Simply my opinion. I could say you are lying to yourself. You believe different, all good.
Yet, your opinion runs counter to volumes of data. I could be of the opinion that unicorns roam the earth but holding that opinion does not make it so.
I agree with your comments, apart from the final rider 'never will have....' I'm 60 plus now, but if I was able to have a conversation with my 20 or even 30 year old self, happily married, young family, and he would tell me there was no way such a desire was on his mind or ever would be. Then along comes "life" and here I am today, all desires explored!
Whereas I'm happy with your epiphany, leaving open the possibility in the definition of "straight" means that there can be nothing considered "straight" which implies such men can never exist as long as the possibility exists which means a denial of such men. Such denials amount to an eraser of all such identifications which would be considered very problematic in other contexts. Do you see the logical problem of taking your personal experience and scaling it to all men?
Nobody here has denied that there are straight men. If you would like to read my original comment again, I said I believed that the number of people who are 100% straight or gay is probably actually less than people who fall somewhere in the middle, but society forces people to feel they have to identify a certain way, most often, straight. Never said that there were no straight men at all, nor did the poster you are replying to here, they simply gave their experience as an example.
Good. Then I presume you concede that the data shows 95% of U.S. males consider themselves straight when that definition included attraction only to women. Your claim that "society forces people to feel they have to identify a certain way, most often, straight" is a presumption not backed by data but by your own beliefs and hopeful bias. So, it is, in fact, a denial of straight men identifying as straight, implying that they are lying due to societal pressure. The more pertinent question is why you cannot believe men with regard to their sexual identification?
I don't have a "hopeful bias" for anything. Doesn't affect me one way of the other how other people identity. As I have told you, several times, it's simply an opinion.
Opinions not backed by anything substantive are not credible. Holding an opinion does not necessarily authenticate or justify one's beliefs, feelings, conduct, ethics or morality. Your misunderstanding of the value of an opinion is the nerve you touched.
I don't think its an age thing, I think it"s a more of a come to realize what they tell to do to reach orgasm would be much simpler if we did what seems natural .
Still more of this nonsense. The data is easy to access. For example, U.S. Census Bureau Survey -- 4.4% of adults age 18 and over identified as bisexual. "Psychology Today" article -- 1.4% of men identified as bisexual. There is no evidence to support your unfounded contention that "tons of guys will still identify as straight even if they are not ashamed of jerking off to gay porn or hooking up with guys..." That is just wishful thinking on your part.
One thing to consider is fantasy and reality. The horny brain, and the normal brain when not horny.
I mean, his coworkers could be just ugly (that happens to me, I don't find any attractive) or he could just have a thing for a particular guy but never admit it and take it to the grave (also I can relate)
So you're saying that all men are actually homosexual no matter how they identify, no matter the way they live, and no matter their actual sexual preferences, all because they might fantasize the way you hope they fantasize? I guess by that standard, when I fantasize about being a MVP basketball player winning the NBA finals it is real.
I don't think you're far off the mark. Example: Some straight living men jerk off into their hand watching gay porn. But if they wait more than a split second... They won't eat it. The desire melts away in an instant. I used to be this way when my sexual urges changes evolving. And I agree, even at my gym, I can only see a few men in a week that I'd think I'd have sex with. But I see the ladies and think there are at least 10 on any given day. But porn...? I include a lot of male porn.
The way I think about it is instead of looking at it as attraction to male/female - think of it as feminine/masculine instead.
Boiled down to its essence, it is exactly what you're saying and the essence of it doesn't smell good. Thanks for confirming my suspicion.Yeah that is exactly what I said...
