I saw a straight guy I know on gay Tinder… Thoughts?

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From what you’re describing, I agree: it sounds like he’s scared. All signs point to him being conflicted about his desire for guys.

Hopefully he gets past that soon, both for his sake as well as yours. The fact that he took you on a date is a good sign, but I’m also not gonna sugarcoat the fact that he may just not be ready. Everybody’s got to figure this out at their own speed….
Thanks. It’s been very stressful and upsetting for me, as nobody ever seems to like me. The one time it seems somebody finally does, and they seemingly take it back.
Time will tell I guess.
 

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One advise, if he's barely getting in touch with his sexuality, I would be very careful with my emotions. He's still relatively young and once he does, he will go through that phase most gays go through.. the hoe phase. It's clear that he is not interested in any sort of romantic or long term relationship yet as opposed to someone in their mid 30s who are now looking for someone to actually settle down with. I just hope you won't get your feelings hurt if he decides to go fucking around with other guys once he's comfortable with his sexuality. Best of luck though.
 

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One advise, if he's barely getting in touch with his sexuality, I would be very careful with my emotions. He's still relatively young and once he does, he will go through that phase most gays go through.. the hoe phase. It's clear that he is not interested in any sort of romantic or long term relationship yet as opposed to someone in their mid 30s who are now looking for someone to actually settle down with. I just hope you won't get your feelings hurt if he decides to go fucking around with other guys once he's comfortable with his sexuality. Best of luck though.
100 % agree with you. Thank you for the advice.
 
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Not sure if anyone remembers this situation I was in a few years back. After hooking up we still hung out but he withdrew. Well it’s been years and while we still hang out occasionally, I find it awkward as he acts like nothing ever happened between us.
Anyway last week we caught up for dinner and he was going on about a bunch of celebrity females being hot, and I just wasn’t in the mood. I eventually went home and sent him a spontaneous audio message on the drive saying I still liked him, but also that fwb was always on the table because we all get lonely.
Anyway tonight randomly he messages me saying: “I’ve been thinking about fwb, and I’m okay with that, as long as you’re okay with it being no strings attached.”
Naturally I’m like “yeah” because I’m fucking horny and lonely as hell, and I felt like maybe he was too which is why I suggested it.
Anyway what should I expect? I’ve never done fwb before. Isn’t no strings attached the same as fwb? What are the technicalities behind them?
Help!