thought it was my testosterone levels but they're normal (or at least not treatable).

So, my history is one very sexual. I had sex. I tried to like it. It's ok and I can enjoy it but like the memes about aces indicate: lots of things better than sexual intercourse. That said, I'd love to experience a better way of intercourse, perhaps someone who knows what they're doing. Also, asexuals, if they have sex with someone other than self, usually don't for reasons of romance or just to get off.

Just remember, asexuality is about sexual attraction and not behavior.

For me I don't have a problem with the idea of sex. But when I look at someone I never think "oh they have a sexy butt I just wanna..." or anything like that. I might think "Oh they must go to the gym" then again I don't really look at people lol. Can I have sex? Yes. But there has never been this spark. Last time I had sex the only things that went through my mind was "What am I gonna do after this? When does this start feeling good? Are we almost done?" Sure the initial pleasure was there, but ehhh I get better pleasure from reading or watching something funny.

 

[nhguy78]

I see my self as asexual that feels attraction at times, in fact it varies, and tbh I like watching porn and masturbating(especially since it feels good to me), I also like to indulge in sex from time too and I admit I can be sex repulsed(depending on the the person or people) when talking about some sexual topics. Other than that I’m just say I’m an Ace person who fucks around from time to time.

We all have needs and desires that don't necessarily follow our attractions. At work this week, an instrument technician was wearing well fitted khakis. It definitely caught my attention and I did have thoughts that made me question my attraction. Still, this is not typical for me. I wonder is sexual attraction can be defined as a sexualized aesthetic attraction.

 

[ibuproben]

so if anyone wants to do a deep dive on why someone who identifies as 'ace' may be on this website,, there's a book called Ace: What Asexuality Reveals about Desire, Society, and the Meaning of Sex that was published within the last 1-2yrs which is a good primer on it all
(also likely available at your local library too)

...a light dive on this topic would probs be avenpt.tumblr.com lol

 

[885840]

Just because I don't want to have sex doesn't mean I don't enjoy watching others have sex. I get more of a thrill out of watching, I have no desire to have hardcore sex with anyone.

 

[SouthPole]

Because they have a large penis and want support from a group

Anyone with a large penis who needs support can PM me!

 

[Wirmboi]

I started here years back, because humour was not limited, and there was a few women that were nice to banter with. Also most Asexuals only know of their body and find at times a curiosity of others, being that most who are not Asexual, have a bit of extremism. Also I had some things to share most were not aware of for a man. Seems like being 1% of 8% makes me a unicorn, which some scoff at what I share. I left because my curiosity waned and the site became the same old same old.

 

[Bobby_4565]

I love this forum. Im demisexual