Hey guys. 33 y/o gay guy here. Posting this to see if anyone else has difficulty meeting guys and being open about their foot kink. My sock/sneaker fetish is something that a partner needs to be cool with and into, but I think it scares some people away. Does anyone have any advice?
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Heh ... not much advice to be given I guess. If it is something people need to be cool with, there isn't much to be done other than asking if they are or not and going from there.
The very fact that some people are scared away by this is what makes it a kind/fetish. I suppose the best I would offer is that, given that meeting people is kinda difficult for most folks regardless, we should make the most of social spaces like these where people get to make it clear what they like and want. If I can talk to someone about things in a safe way and describe who I am before getting into things, it makes it easier IMO. Definitely not fun to get into things with someone only to discover after the fact that there are issues with accepting each other.
The very fact that some people are scared away by this is what makes it a kind/fetish. I suppose the best I would offer is that, given that meeting people is kinda difficult for most folks regardless, we should make the most of social spaces like these where people get to make it clear what they like and want. If I can talk to someone about things in a safe way and describe who I am before getting into things, it makes it easier IMO. Definitely not fun to get into things with someone only to discover after the fact that there are issues with accepting each other.
I went on a date with a guy and it went really well. He said he definitely wanted to see me again and we carried on flirting over text and snap. I asked for a few foot videos whenever he'd take a bath and he did send a few but they'd be covered in bubbles. He straight up refused the 3rd time I asked then just started ignoring me completely after that.
As sad as this story is, don't be scared of scaring people off. As cute as this guy was, I wouldn't have been truely happy with him in the long run. I don't get lads that are all weird and insecure about their feet and I don't really want to understand them. I probably also wouldn't have met the next guy who is into feet and is totally obsessed with me so he lets me play with his and will even gift me his smelly socks sometimes.
As sad as this story is, don't be scared of scaring people off. As cute as this guy was, I wouldn't have been truely happy with him in the long run. I don't get lads that are all weird and insecure about their feet and I don't really want to understand them. I probably also wouldn't have met the next guy who is into feet and is totally obsessed with me so he lets me play with his and will even gift me his smelly socks sometimes.
Thanks for the advice.
I try to be as open as possible, but sometimes it probably comes across as too forward. I definitely want someone to know I'm into this stuff sooner than later, but also sometimes saying to too soon could be off putting to someone might otherwise find themselves getting into it. I've found it a hard thing to gauge. I'm kind of jealous of the guys who can be open on places like twitter and OF with this kink to reach a wider audience, but with my job that's just not an option to be that public.
Does anyone know of any not so click bait websites that are popular for meeting other guys into this? Or any US based events?
I try to be as open as possible, but sometimes it probably comes across as too forward. I definitely want someone to know I'm into this stuff sooner than later, but also sometimes saying to too soon could be off putting to someone might otherwise find themselves getting into it. I've found it a hard thing to gauge. I'm kind of jealous of the guys who can be open on places like twitter and OF with this kink to reach a wider audience, but with my job that's just not an option to be that public.
Does anyone know of any not so click bait websites that are popular for meeting other guys into this? Or any US based events?
