there's a big difference between "homophobic" shit talking, as in questioning each other sexual tendencies as a mean to tease each other, and actually truelly homophobic slur directed at people who really are homosexuals.
the first is pretty much normal among guys, and doesn't stop there as often enough even our mother's sexual practice and preference come into question.
again, it's nothing but shit talking and should never, ever be taken seriously.
that being said, i hardly ever encountered truelly homophobic guys, and better yet, the very few i did were so over the top it almost seemed suspicious, if ya see what i mean.
best exemple is a guy i used to work with, an italian guy who was homophobic and transphobic AF.
at one point he split up with his wife and she had just moved.
went to his place with a few other friends,
trying to cheer him up a bit with liquid courrage, you know the deal.
at one point i had to open the floodgate and make the colossus cry, so i ask to go to the bathroom, while washing my hands i notice a sh*tload of beauty product, creams for every moment of the day, peeling and what not... don't think any of my gf had that much stuff but hey, whatever.
i go back downstair and ask him why his wife left all that stuff behind, and that's when he told me that no no, all that stuff was his ... :x
i'm not saying guys shouldn't take care of themselve, but when you got more grooming products than not only your gf/wife, but an instagram model when you're like 25yo and a dude, and at the same time over the top homophobic ... call me paranoid but i think he wasn't telling us the whole story lol