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Regarding Christian traditions and origins of marriage, I have a few observations. I haven't organized them into a unified theory yet, but I'll lay out some of my thoughts for comment.From antiquity religion played no part in marriages . . . .
- In the sacred writings of the Hebrews and Christians, the concept of marriage as a life partnership between a man and a woman goes all the way back to the creation story (Gen 2:18 et seq). The subsequent narrative seems to imply that procreation is part of this partnership, but not the main purpose.
- The concept of "becoming one flesh" in marriage (Gen 2:18 et al) appears at other places in Hebrew and Christian scriptures. Superficially we understand it as sexual intercourse, and so it is. But there seems to be a subtle, deeper, implication as well. I think "become one flesh" means more than intercourse, because English-language Bible translations use other terms for sexual relations - such as "lay with", possibly a basic sexual coupling, like we'd say "fuck" (Jacob "lay with" Leah, Gen 30:16) - and "know", a more intimate communication involving minds and emotions as well as bodies, like we'd say "make love" ("Adam knew Eve his wife", Gen 4:1). It's like"become one flesh" means that two people create a third personality through their marriage. The marriage between the "me" and the "you" creates a "we".
- I haven't found a place in the Laws given through Moses (Exodus, Leviticus, and Deuteronomy) where a religious sacrifice or ceremony is specified in conjunction with marriage. To be sure, there are a few limitations placed on marriages that are not permitted (between close kin, Lev 18:6 et seq) but the religious authorities generally don't have a say in creating or recognizing a marriage. From various accounts of marriage formation I get the impression that it was a matter between families - perhaps with, but sometimes without, the couple's active participation. Then the families threw a big party, where the community - not the religious establishment - acknowledged and approved the marriage. After this is when the government and religious establishment became involved in enforcing things like duties and obligations of each person, property rights, etc.