feeling really envious of other guys w/ bigger dicks

[ddgggg]

Stop being a crybaby and do penis enlargement for gains

I already said I’m doing pumping…

 

[ddgggg]

We're talking in circles my dude. You can't see how this is the literal problem. Why hide parts of yourself?

Because I look awful. I have gynecomastia. I'm 5'9". I'm not super muscular/lean right now. My body's disproportionate. My facial structure is suboptimal.

We all see and like you as a person.

Can't see all of me

You claim you like and see the value in others who arent the top 1% as well.

You however choose one person above all the rest. One person who has special needs. One person who you judge and value differently. You treat that one person with disgust and dislike. You dont like that person. You refuse to value that person until they have the same values and looks as the top 1%. You claim that person cant bring value to another because someone else exists that has a higher value. You think that person is worthless because they are "worth less" than others.

Can you not see how that situation, it seems like you put such a high importance and centeredness on that one person? Treating them differently and being so mean to them. Being totally unfair on that person?

And then that person cries out: "I'm feeling so bad about myself. I feel worthless! I wish I had worth like those other people!" When that one person gets their value from you. And you refuse to give them any value because they don't look a certain way yet. You think being tough and mean will motivate them for greatness. But you aren't being fair. You need to give them value along the way.

I'll admit, when you put it like this, it does seem really insightful, and an interesting way of looking at things. At the same time, it just feels wrong to not think negatively of myself. I haven't exactly really done anything to be necessarily worthy of compassion of myself. But I have done things and been a way that would make me unworthy.

We all feel envy. And as @blkcocktail above said, we as black men unfortunately are valued for our dick size unfairly. It affects us all on some level. How much we let it affects us is our choice.

I appreciate you introducing this point, but I do feel like it's not as simple as choosing to not let it affect you though. I would technically be considered lacking in comparison to the BBC stereotype (at least the guys in porn anyway). And at the very least, there's like a systemic issue going on with the fetishization and marginalization of Black people in various say (such as the size thing).

 

[Cum_is_Great]

I'll admit, when you put it like this, it does seem really insightful, and an interesting way of looking at things. At the same time, it just feels wrong to not think negatively of myself. I haven't exactly really done anything to be necessarily worthy of compassion of myself. But I have done things and been a way that would make me unworthy.

Truly I am glad you can see my point of view! Sorry if my words come across as harsh. I can get passionate about things, especially when I feel like I can relate or literally was in the same shoes at one time. I genuinely want you to feel better about yourself my dude.

We have all done things we may feel ashamed of in the past but the thing about compassion is that it can still be applied and shown to everyone. There is no special way a person must be or act to be worthy of compassion. Trust me, I know how it feels to always feel negative about oneself. I am still stuggling with it. But slowly and surely over time, it will get better.

I appreciate you introducing this point, but I do feel like it's not as simple as choosing to not let it affect you though. I would technically be considered lacking in comparison to the BBC stereotype (at least the guys in porn anyway). And at the very least, there's like a systemic issue going on with the fetishization and marginalization of Black people in various say (such as the size thing).

Let me be honest here: I always hated hearing that we can choose to let things affect us. Hated it a lot. I still get a feeling of frustration hearing and typing it because there is nuance to it. But the fact is, there is a small amount of truth to it. But it is NOT as easy as said done. I can't even fully explain how. It's a mindset thing but also affected by any past traumas or upbringing.

Though trust me dude, it took me a while to realize it myself and I know my saying it here isnt going to convince you right now but, looking at your pics and hearing your stats, you absolutely would befitting of the "BBC stereotype".

Listen, we may have butt heads and I apologize if I made you feel uncomfortable or bad or upset. You remind me of my best friend when he was younger. And I see myself in you as well. I'd like to be friends, genuinely. Send me a PM if you woukd like. No pressure and no worries if you would like to pass.

If there's one thing I want you to take away from this though, is that you are 100% currently worthy of compassion, love and empathy. And spending time with people who show you them will help. Your current self may not be your own type, but plenty of others definitely like you as you are, I promise.

 

[ddgggg]

Try observing character and not physical features. Perhaps you are too visually stimulated by the male form to look beyond it. But beyond it is where you'll find masculinity -- or not.

I see your point, but it's both character and physical features that dictate the masculinity of these people/characters you mention. I heavily doubt they would've picked a skinny short guy with not-so-masculine features to portray these characters in these movies you speak of.

 

[ddgggg]

Any comparison regarding being enough or not is very subjective. If you start chasing external validation for being enough, you’ll always be on the chase. Exhausting and dangerous chase to be on.

The subjectivity seems to line up quite strongly. Like look at the dick comparisons on here, Reddit, and Twitter. Look at the way people compare physiques on Instagram, TikTok, and Reddit. Plus, couldn't it be the case where with enough external validation, I could derive internal validation. Hence how most men say to hit the gym to feel more confident (despite mileage very much varying).

 

[FrankieGuile]

I see your point, but it's both character and physical features that dictate the masculinity of these people/characters you mention. I heavily doubt they would've picked a skinny short guy with not-so-masculine features to portray these characters in these movies you speak of.

Alan Ladd was 5'6". Humphrey Bogart was hardly considered handsome. Jimmy Stewart was certainly not buff. I could go on but you would remain intractably tedious in your belief that masculinity is about the physical form. The longer you hang on to that wrongheaded notion, the longer you delay your own masculine development.

 

[FrankieGuile]

I don't really know how wanting to be like other people means I'm narcissistic lack empty/compassion for other people. It just means I want to be like those other people. I'm not really understand with what you made that connection...

At the very least, "wanting to be like other people" certainly isn't masculine, which is the topic of the thread.

 

[ddgggg]

At the very least, "wanting to be like other people" certainly isn't masculine, which is the topic of the thread.

If I were to be like the people I want to be like, then I wouldn't want to be like them anymore since I would already be like them...

And to be fair, the topic also was dick size

 

[ddgggg]

Alan Ladd was 5'6". Humphrey Bogart was hardly considered handsome. Jimmy Stewart was certainly not buff. I could go on but you would remain intractably tedious in your belief that masculinity is about the physical form. The longer you hang on to that wrongheaded notion, the longer you delay your own masculine development.

I feel like it's both physical form and character though, sometime more so the former than the latter (Keanu Reeves, Henry Cavill, Chris Hemsworth, Chris Evans, again, Clint Walker, etc.)

 

[FrankieGuile]

I feel like it's both physical form and character though, sometime more so the former than the latter (Keanu Reeves, Henry Cavill, Chris Hemsworth, Chris Evans, again, Clint Walker, etc.)

You can "feel" anyway you wish but your feelings don't make it reality. It's character. Talk to some women.

 

[ddgggg]

You can "feel" anyway you wish but your feelings don't make it reality. It's character. Talk to some women.

My feeling do happen to align with reality though. I mean...have you seen the posts on sites like this one? Also, I'm not really attractive enough to talk to women like that at the moment

 

[Evenflow618]

My feeling do happen to align with reality though. I mean...have you seen the posts on sites like this one? Also, I'm not really attractive enough to talk to women like that at the moment

Yes you are stop telling yourself this

 

[ddgggg]

Yes you are stop telling yourself this

Bro. I'm only 5'9", have gynecomastia, I'm not lean/muscular, my dick's <8" inches and small flaccid, my balls are small, my facial features aren't the greatest...

 

[Evenflow618]

Bro. I'm only 5'9", have gynecomastia, I'm not lean/muscular, my dick's <8" inches and small flaccid, my balls are small, my facial features aren't the greatest...

you are still attractive use your MIND

 

[ddgggg]

you are still attractive use your MIND

How? I'm literally nothing compared to many other people here. There are dudes that check off most (if not all) of the boxes when it comes to having a lot more money than me, having a bigger dick, being more muscular, having better genetics/insertions, not having gyno, actually being in a relationship, actually not being a virgin, I could go on..

 

[Cum_is_Great]

How? I'm literally nothing compared to many other people here. There are dudes that check off most (if not all) of the boxes when it comes to having a lot more money than me, having a bigger dick, being more muscular, having better genetics/insertions, not having gyno, actually being in a relationship, actually not being a virgin, I could go on..

Oof, I really didnt think you thought that way about me like that

Say its different all you want but the only thing I see is someone who judges those who are similar to you/having the same attributes or even less than you as nothing.

I guess I see why you didnt want to be friends

 

[ddgggg]

Oof, I really didnt think you thought that way about me like that

Say its different all you want but the only thing I see is someone who judges those who are similar to you/having the same attributes or even less than you as nothing.

I guess I see why you didnt want to be friends

I don't not want to be friends - I didn't know if it would be awkward or not since I don't know how old you are. And believe me, I don't think about other people like that - that's just how I think of myself based on the standards I solely apply to myself.

 

[Cum_is_Great]

I don't not want to be friends - I didn't know if it would be awkward or not since I don't know how old you are. And believe me, I don't think about other people like that - that's just how I think of myself based on the standards I solely apply to myself.

But you said it out loud. How else can I know it's not how you really think of me? I literally check off each of those you just listed and have even more problems and worse and you think you are literally nothing. How can I be anything in your eyes? You're just trying to be nice I assume and truly think I am nothing.

 

[ddgggg]

But you said it out loud. How else can I know it's not how you really think of me? I literally check off each of those you just listed and have even more problems and worse and you think you are literally nothing. How can I be anything in your eyes? You're just trying to be nice I assume and truly think I am nothing.

Seriously, if I were to actually think you're nothing, then it wouldn't be without thinking I'm nothing too.

 

[Cum_is_Great]

Seriously, if I were to actually think you're nothing, then it wouldn't be without thinking I'm nothing too.

I mean sure, you may think you are nothing but I cannot see how I can be worth anything If I am worse than you in every way, just as you feel you are nothing because you are worse than other men in every way. Its literally the exact same logic/thought. It's impossoble for you to think I am anything. Which kinda hurts as I thought we were making progress and meeting halfway. Now I see you wouldn't give me the time of day if we met elsewhere