Do you believe in labels? I think I'm bisexual, because gay and straight don't feel right to me.

[FrankieGuile]

So if I don't agree with you it's ignorant? I wasn't ignorant to you responding yet you can't resist getting that last word in. So take the last word and we are done here.

Honest disagreement is never ignorant; however, an opinion stated as fact, and then defended ad nauseam when it is challenged for the presumptive, unsupported claim it represented, rises to the standard of ignorance at some point. Of course, it is possible it is not ignorance, per se, but just plain stubbornness. I'm not naïve: obdurance and loathing should be expected when challenging deeply-held sexual canards.

 

[curtdude]

Dude sometimes you feel like nuts sometimes es you don't

 

[FrankieGuile]

Dude sometimes you feel like nuts sometimes es you don't

Sometimes you can write a coherent, intelligent sentence, and sometimes you can't.

 

[merc41]

W

I would tell you not to worry about conforming to a label as none may be an exact description of you. I recently began thinking of myself as bisexual. Like you I have a sexual attraction to both men and women, but I'm only romantically interested in women. For me, if I'm in a relationship with a woman and my sexual needs are satisfied then I don't have a need to seek out a man, therefore, I don't feel the need to tell the woman about my bisexual side.

Well said.My feelings exactly.

 

[merc41]

I prefer to call my self a.HEDONIST.

 

[deleted4667851]

As long as everyone is voting for politicians who support same sex rights and being an ally to the lgbtq community in your town, I don’t care whether you label yourself or not.

 

[FrankieGuile]

As long as everyone is voting for politicians who support same sex rights and being an ally to the lgbtq community in your town, I don’t care whether you label yourself or not.

And if "everyone" is not, then what are you going to do?

 

[deleted4667851]

And if "everyone" is not, then what are you going to do?

Fight twice as hard for LGBTQ+ rights.

 

[deleted27864421]

I don't care much about labels. I was married to a woman for 15 years living the straight life while thinking about men all the time. I'm out and active with men now, but still find women attractive at times. It doesn't bother me to be referred to as bi-sexual, but it doesn't completely describe me either.

 

[michael_3165]

Labels aren't helpful imo. Just be you ffs! It changes over time. Own it and don't get into naming things.

 

[FrankieGuile]

Labels are very useful things. I'm suspicious of people who run away from them, wonder if those people are uncomfortable or uncommitted embracing who they are, and if they would be similarly uncomfortable and uncommitted defending whom I choose to be.

 

[JBD_Mikk]

This is a really interesting thread! (Except for the silly tangent into stats and studies - but never mind that.)

I find myself with many of the same feelings as the OP - and the term "aspirational libido" mentioned earlier really clicks with me. It's a great way to describe what I sometimes feel toward other guys, which has always been within a fairly narrow range of body types (generally similar to my own) and never with a relationship in mind.