How Do You Deal With Cirucmcision Grief?
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Every topic about it is the same. The person just wants to find other people to complain about how they are crippled because of their circumcision.
Any personnal experience or scientific opinion on the matter is biased. They have an image of a perfect uncircumcised cock that can't be replaced.
Any personnal experience or scientific opinion on the matter is biased. They have an image of a perfect uncircumcised cock that can't be replaced.
Studies about circumcision are like weather forecasts; if you keep looking eventually you'll find one which tells you what you want to hear.
For guys who are cut at birth, whatever they choose to believe about it is a matter of faith more than anything. So long as you've never experienced the other side, and have nothing to compare it to, you'll never really know. Maybe it's worse and you're just blissfully ignorant about it, maybe there's no real difference, maybe it's better and you're mistakenly putting foreskin on a pedestal. You can't even rely on anecdotal evidence of men cut as adults, who have experienced both, because you'll still get the full range of opinions. Some who like it more, some who like it less, and some who find it mostly the same.
I do have a lot of sympathy for men who are upset with being cut though. It must be so frustrating not knowing, and feeling like a part of you was taken and can never be gotten back. I find that cut men who refuse to even hear those arguments or complaints are the opposite side of that same coin though. Deep down there's a part of them that shares that same lingering doubt, but it's their faith in there being nothing wrong with being cut that shields them from having to confront those feelings, but that faith is fragile so they have to defend it strongly.
All I would say to OP is that because it is ultimately a matter of choice how you look at it and feel about it, at some point you're going to have to choose what you want your feelings on the matter to be going forward. Right now you have the idea in your mind that being circumcised is worse. Who's to say if that's right or not? Thinking that way is clearly making you miserable though, miserable about something that cannot be changed. Every time you read a study, or talk to someone who supports that view, you reinforce it in your mind, and prolong your misery. No one here could ever say anything that would change your mind on the subject, so long as you are in that mindset you'll always have a counter point. At some point you have to make that decision yourself to see things the other way. That's not to say it's going to be easy because it's going to be almost like reversing your whole belief system, and the idea isn't that you sit there and feel like you're lying to yourself. If you're going to be happy though you have to try to work through and let go of your feelings of grief, accept yourself and your body, and - whilst acknowledging that you'll never really know one way or the other - choose to put your faith in the idea that it's at least no worse to be circumcised, or that any differences are negligible.
Statistically there are 1 billion circumcised men in the world today and the majority are content with it. Their secret is that they're mostly indifferent about it. That's the place you want to aim for.
For guys who are cut at birth, whatever they choose to believe about it is a matter of faith more than anything. So long as you've never experienced the other side, and have nothing to compare it to, you'll never really know. Maybe it's worse and you're just blissfully ignorant about it, maybe there's no real difference, maybe it's better and you're mistakenly putting foreskin on a pedestal. You can't even rely on anecdotal evidence of men cut as adults, who have experienced both, because you'll still get the full range of opinions. Some who like it more, some who like it less, and some who find it mostly the same.
I do have a lot of sympathy for men who are upset with being cut though. It must be so frustrating not knowing, and feeling like a part of you was taken and can never be gotten back. I find that cut men who refuse to even hear those arguments or complaints are the opposite side of that same coin though. Deep down there's a part of them that shares that same lingering doubt, but it's their faith in there being nothing wrong with being cut that shields them from having to confront those feelings, but that faith is fragile so they have to defend it strongly.
All I would say to OP is that because it is ultimately a matter of choice how you look at it and feel about it, at some point you're going to have to choose what you want your feelings on the matter to be going forward. Right now you have the idea in your mind that being circumcised is worse. Who's to say if that's right or not? Thinking that way is clearly making you miserable though, miserable about something that cannot be changed. Every time you read a study, or talk to someone who supports that view, you reinforce it in your mind, and prolong your misery. No one here could ever say anything that would change your mind on the subject, so long as you are in that mindset you'll always have a counter point. At some point you have to make that decision yourself to see things the other way. That's not to say it's going to be easy because it's going to be almost like reversing your whole belief system, and the idea isn't that you sit there and feel like you're lying to yourself. If you're going to be happy though you have to try to work through and let go of your feelings of grief, accept yourself and your body, and - whilst acknowledging that you'll never really know one way or the other - choose to put your faith in the idea that it's at least no worse to be circumcised, or that any differences are negligible.
Statistically there are 1 billion circumcised men in the world today and the majority are content with it. Their secret is that they're mostly indifferent about it. That's the place you want to aim for.
I would prefer not to have been circumcised. I was circumcised. That's how it is. I am fine with it. My wife prefers it, so that's good.
If there was anything to blame my folks for regarding their decision, neither of us can do anything about it now, and I am long over it.
For those that regret it, I can only say that in my case, as a man over 50, my penis now looks like and is mostly indistinguishable from, an uncut penis.
If there was anything to blame my folks for regarding their decision, neither of us can do anything about it now, and I am long over it.
For those that regret it, I can only say that in my case, as a man over 50, my penis now looks like and is mostly indistinguishable from, an uncut penis.
OP must be grateful that you wrote this. I've said the same arguments to other circumcised men, but it all comes down to them. Many choose to remain miserable. After a while, it becomes very toxic to share these ideas with some people.
I used to feel anger and grief over being circumcised, but while I was in college I found an organization called Foregen that is working to apply modern medical research towards development of a procedure to reverse circumcision. Even just the knowledge of a group trying to give people like you and me a path back to intact gave me a lot of peace.
I've recently become established enough to donate some money to them on a regular basis; perhaps contributing to their efforts would help you as well?
I've recently become established enough to donate some money to them on a regular basis; perhaps contributing to their efforts would help you as well?
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Wow….this Dude is intent on using as much capacity as he can by going on and on about his poor relationship with his PeePee and his even worse ability to relate to the PeePee’s owners. I suppose he will have to pump up his courage (if there be one), get up close and personal with as many cut cocks as he can, hold each cock as if it were a Mr. Microphone and tell them of your PeePee grief. Once you have whined to approximately 2,000 handsome cut cocks, I honestly think that you will write to us about how trim you feel and that you and your Cut Bros are the hit at your local nude beach. I will see you there. I will be glad to show you how beautiful the RICDIK is when compared with the sutured adult version. Good grief……look at the time. Gotta surf the internet to see who else among us loves your SPAM. I hear it smells a bit like smogma.
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I'm circumcised and have been my whole life. Love the way mine looks and love showing it. Although I had no choice I have no regrets.
I'm over 60, married 40 years and never had problem with being cut. I don't have regrets or blame my parents for being cut.
Aw why would you say I'm a troll? Just because I wonder what people will think of me when they see my surgically altered genitals? Why is that an irrational question? Am I just supposed to instinctly know that people won't care (which isn't always true)?
Foreskin restoration doesn't actually involve restoring the foreskin. There is not way to restore the foreskin once it's been amputated.
And I'm sure its easy to accept traits that you're born with, but circumcised men are actually not born that way (and they can see that when they look at their genitals), so it's harder to accept.
How can you so that??? It isn't hard at all to accept. I don't even think about me being cut. I'm normal...for me.. When I look at my cut dick... I don't see a scare. I see a dick. Not every guy has a issue with being cut.
Not!!! For me... For me I never give a thought. My Dad was cut and so am I. Nothing else to see. At 61 I know I'm cut and so be it.... a Dick!!! Is still a Dick!!! Don't know anything different. Was cut as a baby and I was still cut when I became a men. Again, no difference. Growing up, not one guy said to me... you have no foreskin and how do you live your life without it.? we were all cut. Again no difference.
I hadn't see that comment before. OK. Now I am almost sure he is a troll.
"They'll see my scarred genitals and be disgusted by me."
That is a troll comment. I never even read of a person disgusted by a cut dick. That thought is a call for attention.
