Is my friend straight or am i just delusional

[mondieu1]

So the first thing is my friend from my class that we sit together for almost a year now is straight, had girlfriends, kinda buffy, is into football, cars, fishing etc. and i am known as bisexual in the whole school, we sit together as i said and sometimes in class or breaks i lay on him and sometimes he does, now thats normal but sometimes he rests his arms on my chest and his chin on my head, and generally we are acting too close with eachother and sometimes other friends asks us if we are dating or not which he always laughs off(never said no) and i laugh too,

one time i was late to class from the lunch break and he asked me where have ive been because he didnt see me at the lunch (i was having lunch at my friends house) and i replied “its non of your business and he kinda got annoyed and asked again and i said how does this even concern you anyways and he said “are you gonna tell me or are you gonna sit with someone else” and i told him where i was and he said “okay let me know next time”(which is weird because he never cares about who does something or not)

and this other time we were sm0king cigs in the bathroom(dont ask we live in a dorm) and 3 other friend just barged into the room at the exact moment we got out of the bathroom, and said “i knew you guys were secretly kissing and stuff” and again he replied with just laughing and nothing else

i have lots of moments like this which i feel like hes being protective or jealous towards me
so the question is -> is my friend straight or am i just delusional

 

[RobertHunter30]

I don't envy you at all ... I have been in similar and even stranger circumstances with two of my "straight" friends. To this day I still have no idea based on our interactions. If you enjoy what is going on, go with it. You never know what is in someone else's mind. Just know that at the end of the day, depending on your developing feelings for him, you could get hurt. If you know that and are ok with it, stop thinking so much about it and keep having fun.

 

[dreamer20]

straight friend/classmate ~ 1year, into football, cars, fishing etc. I'm bisexual. We sat together. Sometimes I lay on him or he does. We act too close with each other. When friends asked if we're dating, we laughed (but never said no). Once I was late to class and he asked why. I replied “none of your business". He got annoyed & stated “tell me or you gonna sit with someone else”. I told him and he said “okay let me know next time”.
Another time we had smoked in the dorm bathroom. 3 friends came in, as we left, and said “Knew you guys secretly kissed and stuff” and he just laughed. I've had many moments in which I felt him being protective or jealous towards me - so is my friend straight or am I delusional?

Mondieu, I shall refer to your friend as Clive. I don't view the close relationship you share with Clive as an act - but a real close Platonic relationship. Stop obsessing over his sexuality like the students with nothing better to do than engage in idle gossip and speculation. Let him know you treasure his friendship and continue to be affectionate, close friends - nothing more than that.

 

[Manuel Samuel]

seem like just best friend behaviour to me

 

[ani4detal]

take it from an older man - the feelings you and he have are all new. Jealousy included. Don't confuse that with sexuality. The big thing to do is ask him. You may risk everything by doing that. He may not want to admit anything to himself, let alone you. Been here a couple of times. Ask, but be prepared not to hear what you want.

 

[levi101]

You may be living in a dorm but your behavior as reported in the second paragraph of your opening comments would be more descriptive of someone younger.

If this is someone you would like to have an adult relationship (gay or straight) there would have been a thousand ways to answer the guys question that would have left him interested and more involved with who you are.

 

[nj6443]

I think he’s straight. All this stuff is characteristic of a guy that’s really comfortable with his sexuality and masculinity. He sounds like a great friend, honestly.

If he ever does something that makes you uncomfortable, like you start to get a boner or something, be like “whoa whoa hey you gotta take me to dinner first pal!” and make it funny while also establishing boundaries.

In my experience the giveaway is usually questions about sex specifically. Asking intimate questions about your sex life or what sex with guys is like usually indicates sexual curiosity. But as long as he’s just concerned about your well-being, it’s innocent

As you both grow older and have your intimacy/touch needs eventually taken care of by long term relationships, his behavior will likely change and he won’t be as touchy with you - but his concern for you as a friend could last a lifetime from the depth of the bond you’ve described!

 

[Daution]

the difference between gays who hook up with str8 guys and gays who dont is mindset. why are u concerned with a label? ur not gonna be his boyfriend, he is not gonna marry u. u can suck his dick n be his buddy. friends with benefits at most or u can just be friends. but if u insist on him identifying as gay, n want him to come out and do the whole bit, that aint happening. of course anything is possible but u r focused on the wrong things, str8 guys see gays as a buddy who'll get them off n u have to jokingly let them know, ull do it n it wont make them gay.

 

[Steve_Flint]

I must have great "Gaydar" because I have come on to 9 men in my life and have never been turned down. Now all were friends of several years so I had the chance to observe them, especially while drinking and watching porn. Watch straight porn with him and do some drinking. Notice if he pays attention to the men and their dicks on the video. Also, notice if he has a hard-on or a wet spot on his pants from pre-cum. Most straight men won't get excited like that in front of another man unless they are interested.

 

[My name is Yum Yum gimme some]

So the first thing is my friend from my class that we sit together for almost a year now is straight, had girlfriends, kinda buffy, is into football, cars, fishing etc. and i am known as bisexual in the whole school, we sit together as i said and sometimes in class or breaks i lay on him and sometimes he does, now thats normal but sometimes he rests his arms on my chest and his chin on my head, and generally we are acting too close with eachother and sometimes other friends asks us if we are dating or not which he always laughs off(never said no) and i laugh too,

one time i was late to class from the lunch break and he asked me where have ive been because he didnt see me at the lunch (i was having lunch at my friends house) and i replied “its non of your business and he kinda got annoyed and asked again and i said how does this even concern you anyways and he said “are you gonna tell me or are you gonna sit with someone else” and i told him where i was and he said “okay let me know next time”(which is weird because he never cares about who does something or not)

and this other time we were sm0king cigs in the bathroom(dont ask we live in a dorm) and 3 other friend just barged into the room at the exact moment we got out of the bathroom, and said “i knew you guys were secretly kissing and stuff” and again he replied with just laughing and nothing else

i have lots of moments like this which i feel like hes being protective or jealous towards me
so the question is -> is my friend straight or am i just delusional

Hope you don't mind my asking: how old are you?
The dorm you live in ... is that college or boarding school?

 

[Manuel Samuel]

I must have great "Gaydar" because I have come on to 9 men in my life and have never been turned down. Now all were friends of several years so I had the chance to observe them, especially while drinking and watching porn. Watch straight porn with him and do some drinking. Notice if he pays attention to the men and their dicks on the video. Also, notice if he has a hard-on or a wet spot on his pants from pre-cum. Most straight men won't get excited like that in front of another man unless they are interested.

cool insight, Imma keep that in mind

 

[grandstand1]

I agree with the others basically... He is just very comfortable in his sexuality and is a confident person. That's a huge compliment to you and you should take it as such. Also the interest in your lunch activities is just touching... He really was worried... That kind of friendship is valuable... Straight people can mess around and tease each other and not be serious. Most guys would love to have this kind of friendship...So just treasure it and treat him well. I have had friends that were very touchy feely and that is the ultimate compliment. Good luck.

 

[boc]

I think he’s straight. All this stuff is characteristic of a guy that’s really comfortable with his sexuality and masculinity. He sounds like a great friend, honestly.

If he ever does something that makes you uncomfortable, like you start to get a boner or something, be like “whoa whoa hey you gotta take me to dinner first pal!” and make it funny while also establishing boundaries.

In my experience the giveaway is usually questions about sex specifically. Asking intimate questions about your sex life or what sex with guys is like usually indicates sexual curiosity. But as long as he’s just concerned about your well-being, it’s innocent

As you both grow older and have your intimacy/touch needs eventually taken care of by long term relationships, his behavior will likely change and he won’t be as touchy with you - but his concern for you as a friend could last a lifetime from the depth of the bond you’ve described!

Jealousy or missing someone is not confined to romantic relationships.