Male Bisexuality Acceptance

[WilliamG]

Most bi guys do it during their marriage with women and wonder why women don't trust bi men

I've hooked up with both gay and straight (bi) men in relationships. I think the OP of this thread had no idea it was going to turn into a judgment thread. As I said before, if you're going into a relationship knowing you are bi and "hope" it will just go away... You will be disappointed with your choice. Much like the couple on the fritz that decide to have a baby because "that will bring us closer together".

Now for those of us that were straight for decades then found a bisexual attraction much later in life (yes that is actually how many of us got here), the water gets very murky. So tired of reading the "you had suppressed bisexual tendencies that came out later" is just plain hogwash for my situation.

 

[Jjsurp99]

I've hooked up with both gay and straight (bi) men in relationships. I think the OP of this thread had no idea it was going to turn into a judgment thread. As I said before, if you're going into a relationship knowing you are bi and "hope" it will just go away... You will be disappointed with your choice. Much like the couple on the fritz that decide to have a baby because "that will bring us closer together".

Now for those of us that were straight for decades then found a bisexual attraction much later in life (yes that is actually how many of us got here), the water gets very murky. So tired of reading the "you had suppressed bisexual tendencies that came out later" is just plain hogwash for my situation.

Many people don't have problems and understand about coming out later. The problem is when your married and your fooling around without your wife or your gay partner knowing this. That's where the problem is and many bis don't understand this

 

[WilliamG]

Many people don't have problems and understand about coming out later. The problem is when your married and your fooling around without your wife or your gay partner knowing this. That's where the problem is and many bis don't understand this

We/I understand this completely. It would be so much easier for us to just tell our wives/partners then contact our respective lawyers and call it the end of a chapter. That would be the correct answer. But it's not that simple.

 

[Jjsurp99]

We/I understand this completely. It would be so much easier for us to just tell our wives/partners then contact our respective lawyers and call it the end of a chapter. That would be the correct answer. But it's not that simple.

It is simple don't cheat. Don't do anything to jeopardize your . marriage assure your partner you'll be faithful and you have no desire to do anything outside the marriage/relationship. If they don't accept it then you did everything you can

 

[WilliamG]

It is simple don't cheat. Don't do anything to jeopardize your . marriage assure your partner you'll be faithful and you have no desire to do anything outside the marriage/relationship. If they don't accept it then you did everything you can

You have the 98% correct answer (100% if you post this in the Ask A Woman section). But I stand by my answer as well. At some point lawyers will be involved for those of us that have "changed".

 

[daftman]

I've hooked up with both gay and straight (bi) men in relationships. I think the OP of this thread had no idea it was going to turn into a judgment thread. As I said before, if you're going into a relationship knowing you are bi and "hope" it will just go away... You will be disappointed with your choice. Much like the couple on the fritz that decide to have a baby because "that will bring us closer together".

Now for those of us that were straight for decades then found a bisexual attraction much later in life (yes that is actually how many of us got here), the water gets very murky. So tired of reading the "you had suppressed bisexual tendencies that came out later" is just plain hogwash for my situation.

Agreed

 

[jthomasmpls]

Most bi guys do it during their marriage with women and wonder why women don't trust bi men

Can you define what "most bi guys" means? Where does that state come from?

In my experience most, maybe even all, of the women I know have not been cheated on by there bisexual partners but are afraid, more afraid, a bisexual man will cheat on them than man will cheat on them with another women because bisexual men have more options. Their fears where based on their insecurities and judgments not fact or experiences. Which leads to many bi men not disclosing their bisexuality to their male or female partners. The fear of rejection is very real for bisexual men, rejection from both men and women, gay and straight. This leads to lower quality of life and health outcomes for bisexual men. That's sad.

 

[bi2]

I have a feeling you do want him

I love the physical carnal aspect of the sex we have with each other, but have no desire to be with him whatsover. I get my emotional/intimate fulfillment being with women. Thats not to also mention the huge age gap between of us several decades, literally a huge generational gap. Its a non issue for us only because we are with each other for the MM sex only.

 

[Jjsurp99]

Can you define what "most bi guys" means? Where does that state come from?

In my experience most, maybe even all, of the women I know have not been cheated on by there bisexual partners but are afraid, more afraid, a bisexual man will cheat on them than man will cheat on them with another women because bisexual men have more options. Their fears where based on their insecurities and judgments not fact or experiences. Which leads to many bi men not disclosing their bisexuality to their male or female partners. The fear of rejection is very real for bisexual men, rejection from both men and women, gay and straight. This leads to lower quality of life and health outcomes for bisexual men. That's sad.

There's plenty of gay men who been used by bi guys

Can you define what "most bi guys" means? Where does that state come from?

In my experience most, maybe even all, of the women I know have not been cheated on by there bisexual partners but are afraid, more afraid, a bisexual man will cheat on them than man will cheat on them with another women because bisexual men have more options. Their fears where based on their insecurities and judgments not fact or experiences. Which leads to many bi men not disclosing their bisexuality to their male or female partners. The fear of rejection is very real for bisexual men, rejection from both men and women, gay and straight. This leads to lower quality of life and health outcomes for bisexual men. That's sad.

When I say most I mean straight leaning bisexuals who are married

 

[Alex57]

Can you define what "most bi guys" means? Where does that state come from?

In my experience most, maybe even all, of the women I know have not been cheated on by there bisexual partners but are afraid, more afraid, a bisexual man will cheat on them than man will cheat on them with another women because bisexual men have more options. Their fears where based on their insecurities and judgments not fact or experiences. Which leads to many bi men not disclosing their bisexuality to their male or female partners. The fear of rejection is very real for bisexual men, rejection from both men and women, gay and straight. This leads to lower quality of life and health outcomes for bisexual men. That's sad.

None of these stereotypes about bi-men came out of nowhere. Go blame all the bi men including those on this thread who perpetuate these stereotypes. Bi-men don't usually take accountability for their actions. Most live deceptive lives. Their biggest deception is not identifying as bisexual. Hence, why they aren't trusted.

 

[Alex57]

No you shouldn't either for good reasons

He's acting like most gay men defend closeted gay men who marry women. He's always looking for an excuse to justify bi men deceptive behaviours.

 

[WilliamG]

Folks... Can we please follow the rules about replying in a "Ask A xxx" sections. This place is for Bi folks to respond.

 

[Alex57]

Folks... Can we please follow the rules about replying in a "Ask A xxx" sections. This place is for Bi folks to respond.

Take your own advice and tell your fellow bi men to stop invading gay spaces and speaking for and over gay men. Practice what you preach.

 

[jthomasmpls]

None of these stereotypes about bi-men came out of nowhere. Go blame all the bi men including those on this thread who perpetuate these stereotypes. Bi-men don't usually take accountability for their actions. Most live deceptive lives. Their biggest deception is not identifying as bisexual. Hence, why they aren't trusted.

You & I have different experiences with bisexual men. Bigotry towards bisexual men is very real. Now imagine saying "none of these stereotypes came out of nowhere" about any other group of people.

 

[jthomasmpls]

It is simple don't cheat. Don't do anything to jeopardize your . marriage assure your partner you'll be faithful and you have no desire to do anything outside the marriage/relationship. If they don't accept it then you did everything you can

Almost everyone has desire "outside the marriage/relationship" Not everyone, straight, gay or bisexual acts on those desires.

 

[Alex57]

You & I have different experiences with bisexual men. Bigotry towards bisexual men is very real. Now imagine saying "none of these stereotypes came out of nowhere" about any other group of people.

Stereotypes exist for a reason. It's further cemented when it's perpetuated by members of the group as the norm and other members of the group coddle the bad behaviours.

If bi men want to stop the stereotypes they need to start holding each other accountable for these behaviours. That's how groups reduce are eliminate stereotypes. By holding their bad apples accountable, not enabling them.

 

[jthomasmpls]

I think it would be really great if bisexual men could share their experiences with male bisexual acceptance without judgment. Agian, this thread is an example of why bisexual men don't feel safe to come out and live their lives freely.

 

[jthomasmpls]

Stereotypes exist for a reason. It's further cemented when it's perpetuated by members of the group as the norm and other members of the group coddle the bad behaviours.

If bi men want to stop the stereotypes they need to start holding each other accountable for these behaviours. That's how groups reduce are eliminate stereotypes. By holding their bad apples accountable, not enabling them.

Do you think that about any other group of people? For example; age, ancestry, color, disability, ethnicity, gender, gender identity or expression, genetic information, HIV/AIDS status, military status, national origin, pregnancy, race, religion, sex, sexual orientation, or veteran status. Any of those? Others?

 

[Alex57]

Do you think that about any other group of people? For example; age, ancestry, color, disability, ethnicity, gender, gender identity or expression, genetic information, HIV/AIDS status, military status, national origin, pregnancy, race, religion, sex, sexual orientation, or veteran status. Any of those? Others?

We are talking about negative stereotypes. Behaviour that negatively affects others based on one's own doing without consideration for others who it impacts. Therefore, if your religion practices evil and preaches hate and members don't speak out against it, that stereotype exists for a reason. Members of your religion are complicit in the evils it practices.

 

[jthomasmpls]

Do you think that about any other group of people? For example; age, ancestry, color, disability, ethnicity, gender, gender identity or expression, genetic information, HIV/AIDS status, military status, national origin, pregnancy, race, religion, sex, sexual orientation, or veteran status. Any of those? Others?

We are talking about negative stereotypes. Behaviour that negatively affects others based on one's own doing without consideration for others who it impacts. Therefore, if your religion practices evil and preaches hate and members don't speak out against it, that stereotype exists for a reason. Members of your religion are complicit in the evils it practices.

Your bias is showing. There are negative stereotypes of every class I listed, that's why they are federally protected classes. We are not, you are talking about negative stereotypes of selected classes, bisexual men and now religion. And it seems you implying I have a religious orientation, I am not sure why. Is there a religion that explicitly supports and embraces bisexual men?