How do you define bisexual and why do you use that label?

[bigboaster]

It seems to be a spectrum of types" of bisexuals that post in this section but sometimes it does get confusing to see so many replies from guys who "don't like anything on a man except the cock". I find it odd to hear self-identified bisexuals describe their attractions this way. This strikes me more as some type of cock fetish or paraphilia as opposed to sexual attraction to men?

How are some of you actually defining the word, and based on that why opt for that label instead of straight or heteroflexible perhaps? I'm curious. I have heard of "straight" guys who would essentially describe similar feelings but wouldn't identify as bisexual.

 

[17398591]

Depends on age. If you grew up before all the pronouns & prefixed hyphenated labels, Bi meant two , both . Bi meant having sex with both male and female sexes.
Since you described it as a spectrum using current terminology to describe gender & another made up label heteroflexible, sound like you enjoy the modern, hip terminology

 

[Triplexintx]

Depends on age. If you grew up before all the pronouns & prefixed hyphenated labels, Bi meant two , both . Bi meant having sex with both male and female sexes.
Since you described it as a spectrum using current terminology to describe gender & another made up label heteroflexible, sound like you enjoy the modern, hip terminology

The problem with labels is that they seldom fit 100%. I guess I would define myself as Bi, but in my situation, I have no romantic interest in men, just sexual. I grew up in the 80s & 90s when being called gay was the worst thing someone could call you. Have the times changed enough that young men today have no reaction to being recognized as Bi?

 

[17398591]

Yes times have changed. More labels also create more niches

 

[bigboaster]

Depends on age. If you grew up before all the pronouns & prefixed hyphenated labels, Bi meant two , both . Bi meant having sex with both male and female sexes.
Since you described it as a spectrum using current terminology to describe gender & another made up label heteroflexible, sound like you enjoy the modern, hip terminology

Bi still means two depending on who you ask. Not sure that's "changed" really. A lot of new terminology are just synonyms for already existing identities. Hetero flexible is just bi... under a new name but it might be more suitable for guys who lean towards women with little romantic interest in men. Maybe they think that's more "accurate" than bi.

 

[bigboaster]

The problem with labels is that they seldom fit 100%. I guess I would define myself as Bi, but in my situation, I have no romantic interest in men, just sexual. I grew up in the 80s & 90s when being called gay was the worst thing someone could call you. Have the times changed enough that young men today have no reaction to being recognized as Bi?

Right. These new terms essentially exist to help be more specific where old terms might feel too broad.

 

[bigboaster]

and what exactly is so funny @Uncle_Bob69 ?

 

[17398591]

and what exactly is so funny @Uncle_Bob69 ?

I was thinking about changing connotations of words like gay , bi, and how being specific matters

 

[littleguy2]

Bi still means two depending on who you ask. Not sure that's "changed" really. A lot of new terminology are just synonyms for already existing identities. Hetero flexible is just bi... under a new name but it might be more suitable for guys who lean towards women with little romantic interest in men. Maybe they think that's more "accurate" than bi.

Interesting how much this describes me. I enjoy cock but have no interest in any relationship or hugging or kissing men, I just to stroke with them and do a bit of oral. I don’t feel bi but think I am fooling myself when I don’t say I am bi

 

[deleted19462351]

Don't care much about labels these days but I use it, cause, ever since I can remember had crushes on both boys and girls, been turned on and had sex with both too and specially cause I have been in love with women and some men.

 

[halcyondays]

I use the label here at LPSG because it best describes me.

I've never come out as anything in the real world. My private life is nobody's business.

 

[bigboaster]

I use the label here at LPSG because it best describes me.

I've never come out as anything in the real world. My private life is nobody's business.

I agree

 

[StrenghtenMe]

You are bisexual if you are turned on by the thought of sex with both men and women/enjoy sex with men and women/ have sexual fantasies etc.

I use such explicit terms instead of "sexually attracted" because a lot of bisexual men try to distance themselves from their "gay side" by sayin things like
"I am not attracted to men I just love gay sex"
"Having same sex fantasies doesn't mean you are bi" etc.etc.

Fine, identify as straight all you want but you are literally indistinguishable from a guy who have exacly the same desires and id as bisexual... which proves how useless are those labels.

 

[deleted19462351]

You are bisexual if you are turned on by the thought of sex with both men and women/enjoy sex with men and women/ have sexual fantasies etc.

I use such explicit terms instead of "sexually attracted" because a lot of bisexual men try to distance themselves from their "gay side" by sayin things like
"I am not attracted to men I just love gay sex"
"Having same sex fantasies doesn't mean you are bi" etc.etc.

Fine, identify as straight all you want but you are literally indistinguishable from a guy who have exacly the same desires and id as bisexual... which proves how useless are those labels.

As someone who has never found any value or worth to the "straight" label, I don't understand that either.

 

[jthomasmpls]

I like Robyn Ochs' definition of Bisexuality:

"I call myself bisexual because I acknowledge that I have in myself the potential to be attracted – romantically and/or sexually – to people of more than one gender, not necessarily at the same time, not necessarily in the same way, and not necessarily to the same degree.”

 

[dickthrobbing]

I use the term bisexual because I have sexual intercourse with both men and women

 

[daftman]

You are bisexual if you are turned on by the thought of sex with both men and women/enjoy sex with men and women/ have sexual fantasies etc.

I use such explicit terms instead of "sexually attracted" because a lot of bisexual men try to distance themselves from their "gay side" by sayin things like
"I am not attracted to men I just love gay sex"
"Having same sex fantasies doesn't mean you are bi" etc.etc.

Fine, identify as straight all you want but you are literally indistinguishable from a guy who have exacly the same desires and id as bisexual... which proves how useless are those labels.

good points, I appreciate the sentiment, and share it....my wife and I are both sensual, physical and sexual, and bi. (Not active but would be for sure.) For me, or her as well, the idea of an attractive guy, or couple or woman, that we were attracted to, well, let's go! I love women the most, but would bend over in a minute for a man....

 

[WilliamG]

Bisexual. Maybe not the same as "bi-romantical".
Lots of us "bi" guys love women for everything they are. But men only for the sex... Not the romance or emotional ties. Simple.

 

[FrankieGuile]

It seems to be a spectrum of types" of bisexuals that post in this section but sometimes it does get confusing to see so many replies from guys who "don't like anything on a man except the cock". I find it odd to hear self-identified bisexuals describe their attractions this way. This strikes me more as some type of cock fetish or paraphilia as opposed to sexual attraction to men?

How are some of you actually defining the word, and based on that why opt for that label instead of straight or heteroflexible perhaps? I'm curious. I have heard of "straight" guys who would essentially describe similar feelings but wouldn't identify as bisexual.

...defining the word to describe a male who is sexually aroused by and attracted to other males (no matter specific to one aspect of a man or generalized) and sexually aroused by and attracted to other females (no matter specific to one aspect of a woman or generalized). In my definition, no distinction between "bisexual" and "heteroflexible" exists. Creating a new word for the same thing does not say anything differently. In my definition, "straight" men describing sexual arousal and attraction to another man would be bisexual because their behavior defines who they are no matter how they identify. Their behavior counter to their identification does not change my definition. A duck quacks and waddles even though it might claim to be an elephant.

 

[badnicky1]

It seems to be a spectrum of types" of bisexuals that post in this section but sometimes it does get confusing to see so many replies from guys who "don't like anything on a man except the cock". I find it odd to hear self-identified bisexuals describe their attractions this way. This strikes me more as some type of cock fetish or paraphilia as opposed to sexual attraction to men?

How are some of you actually defining the word, and based on that why opt for that label instead of straight or heteroflexible perhaps? I'm curious. I have heard of "straight" guys who would essentially describe similar feelings but wouldn't identify as bisexual.

Frankly I would never use that label.